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[Anonymous No.14786046]

Has anyone here tried getting their ex back? What was the outcome of that?

[Anonymous No.14786051]

/adv/—->

[Anonymous No.14786054]

Books for this feel?

[Anonymous No.14786058]

You'll get over it.

You don't think you will but you will. No matter what you do, the memories will fade. All those little memories that make your heart feel like it's going to collapse into your asshole, the ineffable shit that you can't even communicate to others because it's so particular to how perfect and special your relationship was, it will fade and vanish. And just before it does, you'll look at it one last time, with just enough distance to realise that those moments and feelings exist in every half-decent relationship, and you don't have to lament their passing because they are just part of life. You will have those ineffable things with the next girl too, and if you work hard, you'll have ones that are a hundred times better, with a girl who is a hundred times better.

This shit can't be communicated because it's too intuitive and everyone just has to go through it for themselves, but if you ever have one of those moments when you're sitting there in despair, absolutely convinced that your only two options are to give up true love and be lonely forever, or to pathetically beg her to take you back, just try to remember that EVERYONE goes through the same thing. I did too, and I begged, and I hate myself for it. Keep your dignity and just wait out the storm. The collective male gender wants you to know that the storm always passes, ten times out of ten.

Even when you have a "one that got away"-tier girl who genuinely was perfect for you, there are girls out there who are just as good, that you would find just as special, and there are even better girls too. Right now that will probably sound disturbing to you, because millions of years of evolution are trying to convince you to get your one true babymaker back and protect it like life itself, but it's true. For any given person there are plenty of people they would be highly compatible with, and relatively many people they'd be extremely compatible with. Don't sweat losing touch with one, if she even was that to begin with. Mine certainly wasn't, though I thought so at the time.

Just ride it out and distract yourself. Never, ever beg her or even talk to her. I fucking guarantee you, man, in a year, in five years, in ten, you will think of the memories of her that currently feel like they weigh a thousand pounds, and you'll regard them with the same amount of emotion you have for some other middling milestone in your life you barely remember. How much did you cry when you put your first pet to sleep, and how do you think of that pet's passing now? Maybe a twinge of remembered pain at most. Same thing.

[Anonymous No.14786172]

1) Break up
2) Miss positive qualities of relationship
3) Get ex back
4) The reasons for breaking up are still there
5) Break up again but now feeling like a piece of shit

[Anonymous No.14786184]

>>14786058
I dunno, man. I thought I’d very successfully got over someone from eight years ago who’s recently come back into my life, and the whole fucking ocean of feeling and emotion has just flooded my life all over again. In fact, it’s worse.

[Anonymous No.14786357]

>>14786172
this basically, i always remember the negatives of everything as a rule so i never get sentimental. this applies to everything not just breakups
>kinda depressing
i know but what can you do

[Anonymous No.14786383]

>>14786046
>/adv/—->
Irredentist sage

[Anonymous No.14786817]

>>14786357
>I always remember the negatives
I'm the same way, but I think it's because I always emphasize the positives while the relationship is (still) going on; when it's finally over all the negatives come flooding through (as a result?) and I'm almost immediately thankful that the whole thing's done.

[Anonymous No.14786869]

>>14786046
>/lit/ - Literature

[Anonymous No.14786999]

>>14786817
better than me lol. im the ultimate pessimist. even when ive been deeply in love the negatives still stand out like a giant monolith.
i dont love, i find who i can bear to be around the longest. i dont think i have a single shred of optimism towards anything, i just try to live in the present, kill my ego and as courtesy treat people nicely irregardless of past or present behavior.

thx for reading my blog gn

[Anonymous No.14787053]

>>14786058
This, its fucking over dude. Just cry it out of you, mourn, talk to family members about it and learn from this in your future.
I know she seems like exactly your type, all her faults, all her little things that make ger charming, all that is just mixed up in the porridge of your feelings.
Just dont contact her, you will regret it. Also fuck her man, there are tons more interesting and hot broads in her weight class you can land.