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How do I overcome my extreme and debilitating social anxiety?

>> No.9867445

>>9867441
Tbh, I got over it by accepting that whatever horrible shit I think is going to happen has already transpired. Acceptance of the worst case scenario is key

>> No.9867446

Short-Term:
>Take a jog and drink a cup of coffee in the morning.
>Do 7 days on NoFap, aka the Friday Fap or Power Fap.
Training:
>Insert yourself into situations and positions where you deal with a lot of random people, groups where you usually won’t deal with the same person twice.
>Go to parties. Use the short-term advice listed prior so you don’t fucking die.
>Practice at bars.
>Maintain good health. Seriously, getting the right amount of sleep, eating a healthy diet, and getting in a proper amount of physical activity helps boost your social ability by a ton.
>Avoid just sticking to friends/family/one person at all times. Diversify who you’re hanging out with. I had friends growing up that only hung out with me and maybe one or two other people and it annihilated their social abilities because they were only used to dealing with me and those very limited others.
>Practice phone skills. Not texting skills, but using your voice on the phone.
Long-Term:
>Eliminate your insecurities. You will always have insecurity, but working on the specific things that you fear people will judge you on will help boost confidence once you reach a threshold where you will no longer worry about those things.
>Direct your lifestyle and career towards where you’re comfortable with the amount of socialising.

>> No.9867502

>>9867446
Are you supposed to just go up to random people and start a conversation? Whenever I eventually get forced into interaction, I analyze the encounter for weeks and I spasm and curse myself when alone for it. And I don't forget easily either. Its like the perfect paralyzing combination of OCD/depression/anxiety and its seriously lowering my quality of life. Taking the medication route with this seems necessary imo but idk if they're actually effective.

Thx for the replies

>> No.9867510
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9867510

>>9867441
Remember that Jesus is your friend no matter what happens.

>> No.9867515

I've had a lot of trouble with anxiety in the past and you have to find what works for you but here are some things that have helped me.
Counting to four along with your breathing helps me forget the anxiety and recentre myself, sometimes taking myself to the bathroom to be away from whatever is causing me anxiety and losing it can stop a downward spiral, even if you go right back to the same scenario again afterwards. I also started going to parties and smoking weed around the time my anxiety was starting but the weed helped get rid of the anxiety and then I learned that state of mind better and I was able to use the calm mind throughout daily life.
Hope you get better soon OP, it never goes away all the way but once you make some new friends and feel good with them and yourself you'll start feeling a lot better

>> No.9867523

>go to grocery store
>start random conversations with random people
>for example go to fruit area and if someone is near exclaim "wow what a nice selection "
>or say sometimes picking out a cantaloupe you might be near and say "nice cantaloupe"
>they might want to have a conversation or not
>the more you the more you learn

>> No.9867589

>>9867441
Hypnosis.

>> No.9867595

>>9867523
>at the supermarket grabbing some stuff
>hear somebody saying something about a "selection" far away in a really telegraphed way
>hear the same thing moments later only stopped short by a voice crack
>at the fruit area cause I need to start eating healthy
>see some really scuffed looking dude pacing around there with an empty trolley
>whatever, get myself some cantaloupes cause they're on sale
>"NICE CANTALOUPE"
>turn around and see that same guy with his hand out, presumably to shake mine
>shake his hand "yeah they're on sale"
>long pause ... "ITS BEEN A PLEASURE"
>hurries off to the shampoo aisle

>> No.9867629

>>9867441
Get out and try. No one said it was going to be easy

>> No.9868857

>>9867441
What helped me most in social situations was to remove the word "nigger" from my vocabulary. Else, they often ended in awkward silence or occasional violence. So try that.

>> No.9868880

>>9867502
Not that anon, but what has helped me in social situations is to get a little tipsy, like don't get full on loaded, just enough to not give a fuck about talking to people you haven't met before.

Another thing that helps is to take a Lyft or an Uber on a regular basis to things. You're forced to make conversation with a complete stranger, assuming the driver isn't an autism, so the ride isn't awkward. Get a rideshare to the party, you can warm up a bit and also keep yourself from getting a DUI.

This has been working for me so far at least. We're all gonna make it bro

>> No.9868888
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>>9867441
Get your amygdala destroyed. Google Rossala.

>> No.9868902

>>9868888
None of the search results mention anything about the amydgala. Just explain it here.

>> No.9868932

>>9867441
stop masturbating

>> No.9870138

>>9868902
Since you're too lazy to do your own research, basically the amygdala is the part of the brain that causes fear/anxiety, and damage to the amygdala reduces/eliminates these emotions. Also google Patient SM.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/S.M._(patient)

>> No.9870142

>>9868902
Also worth mentioning: There are apparently differences in function between the left and right hemispheres of the amygdala, and the right amygdala is supposedly more involved in negative emotion. If you destroy your amygdala, I suggest targeting the right amygdala first.

>> No.9870552

>>9867441

by realizing that 90% of people are ignorant retarded delusional fucks.
people not worth losing sleep over, not even worth hating.
just do what you want without giving a fuck.

>> No.9870568

>>9870552
This.

Which is why I simply don’t bother. Especially not with people that think if you’re not complying with their demands of you you need to be punished.

Yes there are people like that in the world, so maybe your anxiety is justified.

>> No.9871167

>>9870142
P.S. you can always use a bullet.

>> No.9871180
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>>9871167
But that would ruin my chances of surviving past the Singularity and living in a transhumanist utopia.

>> No.9871182

>>9871167
Which caliber?

>> No.9871266

>>9867446
>Go to parties.
Not everybody is 15 you fucking moron

>> No.9871282

Iodine no bullshit.

>> No.9871288

>>9867441
Depends entirely on the nature of your triggers.

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>>9867595
That is a disturbingly accurate description of what would happen if I tried this

>> No.9871395

Like personally? Adderall during the day, alcohol when shits socially wild. If ur trying to be a alphaInt then space out work time and alcohol time by a day. Also, if alcohol alone doesn't work, mix with a small dose of Xan and 100% you'll be a beautiful social butterfly in 40 minutes or less.

I've also heard similar (/better) results from microdosing LSD. Honestly, I'd try that long before defaulting to my fucking terrible advice

>> No.9871398

>>9871395
Ive changed my mind just go to therapy like I should've lmao

>> No.9871414

>>9870142
100% best advice

>> No.9871658

>>9868902
Just jab a screwdriver up your right nostril until you can only see the handle and jiggle it around a little

>> No.9871667

>>9867441
Short term; Benzos, Kratom, Cava, or CBD's.

Long term; A retail position at a store.

>> No.9871700

>>9870552
this. people are uncaring and a threat to you. do you really think they give a fuck if you have kids? most of everything people do with their lives is survival instincts

>> No.9871724

>>9867441
Stop being a bitch

>> No.9871727

Clean your room

>> No.9871747

>Meditate daily
>Go for a jog for at least 40 minutes every morning
>Cut refined sugar/carbs and other inflammatory foods from your diet
>Supplement with Omega 3, Vitamin D and E

>> No.9871791

>>9871266
I didn’t even know kids that young had parties. Then again, I’ve never actually gone to a party before, so that explains that.
You’ve never heard of a party in college? A little bit of hanging out and Friday night drinking? Are you even in/ever even went to college?

>> No.9871895

>>9867523
nice cantaloupe

>> No.9871911

>>9867441
CBD

>> No.9871931

>>9871727
My room is pristine. Stop repeating this retarded meme. Cleaning your room doesn't do shit. Orderly people are naturally inclined to keep their environment tidy. Disorderly people will simply find the exercise of cleaning their room a boring chore.

>> No.9872019

>>9867441
No porn, exercise at least 4 times a week, eat healthy, beat off less.

>> No.9873404

>>9867441
Cocaine ?

>> No.9873514

>>9871667
Phenibut also

>> No.9873532
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9873532

>>9867523
i went shopping yesterday and the cute girl behind me in line commented that the shirt i was buying was nice and i just kept a fucking 1000 yard stare over the counter at the wall.
i hate being fucking retarded

>> No.9873600

>>9873532
She probably thinks you’re deaf.

>> No.9873604

>>9873514
Phenibut risks dependency. Try Aniracetam or Coluracetam.

>> No.9873611

>>9873532
>oh your an autist man--child?
>this well is poisoned.
>want to scrub the rocks?