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[Anonymous No.19870337]

Is there a book on how to be one's true self? Most self help books just chant 'be yourself' repeatedly without explaining much else. Might sound autistic but in a given situation I'm often at a loss how my 'true' self would handle the matter and end up acting even more retardly.

Send advice and book recommendations.

[Anonymous No.19870339]

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[Anonymous No.19870348]

>>19870337
>Is there a book on how to be one's true self?
Read the Bhagavad-Gita and then the Upanishads, most modern 'self-help books' talk about the false egoistic self and not the true self that is resplendent, immortal, ever-fulfilled and all-pervasive

[Anonymous No.19870355]

>>19870337
Why on earth are you investing any thought into such as stupidly vague statement? Does anyone you actually respect, anyone who has the qualities you'd like to emulate ever suggested that people 'be themself'?
But since I've taken the bait, I'll give the prosaic answer: Be yourself just means to do things that don't cause value dissonance and which come easy or intuitively to you, especially in contrast to taking on behaviors in a social setting where because they are not a natural habit both will come off as 'forced' to other people which in itself will cause you to be self-conscious which will further exacerbate the forcefulness.
The problem is that this neglects any ideas of personal growth - something has to be conscious and intentional before it becomes a natural habit.
Not going to the gym is "be yourself" if you're so inclined.

[Anonymous No.19870538]

>>19870337
This book unironically helped me a lot with this. It's not about acting as something but acting without masks basically, that is your true self.

[Anonymous No.19870546]

>>19870337
Max Stirner is who you want

[Anonymous No.19870547]

>>19870337
Crowley wrote a bit on that I think.

[Anonymous No.19870616]

>>19870337
>I'm often at a loss how my 'true' self would handle the matter

you are still constrained by social rules anon. being yourself is not an excuse to break rules of propriety. be as honest as you can, but don't cause unnecessary conflict or other problems for yourself or others

[Anonymous No.19870619]

>tfw have no choice but to be myself
any books on how to be other people? I think I'm too dumb to play pretend

[Anonymous No.19871185]

>>19870337
The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self

Internal Family Systems Therapy, Second Edition

[Anonymous No.19871245]

Protip: ego ≠ true self

[Anonymous No.19871252]

>>19870337
There is no true self, just a large bunch of small and big signifiers that you use to construct a persona in order to make yourself definable in front of yourself and more importantly others

[Anonymous No.19871371]

[Anonymous No.19871380]

Where butterfly at?

[Anonymous No.19871384]

>>19870337
There is no true self.
We adapt and change our beliefs over time, we also modify our beliefs depending on the circumstance.

Your knowledge, beliefs and personality are you. The voice inside of you is the delusion, the one that tells us stories about who we 'really are'. It's why most people act like they are the center of their own universe and get irrationally angry at people who they see as threatening the story.

Fundamentally, what you present to the outside world is you.

You have full ownership over that. And don't let anyone project onto you or 'tell you' who you ought to be

[Anonymous No.19871685]

>>19870619
Why do you even want to be other people

[Anonymous No.19871699]

>>19870619
Don't be too hard on yourself. The best thing you can do is find equilibrium with the forces that control your life, and present the most genuine-feeling version of yourself that you can. This will change constantly. Don't ever attempt to be someone else, because you only see one face of a person, and you can't successfully emulate their success from YOUR perspective.

[Anonymous No.19872367]

>>19871384
> Your knowledge, beliefs and personality are you.
What is the real (you) is the awareness that is aware of these things, they are changing but the awareness which knows them is unchanging

[Anonymous No.19872401]

it happens in the background, just pursue things you think are interesting, don't think about yourself ever until you're eighty and reflecting, then you'll know who you were

[Anonymous No.19872706]

>>19871685
being myself is terrible when it comes to actually interacting with others, when interacting with the world
actually being myself is terrible when it comes to just interacting with myself, you are your own worst enemy and al that

[Anonymous No.19872728]

>>19870348
Holy based

[Anonymous No.19872826]

>>19871384
>>19871252
These. Believing that "the self" exists ought to be classified as a mental disorder.

[Anonymous No.19872857]

>>19870348
Based reality rejector

[Anonymous No.19872859]

>>19871252
What’s the difference between a self and a constructed persona?

[Anonymous No.19872860]

>>19872826
Based vacilating neurotic

[Anonymous No.19873765]

>>19872859
the constructed persona is a disguise, it is false and has a purpose other than to simply exist.

[Anonymous No.19873772]

>>19872706
if the problem is with how you interact with the world then you may have encountered problems in socialization

you need therapy in that case.

the problems you are talking about have nothing to do with wha tpeople are talking about when they speak of an authentic self

[Anonymous No.19874449]

>>19870337
The moment you question and or try to deconstruct authenticity authenticity is lost.

[Anonymous No.19874645]

>>19874449
How to be authentic then?

[Anonymous No.19875487]

>>19874645
You just failed. (Don’t) try again.

[Anonymous No.19875506]

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[Anonymous No.19875735]

>>19870619
The Stanislavksi trilogy: An Actor Prepares, Building a Character, and Creating a Role

[Anonymous No.19875833]

>>19874645
Tell the truth.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Just-world_hypothesis

Just tell the facts. The world is not a good place. Some people are vicious and intend to hurt others (sometimes for no reason at all, they just do it)

Authenticity = telling the truth. If someone is lying, or purposely manipulating other people, tell the truth and say something

[Anonymous No.19875937]

>>19874449
Is authenticity inherently a good thing?