/lit/ - Literature

[Anonymous No.4977095]

Is the 'family' slowly disintegrating?

Surely /lit/ can relate. How many of you relate to your parents not in a strongly emotional way, but viewed them more or less as people who happened to occupy the same living space as you? Growing up, did they shape your growth? I know I myself can't relate to them on a deep level, unfortunately, having spent much of my youth detached and plugged in to electronics. My education and growth was first and foremost affected by the internet and television, I spent little time in the so-called father-son or family activities that comprised much of my father's youth. I suppose this means that while I might avoid any possible negative influences their attitudes could have and better foster an interest in learning, I feel like I've missed out on something, and I harbour no interest in starting a family of my own. This all spurious mental ejaculate, but I'd like to know if anyone else shares in this alienation.

[Anonymous No.4977100]

This is nothing new

[Anonymous No.4977119]

The "family" you're talking about is cold war era nuclear family propaganda. It might exist for some people occasionally but they're the minority.

[Anonymous No.4977131]

>>4977095
The family has been dead for 30 years now

[Anonymous No.4977143]

>>4977131
Can we pinpoint an exact date?

[Anonymous No.4977156]

Personally i have a great relation with my parents, so I don't think so, at least in the middle class here in my country (Mexico).

[Anonymous No.4977164]

>>4977156
*at least not

[Anonymous No.4977166]

>>4977143
Are you stupid?

[Anonymous No.4977168]

>>4977166
I don't think so, why?

[Anonymous No.4977177]

I'm feeling the same, OP. Never been close to my family. I feel like a stranger to them.

[Anonymous No.4977195]

my parents drunk and fought all of the time, so yeah, I get you

[Anonymous No.4977200]

>>4977195
My parents were high and never really got along, at least the fights were never too bad because they were too stoned to get too upset.

[Anonymous No.4977220]

It definitely varies from person to person. As for myself, I am very close to my father and brother, possibly due to my mother dying when I was very young so my father put in the extra effort to make sure my brother and I had a good childhood. He encouraged me to do activities but never pushed me, and is possibly the smartest man I've ever met. It's incredibly depressing seeing him age as Alzheimer's runs heavily in my family, but I still talk to him all the time

[Anonymous No.4977234]

My parents have been married almost 30 years now. My father is a doctor, so fortunately he made enough money even in this age that my mother could stay at home full time to raise me and my sisters. He and she both always encouraged us to pursue our dreams, and we always ate dinner together around the table at night, where we talked about whatever subject happened to cross our collective mind.

I would not have traded my youthful experiences for anything in the world. I love my parents, I shall be faithful to them always, and when they die I shall mourn them thoroughly.

[Anonymous No.4977278]

Divorce is disgusting.
You can't control if your parents did it, but if you do you should kill yourself.

[Anonymous No.4977281]

>>4977278
That's quite a harsh view. What led you to develop it?

[Anonymous No.4977305]

I like some of my family, but the rest I've distanced myself from, and in turn some of them have forced others to distance themselves from me. I've had ones from that side of the family come and try to get me to reconcile with my father, but I simply have no interest in him.

One of the things they always say is how you have to stick with family and how family is everything, but I don't get that mentality. Why are we supposed to stay with people we are very closely linked to by blood? What about adopted people? They'll usually try to say the 'family is who you care about,' but if I don't care about a family member then are they really family? It's just a big mixing pot of emotions with very little objectivity to it. Surround yourself with people you want to be around, and for those you don't want to be around, go with risk vs. reward and then decide if you want to cut them out.

[Anonymous No.4977329]

>>4977305
>One of the things they always say is how you have to stick with family and how family is everything, but I don't get that mentality. Why are we supposed to stay with people we are very closely linked to by blood? What about adopted people? They'll usually try to say the 'family is who you care about,' but if I don't care about a family member then are they really family? It's just a big mixing pot of emotions with very little objectivity to it. Surround yourself with people you want to be around, and for those you don't want to be around, go with risk vs. reward and then decide if you want to cut them out.

[Anonymous No.4977362]

>>4977234
My parents have discharged their parental duties to the utmost in terms of sending me to college, buying books, music, etc. but we never talk. I talk to my mom occasionally but my dad seems pretty well near incapable of dispensing advice or anything particularly fatherly. I envy you.

[Anonymous No.4977419]

>mfw americucks can't name all their kinfolk
>mfw amerishoots can't even name their forebears seven generations back

kek
No wonder you all are such a shameless lot.

[Anonymous No.4977443]

>>4977281

observation

[Anonymous No.4977487]

The whole dads pretending to give a shit about their kids as anything more than cheap farm labor was a recent development and I'm guessing it will be short lived.

[Anonymous No.4977542]

>>4977419
Ahmed, no matter how much you may wish it, you will never be British. Go help your wife plan your trip outside the country to get your daughter's clitoris chopped off.

[Anonymous No.4977546]

>>4977281

Not him but I also experienced divorce and its nasty no matter how you cut it. I still sometimes alternate between absolutely hating them and alternately sympathizing with one or the other.

I hate it, never'd wish it on anyone

[Anonymous No.4977571]

>>4977419
>mfw americlaps call daddytimestwos "grandfathers"
>mfw ameritards call femaleparentbrothers "uncles"