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[Anonymous No.9018539]

>Once he finds himself in such groups or, as he matures, aspires to be a member of some group, he in effect discovers more or less unconsciously that he must exhibit the behavior that will identify him as belonging, or accept a position as an outsider.

Reading a book on group psychology, and as a perpetual outsider this line stuck out to me.

[Anonymous No.9018595]

>>9018539
I know them feels anon. I've tried several times to fit in. Never could. Now I'm just The Stranger.

[Anonymous No.9018597]

>>9018539
You are a member of a group, you're a 4chan user.

[Anonymous No.9018696]

>>9018539
>tfw easily fit in but feel like a rat with no backbone

[Anonymous No.9020070]

>>9018539

[Anonymous No.9020138]

>>9018696
this is the worst feel

[Anonymous No.9020163]

Nice quote OP. I know this feel well but I'm too autistic to try and fit in these days. I accept that my co-workers think I'm a weird, autistic loser and make zero effort to change that opinion. Feels comfy actually.

[Anonymous No.9020168]

SOURCE OP?

[Anonymous No.9020172]

>>9018539
>or accept a position as an outsider.
Literally how?

[Anonymous No.9021477]

>tfw feel like some kind of sociopath when i try to fit in
you just gotta live in the moment but its hard yknow

[Anonymous No.9021485]

I'd never want to belong to a group that would have someone like me as a member

[Anonymous No.9021489]

>>9018539
So just find a group wherein you don't mind beloning or accepting? Sounds like you're just not getting out enough, and not meeting the right people.

[Anonymous No.9021491]

Be Happy about that, you're able to see outside the group

[Anonymous No.9021513]

>tfw respected and listened to by your peers

[Anonymous No.9021514]

>>9018539
You should be glad. Have you ever noticed how normies tend to become carbon copies of their friends? True greatness can only be attained outside of society, looking in.

[Anonymous No.9021518]

>>9021485
makes you think

[Anonymous No.9021518,1]

source pls

[Anonymous No.9022010]

>>9021477
I feel this

[Anonymous No.9022037]

What I really want is one true close friend who shares interests with me and who can be mutually respected. I'd much rather have that than a clique.

[Anonymous No.9022048]

>tfw you realized that socializing is all a game
>tfw you realized that social interaction is just people trying to sell themselves to each other.
>tfw you respect yourself more than they respect themselves since you refuse to lower yourself to the status of a commodity
Feels good to be a supreme gentleman

[Anonymous No.9022061]

>tfw totally socially competent with plenty of friends and a gf
>secretly judge literally everybody I walk past and even the people closest to me
>my mind reflexively does it
>judge myself just as harshly
>scan every person I see for errors to use to hate them

I think I really am a psychopath, but I've never seen a therapist for this shit. If I had to guess, it stems from the fact that I fat until the end of high school and always had low self esteem until I got fit.

[Anonymous No.9023128]

I suppose you are all lacking the personality to be liked for being you. You don't have to be the centre of attension but if you have any redeeming qualities, just express those until your comfortable enough to let the weird slip out.

If you truly have nothing social within you then perhaps you weren't meant for this world

[Anonymous No.9023145]

>>9020172
"Accept" insofar as you don't off just yourself from self-hate or loneliness.

[Anonymous No.9023149]

>>9022061
You're most likely not a psychopath. They do not judge themselves harshly, they do not have low self esteem and they do not think of seeing a therapist - because they do not consider themselves psychologically "sick"

You might be on the anti-social spectrum, however, which is where psychopaths are also situated

[Anonymous No.9023151]

>>9022048

This Fox has a longing for grapes:
He jumps, but the bunch still escapes.
So he goes away sour;
And, 'tis said, to this hour
Declares that he's no taste for grapes.

[Anonymous No.9023162]

>>9022061

>>judge myself just as harshly

You don't know what the word psychopath means if you are even capable of doing this, let alone doing it with any kind of regularity.

Relax. As long as you're judging in your head and not being a try hard douche to everyone around you who cares. Just get on with your life and you'll probably grow out of this in time. In fact you stand a very good chance to because you sound pretty self-aware about it all.

[Anonymous No.9023170]

You know that part in 'A Beautiful Mind' when the protagonist finally gets recognition by receiving some pens. Whenever I feel sad about being somewhat lonely, I reflect on this and am kinda glad I won't ever have to suffer something similar

[Anonymous No.9023181]

>>9018539
I feel you, anon. It does't matter how much I click with the group, it feels like I'll always just be a background character.

[Anonymous No.9023204]

>>9021514
I hope your underage.

Being a part of a group merely dictates your physical appearance. It does not require a change in personality or interests. If you think being part of a social circle somehow erradicates individuality, you're retarded.

[Anonymous No.9023210]

>>9018539
Why did you make up a paragraph explaining your social inadequacy, op?

[Anonymous No.9023678]

OK op, now read Freud

[Anonymous No.9023721]

Erving Goffman if you haven't read him, OP

[Anonymous No.9023732]

>>9021485
Agreed. This is why I haven't been on a date in 5 years as well.

[Anonymous No.9023744]

>>9023151
t. assblasted, low IQ socialfag who feels threatened by the idea that someone doesn't like the same things as him

[Anonymous No.9023749]

>>9023744
> fag who feels threatened by the idea that someone doesn't like the same things as him

Literally describing yourself.

[Anonymous No.9023755]

>>9023749
I'm not threatened by anything. I just know if I post my opinions edgily enough, I'm guaranteed (you)s

[Anonymous No.9023766]

>>9023749

>I'm not threatened by anything.

Except social interaction and human contact.

[Anonymous No.9023785]

>>9023766
>I don't like it so I'm threatened by it
If believing that helps you feel less insecure,go wild :)
I have healthy social interaction on a nearly daily basis

[Anonymous No.9023798]

>>9023785
Healthy social interaction is difficult if you believe everybody is trying to sell themselves as a commodity.

[Anonymous No.9024467]

>>9022061
Can't tell you how much I relate to this

[Anonymous No.9024501]

"My solitude doesn’t depend on the presence or absence of people; on the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without, in exchange, offering me true company.”