Okay so I went out if my way to read all the text, tweets, ect that people have posted on this shit and found one interesting thing about this shitshow: Nyanners is the only one who explicitly claims Nux was asked not to post the video before it went live. Zen mentions it in a Second hand way but says she herself asked after it was posted for it's removal. Ironmouse, Hime, And Froot an state they asked for the video to be removed. Melody's post implies they had some sort of agreement with Nux but he didn't follow through.
My best guess? Melody was the only member that knew the video was coming out in advance, and the other girls got pissed. Nyanners was the first and only person to explicitly say they didnt want the video and I think she was under the impression that Gunrun, melody and the cyber security guy said they weren't totally cool with it and that's how Nyanners came to "multiple people told him not to upload it". From there the Rest of this shitshow unfurled because nux didn't remove the video within 36 hours of being asked, as Froot's DMs indicate.
TLDR: Nux made assumptions and wasnt right, Vshojo's management wasn't firm enough in telling him no, and Nyanners leaped to conclusions based on the fact she found out there was a call before the video release because she's Menhara as fuck. Thank you for reading my Autistic detective novel.