Psychology of Affairs?

[Anonymous No.10734993]

What makes so many people cheat on their significant others, married or otherwise? Why do some people even feel aroused by their partner being with someone else in front of them?

[Anonymous No.10735096]

Unability to communicate and holding onto life-held fantasies ? Theres so many reasons that people do that desu, entire books could be written on it. I think 'lack of investment/dedication' is the major cause tho

[Anonymous No.10735102]

The Coolidge effect and the deterioration of morality and the importance of family.

[Anonymous No.10735110]

One of my friends just got engaged last week but he hasn't stopped hooking up with his married fuck buddy. It's going to be a mess when he gets caught with her which will happen eventually as most everyone in his circle of friends knows about it. At least her husband is a pansy who won't do crap. Not sure his fiancee will be able to resist stabbing him.

[Anonymous No.10735121]

>>10735102
/thread

[Anonymous No.10735140]

If you're an attractive man you have literally nothing to lose by cheating. You will always get more pussy. And you're probably used to getting a variety of pussy anyway so it would feel normal to you compared to monogamy.

[Anonymous No.10735176]

>>10735140
>nothing to lose
You lose freedom over your actions and are a slave to the next piece of meat that comes along. It's pointless and only serves temporary pleasure (always fleeting) and that's not a good reason to act on anything. Easy to waste your mind and life on sexual pursuits.

[Anonymous No.10735242]

>>10735140
>implying sex is better than love
mazel tov

[Anonymous No.10735247]

>>10734993
>Why do some people even feel aroused by their partner being with someone else in front of them?
Why don't you try it and find out?

[Anonymous No.10735261]

>>10735140
Nothing to lose except everything.

[Anonymous No.10735270]

>>10735110
consider talking with him or anonymously telling his fiance

[Anonymous No.10735276]

Quick sex with randos isn't cheating, to be honest. It's more like masturbation. I didn't stop loving my girlfriend.

[Anonymous No.10735291]

>>10735276
t. bugman.

[Anonymous No.10735335]

There is lots to gain and little to lose when it comes to cheating.

[Anonymous No.10735359]

>>10735335
There's nothing to gain aside from a hit of pleasure and everything to lose.

[Anonymous No.10735418]

>>10734993
Pretty sure sexting, sending nudes, making out, feeling each other up, mutual masturbation, and oral doesn't technically count as cheating. Full on sex can be considered cheating.

[Anonymous No.10735644]

>>10735270
Keeping your nose out of other people's relationship drama is a good step towards a happy life.

[Anonymous No.10735808]

>>10734993
>psychology
not science or math

[Anonymous No.10735857]

>>10735102
>the deterioration of morality and the importance of family.
>he hasn’t read the Decameron
Cheating isnt new
Also
>all these /sci posters pretending their are gigs chads
>>10734993
It is actually not that common over s lifetime, cheaters just say it is to justify themselves, like shoplifters thinking everyone steals

[Anonymous No.10735876]

>>10735102
>deterioration of morality
Please

[Anonymous No.10735893]

>>10734993
I do it because every now and then I crave something different. I don't even see these women as being on the same standing as my own wife, they are more like cattle that I rent to bust a nut and then go on with my daily business. If you think it's bad then I'll remind you that multi-millionaires routinely get caught fucking kids in the ass so how about you go preach to them before you come to me, a simple buyer of the professional services of the fine women that roam the streeets.

[Anonymous No.10735897]

>>10734993
Is it really common?

[Anonymous No.10735907]

>>10734993
I’m not sure, nor do I care

I think the best way to deal with it is execution. Adultery needs to be punishable by death again; only then will people stay in line.

[Anonymous No.10735939]

>>10735907
If you criminalize adultery, only criminals will commit it!

[Anonymous No.10735949]

>>10735939
Conservatards in a nutshell

[Anonymous No.10735996]

>>10734993
It's not really complicated.

1. Men evolved to spread their genes as far as wide as possible.
2. Women evolved to cuck men and get the best genes for the best provider.

It's at the level of evolutionary psychology where you say people evolved to get hungry when they need food.

[Anonymous No.10736225]

>>10735996
That’s why there needs to be heavy penalties for breaking monogamy; only fear of death can kill instinct.

[Anonymous No.10736259]

>>10736225
my nigger you have to realize there's no rational reason to believe that

[Anonymous No.10736265]

>>10734993
>What makes so many people cheat on their significant others, married or otherwise?

Humans are not naturally monogamous. It is a scam.

[Anonymous No.10736267]

>>10736225
>Sustain an unsustainable and stupid behavior with totalitarianism

Lol good luck with that incel

[Anonymous No.10736310]

>>10735276
I feel bad for your gf

[Anonymous No.10736324]

>>10736310
If she has any sense she doesn’t mind that he fucks other women and also sees other people herself.

Life is for pleasure.

[Anonymous No.10736333]

>>10736324
Disgusting

[Anonymous No.10736343]

>>10736333
You call it disgusting. I call it beautiful, natural, and the future.

[Anonymous No.10736933]

>>10735359
>There's nothing to gain aside from a hit of pleasure and everything to lose.
You get to spread your genes across a greater base.

[Anonymous No.10736998]

>>10736324
based r-tard

[Anonymous No.10737001]

>>10736998
>Dur people who actually enjoy life r retarded

[Anonymous No.10737043]

>>10734993

beats me. maybe the platonic sides of their relationships just aren't very strong. otherwise it would probably feel like betraying a close friend.

[Anonymous No.10737079]

>>10735876
Please.

[Anonymous No.10737080]

>>10736324
t. cuck

[Anonymous No.10737175]

>>10736267
>monogamy
>the most unsustainable viable option
>not the closest we can get to sustainable without totalitarianism or turning your country into a shithole
One second nigga while I get the heavy smokes

[Anonymous No.10737177]

>>10736324
Based and Cuckqueenpilled

[Anonymous No.10737192]

>>10736324
You think like a bluepilled woman and deserve living a life controlled by others while you invest your energies in chasing butterflies.

[Anonymous No.10737261]

>>10735140
bruh even chads fall in love sometimes

[Anonymous No.10737264]

>>10736324
*overdosers on heroin*

[Anonymous No.10737276]

>>10735140
I'm a guy with a girlfriend. I'm literally on a 1 month trip to Japan right now completely on my own since my girlfriend had to work and I speak Japanese.

There have been so many women that throw themselves at me. But contrary to what I thought I feel absolutely bad for even entertaining the thought. I now realize just how bad cheating is as I feel my moral compass screaming at me that I should not pursue. Which is exactly why I'm not doing it and turning down every opportunity or invite that comes at me.

You'll understand this later in life. I used to think the same as you as a teenager but now that I'm actually in a committed relationship with genuine trust and a fully developed adult brain I just can't cheat. It's impossible as my emotions just block my body from doing it.

[Anonymous No.10737283]

>>10734993
We deny our own natural instincts. Oppressed instincts will over time smash through your filters. Sorry this happened to you.

[Anonymous No.10737388]

>>10734993
People like to feel lusted after, which is why they still enjoy flirting with random people while in a relationship. It’s just a great ego boost.
Then acting on it is low impulse control. And again, the ego boost

[Anonymous No.10737407]

If i caught my gf cheating i would rio her guts and make her eat them while still alive. and before that i would destroy her life that she begs me to do the beforementioned thing..

[Anonymous No.10737411]

>>10737407
rip*

[Anonymous No.10737461]

>>10736267
all of civilization was built on the back of monogamy. Go read some real pop-evo-psych books like The Red Queen (and god forbid you read an actual journal in the field) and realize that your redpill shit has an obvious slant towards justifying PUA free-riding. Monogamy and civilization go hand in hand. Across history, over and over again, the pattern repeats itself: when monogamy falls, civilization follows.

[Anonymous No.10737519]

>>10735140
>If you're an attractive man you have literally nothing to lose by opiate use. You will always get more drugs. And you're probably used to getting a variety of opioids anyway so it would feel normal to you compared to druglessness.

[Anonymous No.10737526]

Legit cuckolds are free of feeling one of the worst feelings in the world. The thought of someone fucking my SO is somewhat debilitating. Imagine getting turned on by that...

[Anonymous No.10737575]

>>10737276
have you ever wondered what the biological imperative for that would be? the argument could be made that we're meant to mate for life and raise children in pairs, but if that was the case I feel like cheating would be less commonplace as even morally deficient people would still feel that same impulse you do.
personally I'm a spiritual person and favor the idea that that feeling comes from the soul rather than the brain

[Anonymous No.10737586]

>>10737526
On a related note, a fairly significant group of men have been willingly cutting their penises off lately.

[Anonymous No.10737596]

>>10736324
...this is why we will never make it into space
Degenerates that focus on pleasure rather than betterment of all

[Anonymous No.10737615]

>>10737596
Too busy being cumbrains.

[Anonymous No.10737659]

>>10737575
People behave differently due to a different time preference. High time preference means you place a low value on possible future rewards. A child raised in a chaotic environment will have certain genes triggered which gives them such a high time preference. This is an evolutionary adaptation, because in a chaotic environment rewards are fleeting, so it’s better to just fuck a hot guy/girl whenever you meet one. Obviously, if you want a committed relationship, you should seek out someone with a low time preference.

[Anonymous No.10737717]

>>10734993
Deception fetish-they get off on fooling their boyfriend or girlfriend

Polygamy fetish-They like the idea of multiple cocks/pussy/both and cant let it go

Insecurity-They feel too secure with their lover but also want the gushy gush so cheat rather than break up and become lovers with the person they cheated with.

Sociopathy-They simply dont care about the feelings of their lover they see no reason to break up with their lover as their lover is one tool out of many tools and only has a use if they remain their lover.

[Anonymous No.10737725]

>>10734993
>What makes so many people cheat on their significant others, married or otherwise?
women want good genes

[Anonymous No.10737795]

This thread was moved to >>>/r9k/52983843