Is this worth reading?

[Anonymous No.17655398]

I've heard about this book a lot but I don't know what it's about.

[Anonymous No.17655439]

If you're a literal autist, then yes absolutely. If you have average socialization skills it will all just seem obvious to you.

t. autist

[Anonymous No.17655443]

>>17655398
It's one of the very few self help books that's actually helpful.

[Anonymous No.17655501]

>>17655398
I listened to an audiobook version some time ago. It has it's moments but the book boils down to some usual self help information such as take a genuine interest, compliment people, avoid arguments etc.

I would recommend just reading the wikipedia page on this one. Actually, for most self help tip-styled books like this one the wiki is generally a very good condensing of the information with all the anecdotes taken out.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People

[Anonymous No.17655694]

Complete waste of time, it's extremely dated and written for a very american setting.

[Anonymous No.17655814]

>>17655398
I dated a girl who read books like this. She was really kind and appeared sociable, but somewhere behind her outward behaviour I detected a slightly veiled void, as if inside she still was an autist at heart and she ran from book to book in order to escape that reality.
That and the fact she appeared to be struggling with confessing feelings for me made the sex amazing.

[Anonymous No.17655830]

>>17655443
yeah, if you're a socially inept retard, go talk to the polis in the park about ur dog or smth

[Anonymous No.17655841]

>>17655398
boomer garbage

[Anonymous No.17655867]

Most of the autists here would do better to try to improve their core communication abilities, e.g. expressing yourself clearly, thinking quickly in conversation, being relaxed in public settings, etc. instead of boomer-tier marketing tricks like OP related. Try Cicero if you need a book to help you, though really you just need to go outside rather than read anything.

[Anonymous No.17655899]

>>17655501
you are the most obnoxious reader of these books that exist, I bet you study STEM like a faggot and aside from that have no idea how the real world works, with your faggoty believe in reading summaries of books on Wikipedia, the worst being that you actually BELIEVE in this gay as fucking book and meanwhile do not take the time to read it entirely

[Sage No.17655905]

Sage

[Anonymous No.17655913]

>>17655899
Simmer down champ. Listen I supersize with you but all you have to do is never complain, do what you say you are going to do, ask questions, and do deadlifts.

[Anonymous No.17655919]

>>17655398
It works for 'business' friends, networking, colleagues etc but you'll never get real friends this way, and if you do they're probably bad friends

[Anonymous No.17656101]

>>17655913
Imagine being this insufferable

[Anonymous No.17656102]

>>17655913
sry ill try

[Anonymous No.17656430]

>>17655899
Tbh he's got a point. The YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW THE REAL WORLD stuff and complaining about the STEM was cringe af

[Anonymous No.17656524]

One of my fav parts of the recognitions is a satire of that. One of gaddis's points is that it tells you how to act for the sake of whats worth having than being whats worth being. Pretty great.

[Anonymous No.17656535]

>>17655899
I bet you studied philosophy and are now a full time barista

[Anonymous No.17656556]

>>17655814
What happened?

[Anonymous No.17656558]

>>17655501
Faggot
>>17655814
You dated a bitch who give good poussi
>>17655841
Zoomer niggerfaggot
>>17655913
Phaegoat
>>17656101
Insufferable

The whole thread is insufferable

[Anonymous No.17656925]

>>17656556
She moved states and dumped me after we grew cold

[Anonymous No.17656956]

>>17656535
I am a fully tenured professor

[Anonymous No.17657139]

>>17656956
In what subject? It's odd to me that you wouldn't mention that on your own initiative. What are you hiding anon? Some branch of social studies?

[Anonymous No.17657294]

>>17657139
Indeed, I am paid by Soros to further his gender studies cause, and I hope you won't tell anyone

[Anonymous No.17657327]

>>17655398
It’s worth it. One of the few self help books that has actual science behind it.

[Anonymous No.17657331]

>>17656524
this. Gaddis btfo carneggier

[Anonymous No.17657367]

There are newer concepts for practiced socialization. Behavioral modeling is popular and treated as a serious thing by academics who study organizational efficiency and management. But overall I’d say you can distill an autistic observation of building social skills down to the idea that people have desires that they pursue to achieve personal fulfillment, and social behavior mediates a lot of that because we Live in a Society. So people often try to fulfill certain images that they want to project when socializing, unconsciously or consciously, and people who have high social skills are good at clocking what social image others are trying to project and what their desires are. They then project their own social image appropriate to building trust or good relations with the other person by appealing to their desires. But this isn’t to suggest you do this as a psychopathic robot, because in a sense it is impossible. You are also a human and derive your meaning from your own set of desires, and so people have varying interest or social value for you. So your social goals are also dependent on your own desires. So desires and image projection aren’t things only mindless NPCs do, it’s what everyone does including you, so there socializing can be a fulfilling experience of associating with people even if you are self-consciously attempting to employ an autistic awareness of people’s “archetypes” and such. But baseline socializing just involves knowing the specific cultural rules of being polite and respectful. As long as you show you have common respect for them then you can achieve neutrality with most people.

[Anonymous No.17657390]

>>17655398
its shit
a lot of stuff is contradictory as well

[Anonymous No.17657571]

>>17657331
He says something like carnigger replaces the things worth being with things worth having. Dam son

[Anonymous No.17657764]

Very good book which instructs you not to be an asshole. Turned me into a soft bitch, so I highly reccomend neitzche after.

[Anonymous No.17657891]

>>17656101
Imagine not lifting and being a whining liar bro. Sad.

[Anonymous No.17657994]

>>17655398
This is a great book. Anyone who tells you its either for autistics or for a sociopath HAS NOT READ THE BOOK. The whole POINT of the book is to become a more genuine person, and being kind to others and taking an interest in life. There's nothing "sociopathic" about it b/c you're not supposed to lie about being interested in people.

[Anonymous No.17658014]

>>17656558
Carnegie in't gonna fuck you nigga he dead

[Anonymous No.17658729]

>>17655398
No, it'll make you act like a high schooler from the 1950s, an autistic weirdo.

[Anonymous No.17658795]

>>17655398
just finished reading it overall it's a good book it just kind of repeats the fundamental shit you learn at a young age like being real/kind its really simple shit and like the other anon said its mainly about showing interest and appealing to peoples egos.

[Anonymous No.17658813]

>>17655398
It's basically
>How to manipulate people and come across as a creep that nobody wants to be around for more than 5 minutes, but: makes a good first impression in job interviews and can trick strangers into helping with minor tasks

[Anonymous No.17659076]

>>17655398
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[Anonymous No.17659097]

More like how to be a KEK and let people walk over you.

[Anonymous No.17659205]

>>17656956
And i'm a university dean

[Anonymous No.17659279]

>>17657891
Imagine reading books beyond mandatory high school literature and still having a worldview as simplistic like this

[I STAN SADE No.17659688]

>>17658014
My nigga chip'n'dale carnigger gonna fuck me with his fleshless corpse thumb

[Anonymous No.17659695]

>>17659076
note that none of this advice works on people familiar with the book, because they know you're the sort of person who would read such a book and they're on guard against your transparent attempts at manipulation. This book is the sort of book, you always know who has read it and who hasn't, and not in a good way.