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17943233 No.17943233 [Reply] [Original]

How does one go about making any /lit/ friends after graduating college (undergrad) while living in American suburbs in your mom's house and still not being able to drive? I feel like I am suffocating here having no connection to other people.

>> No.17943241
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17943241

>>17943233
Join discord servers dedicated to philosophy, science, music, literature, etc

>> No.17943244

>>17943233
Tinder

>> No.17943271
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>>17943244
I know you are joking, but I do attempt to talk about lit with these thots. Sadly most women only read books like; Eat, Pray, love.

>> No.17943278

>>17943244
Do people really make friends off tinder?

>> No.17943281

>>17943244
Tinder is only good for a quick fuck

>> No.17943297

>>17943233
If you go to local bars some people you knew from high school will probably be there

>> No.17943345

>>17943297
Sorry I didn't see the /lit/ part. You probably won't make /lit/ friends at the bar.

>> No.17943354

>>17943278
He's got a better shot on Tinder. It's better than moping on a Chinese image board.

>> No.17943370

>>17943278
I used tinder for two months when I was in college. Most dates were absolute nightmares, but one girl was just plain nice to be around. We went on a few dates and then didn't take things further and just settled into a friendship. She's still a good friend. That's the only good thing that has ever come out of tinder, all the one night stands just aren't fulfilling.

>> No.17943380

>>17943233
>your mom's house and still not being able to drive
>insert pic of that 20 old something getting stuck wojak

>> No.17943488

>>17943380
I really need to learn to drive and get a job so I can afford a car. I am so left behind.

>> No.17943633

You don’t. My advice is that you move to the city as soon as possible and you involve yourself in work or hobby groups centered around literature.

I stayed like you are until I was 28 and guess where it got me.

>> No.17943642

>>17943370
On top of a nice friendship, you can also find some good women through her

>> No.17943685

>>17943633
How do I do that while having no work experience, money, and being socially inept. I would love to live in the city and also be able to just take public transport and not have to drive but I don't think it's in my ability. Where I am I at least don't have to pay rent. Also living in the city is more expensive (I live in NY).

>> No.17943710

>American Suburbs
focus on getting out of hell first

>> No.17943718

>>17943297
>people you knew from highschool
you have to go back normie

>> No.17943729

>>17943633
>and guess where it got me.
Where did it get you

>> No.17943740

>>17943233
Just bang 19year old thots from your old HS

>> No.17943746

The only reason not to drive in the suburbs is if you already have friends who can give you rides.
If you don’t have friends you need to learn to drive.
Take it from someone who didn’t get his license til 21 and rode the bus through undergrad.

>> No.17943759

>>17943685
Do you have left over friends from college or no? To answer your question, you’ll have to get a job so you can pay rent, get a train pass, all that or you’ll have to receive an allowance from your parents.

For what it’s worth I’m considering moving to New York in July also. I’ve never lived in a city before. I spent like 2 years in the suburbs of Philly but that’s it. Been out in the country my whole life.

>>17943729
Nowhere.

>> No.17943785

>>17943759
I made no friends in college

>> No.17943812

>>17943370
How does a date work help an incel out

>> No.17943823

>>17943233
Just read another book.

>> No.17943838

>>17943759
Why would you want to go to Jew York? I mean I guess there are literary circles there but if you dont write about the sins of the white man and the struggles of being a black woman in modern America then they wont accept you anyway. Its all politics now.

>> No.17943860

>>17943785
Okay so will you get a job to go to the city snd try to make friends there?

>>17943838
Actually, I had wanted to go overseas but the world is shut down because of the virus so I can t anymore. Why New York then? Yeah, the literary circles and also I just want the experience of living in the city. That’s all.

>> No.17943890

>>17943860
Think I will just find any job and save up and just learn to drive. I don't know how to make a move to the city on my own and I don't know how to all of a sudden just make friends.

>> No.17943925

>>17943860
The city is shit, its loud, dirty and the people are annoying as well as hostile. The city is only a good place to live if you are absolutely dirt poor or filthy rich, nobody else should waste away in a shity.

>> No.17943944

>>17943925
>>17943838
Fuck off /pol/tard.

>> No.17943955

It's literally impossible.

>> No.17943958

>>17943944
imagine calling the guy a /pol/tard for pointing out the obvious reality of US cities with their crime rates, designated shitting streets, homeless encampments, etc.

>> No.17943961

>>17943685
Do what the first post said and join discord servers

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>>17943955

>> No.17944032

>>17943278
One of my buddies has a lot of friends from tinder lol. I know it’s odd but it’s possible. Bumble also has the choice to choose whether you’re looking for friends or someone to date.

>> No.17944057

>>17944032
What do I do if I want both friends and pussy

>> No.17944150

>>17943890
I don’t think learning to drive will help you. I’ve known how to drive since I’m 16 and have a car. It still hasn’t helped me. There’s simply no one here.

>>17943925
That’s all true but it is what it is. There’s nothing for me out here.

>> No.17944420

>>17943718
What the fuck are you talking about? Just because you weren't friends with somebody back then doesn't mean you can't be friends now. It's easier to get close to somebody you're already acquainted with through a shared experience.

>> No.17944434

>>17944420
If they didn't like you in highschool they'll absolutely despise you when they find out you haven't made any friends since then.

>> No.17944494

>>17943233
Gonna be honest, you don't

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>>17943233
which American suburbs? novafag here

>> No.17944556

>>17944534
Long Island

>> No.17945409

>>17944494
fuck

>> No.17946191

bump

>> No.17946213

>>17943233
Get a job, get a car, get a house/department, then worry about getting book friends. I NEET'd it up for a few months past college and your top priorities are being self-sufficient. In the mean time, try >>17943241
And then once your life is strait hopefully it will work out naturally.

>> No.17946559

>>17946213
Ok but how do you make friends

>> No.17946578

>>17944556
take a train into the city dude

>> No.17946598

>>17946559
Gotta have friends to make friends buddy.

Do you have friends?

No?

Then how do you think you are going to make friends, retard?

Same applies for jobs.

Stupid fucking idiots these days *spits on you*

>> No.17946665

>>17946578
and do what

>> No.17946756

>>17946665
You like books, right? Go to a book store, a book signing, a reading, a library, read in the park, whatever. Personally, I feel like there’s only 3 ways to meet people on your own and this goes for friends, girlfriends whatever. This is in order from most likely to least likely.

The first is via work or school. That pretty much goes without saying. The second is via things like mutual hobbies or clubs. If you’re going to some sort of regular event then over time you can develop relationships with people who do the same. An obvious example is something like karate. The third is just through normal day-to-day happenings like like grocery shopping, clothes shopping, shopping generally, at the bank, at a restaurant, and so on. The hardest part is just being an environment where there are people to be met.

>> No.17947089

>>17946756
>The hardest part is just being an environment where there are people to be met.
Do tell

>> No.17947150

>>17947089
Like if you live out in the boonies where there’s no one approximately your age, you’re pretty much out of luck. You need people who are potential friends and more importantly, people who are open to friendship, in your community.

>> No.17947228

>>17947150
oh i misread that. yeah i agree that's why i hate the suburbs.

>> No.17947393

>>17944434
That's not true. They might not become your best friend, but adults are not high schoolers. I've been bullied, I've bullied, but at the end of the day that was kiddie shit and we can all get along like grown ups. (Not like yokels who never left their home town have any choice)

You sound like you have some trauma anon. I implore you to open your heart to people and be more trusting and forgiving.

>> No.17948023

>>17943925
Based and true, best compromise is a nicer suburb area (if you can afford it: with more space) near nature/a natural conservancy of some sort

>> No.17948067

>>17948023
that is wrong, suburbs are social hell and are full of npcs. they are also terrible for raising children because they have to be dependent on their parents to drive them around all the time and if their parents aren't rich they will miss out on a whole lot. city is ideal. fuck /pol/tards.

>> No.17948076

>>17948067
Well, pardon me Mr. Gucci Loafers

>> No.17948822

>>17948076
that's right