Scientific ways to improve social skills

[Anonymous No.9206615]

What are some scientifically-backed ways I can improve my social skills? Although I have a lot of confidence, and no major social anxiety issues, I am quite inexperienced socially. I don't know how to tell jokes or stories, for example. I find that most people don't particularly enjoy my company, not because I'm annoying, but because I'm dull. As a result, I have many acquaintances, but no close friends. Everybody is indifferent towards me.

How can I fix this? I need guidance from respectable sources, because this is really affecting my life. I want to be able to form close connections with people. All I know is that I need to make other people feel positive emotions when they interact with me, so that they associate me with those positive emotions and wish to come back to me. I am 18 years old, so I believe I can still learn the essential social skills that will allow me to achieve this.

[Anonymous No.9206625]

I would be eternally grateful to anyone who could help me with this. I know I will have to practice in the real world to learn social skills, but I need some sources of guidance as well. There's this girl who I think is really pretty and smart, I catch her looking at me every now and then in class. She would certainly like it if I came up to her to chat, but I have not made the move yet, not because I would spill my spaghetti (I do not lack in confidence, looks, hygiene, etc at all), but because I fear that she'd find me rather boring, like everyone else does, after a few days of talking to me. I have plenty of interests, ranging from STEM, to making music and drawing, so it's not as if I'm a completely uninteresting person, but I have no knowledge of how to be fun and interesting, someone whose company people would actively seek and enjoy.

[Anonymous No.9206644]

Just like anything practice. Actively try to gauge how your joke/story/contribution was felt by the group or person you're talking to. Try to find out what works and what doesn't so that you can become a better you. It's not a science, it's a skill you need to work on.

[Anonymous No.9206646]

>>9206615
This thread has potential.

[Anonymous No.9206650]

First step is to get out of your head. You don't need to think consciously to be good socially.

There isn't a sure way to get gud, but work out and practice.

[Anonymous No.9206700]

>>9206615
by socialising and fostering empathy, you fucking subhuman brainlet

[Anonymous No.9206705]

I use alcohol.

[Anonymous No.9206715]

Go out and talk to people. The more you talk, the more skilled you will be at socializing. Do you think chads became skilled at socializing overnight or something like that?

[Anonymous No.9206726]

>>9206615
Employ the scientific method.

[Anonymous No.9206921]

I did the full immersion thing and got a job promoting club parties/raves. My job was to go to bars, talk to the owners, set out little postcards on tables and bulletin boards and shit mostly. On some days however my goal was to get as many pretty girls to come to the raves as possible, and so I would go out to the bars and strike up conversations with as many bombshells as I could. At first I was terrible at it as I hadn't ever done anything like this before, but after doing it awhile I find that I can start a conversation with basically anyone and have them laughing within a couple minutes. Old, young, hot, not, doesn't matter anymore because I've talked to so many strangers and it got sooo much easier with time. Force yourself and you WILL reap the rewards.

[Anonymous No.9206925]

Well, I don't have any science backed evidence for you, but my advice is to get a sales job. Working sales, more specifically door to door sales, has changed my life. I'm forever grateful for the social skills I've learned by doing sales. Best thing you can do is get out of your comfort zone.... And get a sales job, which is uncomfortable for most people

[Anonymous No.9206927]

>>9206726
This

Also: time.