/lit/ - Literature

[Anonymous No.19752329]

Which book helped you the most in your dating life?

For those who aren't incels, interested in what reading gave you a new insight or perspective into relationships

[Anon No.19752337]

The Rational Male

Just kidding lmao, I would say American Psycho. If you can't get a reservation into Dorsia good luck getting a gf.

[Anonymous No.19752354]

>>19752329
I am going to tell you something quite unpleasant now…
Relationships, and by extension most all life experiences require your active engagement. You will get hurt and you will fail, but that’s how you learn. Reading won’t help you here, only experiencing and doing will

[Anonymous No.19752358]

Alcoholics Anonymous

Once I quit drinking I cleaned up nice, got a job, my own apartment, started dressing nicer. And I came out of my shell a bit.

[Anonymous No.19752391]

I'm sorry anon but all reading a book about something that's so natural and varied will just give you anxiety that things aren't going right.
If you want to learn about relationships then I suggest that you get into more of them.
Good luck.

[Anonymous No.19752412]

>>19752391
>If you want to learn about relationships then I suggest that you get into more of them.
This.

But 'The Rational Male' is a good rec.
Keep in mind things as "plate theory", this is something not so obvious (believe it or not) if you're autistical and might help you.

[Anonymous No.19752425]

>>19752329
Imagine being smart enough to actually read books as a hobby while the average normie stopped reading after high school, yet not being able to form a relationship with a woman and people in general. Life is tough.

[Anonymous No.19752485]

>>19752425
strange inference. Finding relationships is easy, understanding the flags which will determine a long-lasting, positive relationship are not.

I find it a challenge to know which direction I'm going in life, what religion, what country, what career path I will decide on. The wrong relationship is a serious mistake, which I see many friends make, and until I find the right partner I will continue to enjoy fun, but ultimately meaningless ONSs. This is why I asked.

Thank you for your insight here, but I think you should consider why you jumped to such a conclusion. Unintentionally revealing.

>>19752412
yeah I read that and models in my teens, will take another look again, thanks.

>>19752354
fair point.

>>19752337
All sorted on that front, business card game is strong.

[Anonymous No.19752495]

>>19752329
In Praise of Older Women. And yeah, basically this >>19752354, that's all the book made me realize.

[Anonymous No.19752517]

>>19752485
>I read that and models in my teens
Redpill on "Models" then.

[Anonymous No.19752531]

>>19752485
>All sorted on that front, business card game is strong.
Based. How did you manage to do it?

[Anonymous No.19752717]

>>19752329

[Anonymous No.19752744]

>>19752517
it basically tells you to be genuine, not to obsess over girls that much and overall to fix your life and lifestyle first and foremost before going into action. One of his advice is to suggest if you can't handle nofap session, if you had to masturbate, replace the porn with a photo of a girl you matched from tinder kek

[Anonymous No.19752763]

The Kreutzer Sonata

[Anonymous No.19752771]

Game by Roosh V
Can't buy it now anymore though

[Anonymous No.19752780]

The more I read the more I do not wish to "date". I know most girls and people in general think my holier-than-thou attitude is fake but I feel free when I talk to them about goodness and ideals and it makes me happy. I suppose being genuine is something that has worked on some girls so I guess read Dostoevsky and speak the truth.

[Anonymous No.19752783]

>>19752771
Begome Orthodox like Roosh. Dating and premarital-sex culture is a scam, focus on yourself and finding someone marriable.

[Anonymous No.19752787]

>>19752744
>replace the porn with a photo of a girl you matched from tinder
Checked. So few of the tinder's matches actually deliver though that is even kinda depressing. kek
It makes me wonder what these girls are really doing there.
A few wrong words and you're a.s.a.p. discarded ( which is a little bit annoying).

[Anonymous No.19752794]

>>19752531
>How did you manage to do it?
It’s called Silian Rail.

[Anonymous No.19752850]

>>19752787
try okcupid and bumble instead. OkC let's you send intro to the girl before matchmaking. Bumble require the girl to send the first message, so you can be the one who has power to filter them based on her first message (which in my experience are mostly boring, like just 'hi', 'hello', etc)

[Anonymous No.19752857]

>>19752783
I actually think Roosh did take the right path but it's an awesome book as an introduction to game in general. Roosh's way to talk to women was helpful to me in life in general after I read it at like 13 - now I can, many years later, hold a conversation with anyone about any topic using his techniques, and it's definitely helped me in many areas of my life. Also his tips on what kind of women to avoid in general are very good.

[Anonymous No.19752870]

>>19752787
>A few wrong words and you're a.s.a.p. discarded
an average girl receive dozens of matches per day, so you must compete with those chads

[Anonymous No.19752883]

>>19752787
>So few of the tinder's matches actually deliver though that is even kinda depressing. kek
>It makes me wonder what these girls are really doing there.
i think it kinda the point? it makes you realize that girls irl aren't like you saw on porn, so you'll obsess over them less and focus on improving yourself

[Anonymous No.19752927]

>>19752883
>so you'll obsess over them less and focus on improving yourself
I just got a job and I was studying like a few hours ago ( and I might go back to studying after shitposting and eating).
My life is set to a fine path, I suppose.
But I'm a young man and this is a saturday night. So where's my reward?
There's no honeypot in the end of the rainbow, for me.

[Anonymous No.19752946]

>>19752927
improving yourself is just the prerequisite. You still need to go into action

[Anonymous No.19752949]

>>19752329
>For those who aren't incels, interested in what reading gave you a new insight or perspective into relationships
For a new perspective I would honestly reccomend looking up the blackpill ideology if you haven't already, I used to think it was a defeatist attitude but it just talks about the role of genetic determinism in relationships and the relationship between looks and personality. You don't need to be an incel to accept those facts. The guy I used to watch on youtube making videos about it wasn't an incel, in fact.
Btw this will be the post in the whole thread >>19752354

[Anonymous No.19752980]

>>19752354

[Anonymous No.19753042]

>>19752850
>try okcupid and bumble instead.
Even better is doing it in real life.
Relationship apps often are prey to trust issues really hard to surmount (The girl is less willing to set a date even if she likes you).

[Anonymous No.19753118]

>>19753042
i agree, but it still pandemic

[Anonymous No.19753128]

>>19752329
Sons and Lovers by D. H. Lawrence for a good read

[Anonymous No.19753132]

>>19753118
Where???
Let's live while were not dead.

[Anonymous No.19753134]

just read crime and punishment. it shows how even a neurotic poor person who commits a crime can still redeem themselves and still be with someone despite their fuck ups

[Anonymous No.19753787]

>>19752354
This but with everything. ALL books are fiction.

[Anonymous No.19753853]

>>19752927
>So where's my reward?

and that's the rub. i think that pretty often along the lines of "I'VE STOPPED DRINKING.
WHERE'S MY GF WITH BIG TITS AND 6 FIGURE FINANCE JOB." you've been conditioned from childhood that "good behavior" means "rewards." the world is more complicated than that. you keep pushing on with your life not because it's the "right thing to do." you do it because the alternative of giving up on yourself (from my experience) is a slow descent into depression and panic attacks.