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20133798 No.20133798 [Reply] [Original]

I want to finally stop pleasing everybody and grow a spine
Will pic related help me to stop trying to be liked by everyone?

>> No.20133809

>>20133798
agreeableness, ie. the desire to please others, is one of the basic psychological traits, and (You) can't change your basic psychological traits.

>> No.20133811

>>20133798
be rich so you don't have to suck anyone's dick. it's literally that simple.

>> No.20133818

>>20133809
JP didn't teach you well.

>> No.20133842

>>20133809
Personality traits are dynamic and mutable, none of them are fixed. Your persona is a multiplicity of desires/instincts, collections of ideas and memes reacting to a situational context. Then, it's basically strung out into a narrative based on the past/present/future stories

>> No.20133858

Read Gurdjieff's work on 'considering'

>> No.20133866

>>20133842
>>yeah, you can change your personality by reading a book.
Personality matrices register almost no changes in anyone after the age of 30, and psychologists tend to agree that the dynamic process is a movement out of childhood toward the subject's immutable adult personality.

>> No.20134902

>>20133866
Interesting. But you can willfully change how you choose to respond to emotions and circumstances. If you make personality a matter of how much you will a certain makeup, gradually you will start be that person.

>> No.20134919

>>20133809
>(You) can't change your basic psychological traits
good news: trauma and massive disappointment can change them!

>> No.20134924

>>20133866
psychologists also say that being a tranny is not a mental illness now

>> No.20135125

>>20133809
>what is personal growth?

>> No.20135933

>>20133809
>agreeableness, ie. the desire to please others, is one of the basic psychological traits

self-esteem and a strong support network can give previously spineless people the power to withstand all kinds of scorn.

>> No.20136183

Start with the Greeks and just as importantly start writing.