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>>5777469
>i convinced myself to not be afraid
No dumbass. You trained yourself to not be afraid of the dark, even if you didn't realize it.
Children lose fear by gradually exposing themselves to whatever it is. As the danger was imagined there is no reinforcement to the fear and it is unlearned. Sometimes there is significant positive reinforcement to challenging the fears. This is the technique used by most parents. They just compliment or give a treat to the courageous child.
You can control your emotions the same way. Plan situations where your emotions get stirred. Also plan rewards you give yourself when you manage to control it. It can be food item you love the most or a picture of a person you admire or have feelings for. But the more intense the reward the better. Never succumb to the temptation of giving yourself the reward when you lost control. That would be reinforcing your problem. So carefully plan ahead the most you can.