/vt/ - Virtual Youtubers

>>41661093
>there's probably thousands are girls just like her there
This logic always falls for two reasons:
1) It doesn't take the issues of the viewer into account.
2) It doesn't take into account that the person being crushed on is in some ways special.

A lot of what makes people fall into parasocial relationships is their own issues. Maybe they can't actually support a real relationship economically or emotionally. Maybe they're a shut-in. Maybe they don't want a real relationship. You can't simply assume that it's simply a checklist; that's not how people work. One of the hardest things in any kind of relationship is determining whether your judgement of someone else is due to that person or due yourself.

Segwaying from that, it's also not true that you can "just" find someone like that. Not only will they not be the same, they will also have baggage of their own kind; it's not like it's going to signify any kind of effort, in some ways it might mean more pain than just withering away without ever getting anything, and that pain might be precisely the kind of thing the person with the crush might want to avoid. It's not like you can just fish a perfect person from the ocean. You already have memories attached to this particular person too. More importantly, being considered special and being recognized is the area of a personality's work. It's really stupid to say they're just like anybody else. That's the last thing THEY want to hear.

>>40908823
It's only true in the most basic of ways. It doesn't get to the bottom of things of why people get into parasocial relationships in the first place. Saying that kind of thing helps no one. You're not saying anything anybody doesn't know already.

>>2489923
It's big spoilers, because her character doesn't come full circle until the second season like 40 episodes in, but here we go.

Monogatari is a series about people being menhera, essentially. Nadeko is originally introduced as a childhood classmate of the main character's little sister (pic related) in the first season, someone who has something of a childish crush for him, but not much else. She contacts him as he can help her with a curse that someone in their class gave her, and he does. Later on in the second season there's another arc of her dealing with this same curse, but by the end of it's revealed that the snake spirit she's been talking to during this arc was a complete fabrication. Nadeko completely snaps after the main characters sister cuts her hair, not letting her keep her face hidden while she looks down on the teacher who forced the role of class prez on her (same class that cursed her), and tells her entire class to fuck off because they're a bunch of two faced asshole who keep grudges and never come out with it until they hurt each other. Then as a result of going mental, she becomes a snake goddess through means we don't need to get into, and murder the main character (he's a semi-immortal half-vampire) over and over every time he comes to help her. Nadeko resolves to kill the main character by the end of the year as it would be the "romantic" thing to do. As a result, the main character's girlfriend contacts the man who'd given her class the curse originally (who they both have some history with and who's the best character in the series for reason I won't go into, but which make him similar to Nadeko) to help them. He does, and he discovers that Nadeko doesn't love the main character at all. She's actually just using her being in love with her as an excuse to not live her real dream. Nadeko has actually been in a vicious circle her whole life, at school and at home, where she pretends to be cute and helpless so others would just leave her be, and it's consumed her psyche entirely. By the end of it, she can be honest with herself and others, stop pining for the main character completely (unlike the rest of the cast) and go chase her dream.