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Need your advice lit, I have a crush on a coworker who I think likes me back; well I don't know for certain but there's a certain warmth between us that makes me think this.

During our last conversation we spoke at length about what she enjoys reading and I think I have the perfect book to give her!

I plan to inscribe the first page with a few sentences about the book and sign off 'With love' then my name and the date below that. My mom says signing off 'with love' is too forward and will creep her out. Thoughts?

>> No.19056615

Holy shit

>> No.19056640

>>19056575
This is an extremely bad idea that you will regret. If you really insist on shitting where you eat you need to flirt with her enough that you're absolutely sure she likes you before you make a move.

>> No.19056649

>>19056640
Agreed. With love is way too forward. Gauge her response to you giving her the book first regardless of if she actually reads it (maybe she won't have time)

>> No.19056675

>>19056575
this is bait.

>> No.19056856

>>19056575
Your mom is right
Maybe even inscribing the first page with a few sentences are too much, but it depends

>> No.19056932

>>19056575
Just give it to her without any inscription, but if your spaghetti cannot help but be dropped, make it no more than a sentence, and do NOT under any circumstances sign off 'with love'.

>> No.19056955

>>19056575
Ask her on a date first you dweeb

>> No.19056966

>>19056955
Giving her a book is lighter than asking for a date though

>> No.19056976

Yes its too forward. Listen to your Mom Autismo.

>> No.19056998

>>19056966
Not with a book with an inscription. Ask her out to lunch or something.

>> No.19057029

It's not forward enough. She will think it's platonic love, the love of a coworker. You need to make it clear that you have a romantic interest in her.
I would write something like
"Hugs and kisses (wink wink),
[name]"
The wink wink indicates that you're being playful and that it's not just platonic but something more.
Else you can write
"With love (wink wink),
[name]".

>> No.19057032

>>19056998
>Not with a book with an inscription.
True, but I did tell him to not write anything on it, just the book

>> No.19057437

I do want to give it a personal touch with an inscription. Okay, so I’ll keep it to just one sentence and won’t write ‘with love’ How should I sign off? Just my name? Any other ideas?

>> No.19057810

>>19056575
Stick to the facts as they stand. Inscribe that you enjoy working with her, your talks, and that you hope she enjoys the book. Then your signature and date.
This btw will be more than enough to elicit a response from her; you'll know quickly where you stand as a result

>> No.19057926
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>>19056575
lmao simp

>> No.19057931

>>19057437
I will only give you advice if you say what book.

>> No.19057935

>>19056575
Cute idea anon, though I'd try asking her out first. Be honest with yourself and make sure you've logically gauged whether it's appropriate to ask her first, don't jump the gun on account of your emotions. Good luck!

>> No.19057960

>>19056575
no it isn't too forward, the people in this thread have no experience with girls
however the danger is that she will interpret your "with love" as platonic love. you really need to be sure she knows you like her, i think it'd be better to just ask her out. i've had a few times where i thought girls liked me but it turned out they were just being friendly

>> No.19058735

>>19057810
This, obviously

>> No.19058803

>>19056575

Milady,

Thine flaxen hair, thine sapphire gaze art a boon to me as I labour. Thou has’t a bosom to rival Venus. Always, methinks fondly of thee and my hearth is full of warmth. I doth profess my love for thee, o’ fairest maiden. Fly with me, and we shall be wed in earnest.

Yours truly,

Anonymous

>> No.19058862

>>19058803
If thy hearth is full of warmth then thou livest in the Southron Hemisphere
>Too hot for fires up here me lad

>> No.19058884

>>19056575
OP I once gave a book to a crush and it worked great, also did the write on the first blank page why I liked the book and what it meant to me personally and she fucking loved it.

>> No.19060244

>>19056575
Don't make the same mistake I did. Read this thread I made a few years ago
>>/lit/thread/S15290091

>> No.19060927

>>19056575
>My mom says signing off 'with love' is too forward and will creep her out. Thoughts?

I'd agree. The few times i've gifted books i always went for something sort and clever. Just showing off maybe, but a good comment can get people interested either in the book or you.

>> No.19060941

>>19056640
Not true, but making a "creative" move like OP suggests is a horrible idea. Just ask her out like a normal person. If she doesn't want to go out with you then she'll say so and that's that. Your professional relationship can continue after that like nothing happened. Don't try any of that movie tier PUA shit.

>> No.19061122

>>19060244
what you did was a lot more autistic

>> No.19061141

"with love" is too much

I'd just keep it plain and simple

"Hope you like it"
-Ben

Is she your first love?

With my first love I was so madly in love I would always think of her and write her over the top stuff, when in reality there is nothing more un-sexy than that.

But honestly, I'd just ask her out. Preferably something after work, like you two leaving work and then "hey yo uwanna go have coffee or something, such nice weather. .. this new place opened" shell then either agree or give you a new date. Then you'll know.

>> No.19062659

>>19056575
Anon, put either, "Sincerely, or, Yours". Yours is a bit more subtle. Don't drop the spaghetti.

>> No.19063247

>>19057931
pretty much we need to know what the book is to provide good advice
there is a huge difference between inscribing something for say, Mrs. Dalloway vs Artemis Fowl: The Opal Deception

>> No.19063328

>>19060244
You made my day (and more), thanks.

>> No.19064244

>>19056575
lol

>> No.19064439

>>19057810
Yes, this, as long as you know you can get away with it.

>> No.19064636

>>19057960
>no it isn't too forward, the people in this thread have no experience with girls
>i've had a few times where i thought girls liked me but it turned out they were just being friendly
My experience was that one particular girl literally called me "my love" and then accused me of "misunderstanding" her behaviors (which included touching my lower back dimples, gently biting my ear, pinching my nipple, among other things)
>people in this thread have no experience with girls
>they were just being friendly
No, you've been toyed with, and don't think you're special for it.

>> No.19064638

don't write anything. Include an illustration of two stick figures fucking with arrows pointing to them saying "me" and "you."

It'll be less creepy than writing "with love."

>> No.19064730

every one telling anon not to is gay and doesn't talk to women don't listen to them anon

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>>19057810
>>19058735
>>19064439
This leaves facts as they are, ventures everything yet exposes nothing. Can't lose here; no ground will be lost if things don't go as hoped.