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17068507 No.17068507 [Reply] [Original]

Any books about how to make frens?

>> No.17068512
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I saved this one. Haven’t looked into it yet.

>> No.17068513

in before Dale Carnagie shit


Depends on age. How old are you?

>> No.17068538

>>17068513
I am 22 kv and haven't had friends since high school. I am in my last year of college I graduate in spring and haven't made any friends whatsoever. Now that everything is online I am sad because I wish I was around other people. I have become anxious and depressed and ache for companionship with someone.

>> No.17068658

good on you OP for recognizing the importance of friends. a lot of us are lucky enough to just get them naturally, turn in old age we lose them and think "I never needed friends" while slowly growing miserable. I'm honestly not an expert but I just wanted to let you know you are on the right path and you will figure it out, just don't succumb to miserableness.

One suggestion I have is picking a hobby or volunteer activity that requires social interaction. You have to actually enjoy the activity. Get books about the activity, study it, get involved. Now you have social value with your knowledge... and the people involved will value you even if you've become weird from social isolation

>> No.17068665

>How to induce (frenly) schizophrenia 101 - anon Schekelberger

>> No.17068708

>>17068658
Volunteer for what?
I just like anime, reading, and lifting but gyms are closed.

>> No.17068728

>>17068538
You picked the wrong time to do this. Everyone is isolated now it's even harder for college students to make friends.

>> No.17068731
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This one

>> No.17069186

>>17068708
volunteer to clean up a river or habitat for humanity or whatever a church is doing

>> No.17069213

>>17068512
of course you'd need it you mentally ill tranny freak

>> No.17069290

>>17069213
b nice

>> No.17069340

>>17068507
>OP is going to waste time reading books about making friends instead of getting out of his bedroom to try and make friends.
Why are litcels like this?

>> No.17069371
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You make friends by agreeing with them, pretending to like what they like, and making them talk about themselves, and validating their boasting.

>> No.17069527

>>17069290
no

>> No.17069803

>>17069340
get out of my bedroom and go where? idk what to do. i live in suburbia.

>> No.17069824

Don't make friends, it's bad for you

>> No.17069841

>>17069824
but im lonely and want to be around people

>> No.17070189

Bump

>> No.17070411

>>17068507
Yr my fren, you did it

>> No.17071182

bump

>> No.17071199

>>17068708
>I just like anime
What anime? If you have bad taste, then maybe that's why you don't have friends.

>> No.17071208

>>17068512
>Haven’t looked into it yet.
Lmao

>> No.17071231

>>17069213
>>17069290
>>17069527
Based

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>>17069213

>> No.17071297

>>17068507
There's no book fren, you got to get out there and risk your skin. Most people are nice if you're not a total sperg and you're nice to them. Now it's not because they are nice that they will become your friend, this is just to reassure you that there is no objective risk. The only risk comes from yourself because you may judge yourself a lot, you may dwell on your failures, you may be afraid of not making it. Bullshit. Get the fuck out there and talk to people. It won't be easy, and the rona situation makes it worse, and you will fail, but each time you fail you can begin again and risk it again until you make friends. The more you risk it the better and easier it will be. Think what are you interests, make friends through that way. Don't be picky, ugly people can be your friends, old people can be your friends, schizoid niggers can be your friends. There is no formula, you just have to try to create a bond and that's it, it may work or it may not. You'll also have to do efforts, you can't "be yourself", you have to adapt, listen, engage yourself in the other person, you'll have to pretend to care for their shitty anecdotes about their shitty jobs, and if they want to be your friend they'll do the same. If they don't do the same, fuck them. If you like vidyas, go make some online friends. I usually look down on people who make such friendships, but if you have no choices, if real life is too hard right now, go for it. You deserve friends, everyone deserve friends. Friendship is very important, and you should aim for it. Social relationships are not magic, it will come through effort, but you can do it if you want. Now stand up, raise your arm and shout a few times:
I WANT FRIENDS
I DESERVES FRIENDS
I WILL HAVE FRIENDS
FRIENDS ARE GOOD FOR ME AND I WILL BE GOOD FOR THEM
I. LOVE. MY. FUCKING. FRIENDS.

>> No.17071491

>>17071231
>>17071256
see you guys encouraging this kind of behavior isn't helpful or "funny"
have you asked yourself what if an actual trans person read this?

>> No.17071497

>>17068507
Das Kapital

>> No.17071503

>>17068538
I’ll be your friend.

>> No.17071520

>>17069213
Why do you care about things that do it hurt you?

>> No.17071929

>>17068538
Are you from new york?

>> No.17072238
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>>17068507
130:7.2.When Ganid inquired what one could do to make friends, having noticed that the majority of persons whom they chanced to meet were attracted to Jesus, his teacher said: "Become interested in your fellows; learn how to love them and watch for the opportunity to do something for them which you are sure they want done," and then he quoted the olden Jewish proverb—"A man who would have friends must show himself friendly."

>> No.17072447

>>17068512
Looked up the basis of its creation. Looks promising. Gg butters.

>> No.17072747

>>17071929
Yeah. Guess you're asking because you saw my last thread.

>> No.17072754

Adults don't make friends.

>> No.17072789

>>17071199
>What anime
My favorite anime of all time is Patlabor TV. I also like UC Gundam and also Tomino in general (Xabungle and L-Gaim). 80s mecha anime. Other stuff I like: Fancy Lala, NGE, Onizuka, One Piece, Gintama, Nadesico, City Hunter, Slayers, Ippo, Touch, Ginga Tetsudou 999 (Leiji stuff in general), and more.

>> No.17073147

>>17072789
Let it be said that the reason you have no friends has nothing to do with your anime taste. In a just world, you'd be a lot happier.

>> No.17073669

>>17069213
I picked it up for you poor saps. Hence >>17071208

>>17072447
Hope it’s helpful

>> No.17073718

>>17073147
thanks bro

>> No.17074085

bump

>> No.17074790

>>17072789
My favorites are ippo and onizuka, what else would I like

>> No.17075818

Bump

>> No.17076171

>>17069371
I envy agreeable nerds with many trivial opinions you take seriously, you can make friends easy. Just go with the flow, stop looking inwards, help fill the air with sound and most people would love to have you around. As a bonus you make them look superior by comparison.

>> No.17076651

>>17074790
You will probably like Gintama and Slam Dunk. If you like delinquent stuff try the Young Onizuka OVA, Kyou Kara Ore Wa, and Be-Bop Highschool those are fun.

>> No.17077074

bump

>> No.17077607

>>17068512
>written by a woman
>written by a 'doctor' of 'psychology'
Double big yikes.
Depending on how different your are from others, and how you affect other, you might never have friends.
.t never felt a person close to me, and find everybody predictable in thought and action

>> No.17077624

>>17077607
Friendship is grounded in predictability. Predictability is often good.

>> No.17077628

>>17069371
>>17076171

Those are real friends though. That's female friendship you are describing. Deep male friendship is a symbiotic bond. An alliance in which their survival and thoughts are treated as essential for the survival of the male affinity group. Together you work to strengthen and improve each other

>> No.17077629

>>17069371
This is quite literally it, along with giving them support e.g. boosting them socially or materially.

>> No.17077644

>>17072789
Onizuka is such a heart-warming anime.

>> No.17077683

>>17077628
based

>> No.17077716

Art of War

>> No.17077729

>>17077624
Might you be mistaking trust for predictability?
I meant that I know others' positions and action, sometime even exactly what they're about to say. I chalk it up to being surrounded by lesser people, but I wouldn't call myself special, or a 180 iq genius.
I pine for an intense relationship with another human being. I'd love a clone of myself most of all, humans are nothing but an endless chain of disappointment.

>> No.17078079

>>17068512
you'll never be a woman

>> No.17078087

>>17071491
>trans
>person
seriously pick one

>> No.17078343

>>17078087
why are you so mean to trans people

>> No.17078393

>>17077729
Well, I think trust and predictability are pretty close to each other, no? Could I trust someone unpredictable? I guess I could trust them to be unpredictable - predict their untrustworthiness. But in a friendship it seems the foundation is surely that you can predict them to have in the future the same qualities that they have when you befriend them. Some of my friends are smarter than others, and the smarter they are the more unpredictable they are in certain ways (since I am not infinitely smart myself), but they are predictable in the qualities I require for friendship, which are mostly basic virtues.

>> No.17079097

>>17069371
The only valid answer. I have tried this myself, let the people talk about themselves and they will like your company, sadly the moment you start to talk about your own issues they will become bored of you.

>> No.17079101

>>17078079
based

>> No.17079105

>>17079097
Sometimes you'll meet peoples who want to talk about your issues even when you dont want to, which imo is the most annoying thing on the planet

>> No.17079304

Bump

>> No.17079511

>>17069213
BASADO
>>17071491
kill yourself

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>>17068507
CHOOSE YOUR INFLUENCE CAREFULLY

>> No.17079746

>>17079660
>"win friends"
absolutely disgusting

>> No.17079754

>>17079746
t. friend loser

>> No.17080269

bump

>> No.17080442

>>17079746
noooo the world can't be transactional this is why we need communism now

>> No.17080481

>>17079660
fuck i sometime forget peoples names

>> No.17080814

>>17077628
>survival of the male affinity group
That's perfect male friendship or brotherhood from birth you are describing. So rare or determined that it doesn't apply to this thread. Common Camaraderie is just a shared hatred for your boss (from another class) and inescapable situation. The survival of this friendship group is dependent on zero structural changes - sure there is encouragement but never any strengthening of someone new above their allotted position.

>> No.17080835

>>17078343
I declare you are now convinced that what they said was nice. The definition of nice just changed. Please start acting like it.

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>>17068512
>socially challenged

>> No.17080868

>>17072754
Is this true? If I made no friends in college is it over for me?

>> No.17080914

>>17078393
>predict them to have in the future the same qualities that they have when you befriend them
I get it, so friendship is an agreement to stunt growth, where the only real way to improve is in between the jumps from friendship to friendship. Maybe women are onto something with their fast friends. Like how career hoping improves your salary.

>> No.17081396

bump

>> No.17081468

>>17068507
We are your frens. Theres nothing else outthere for you, just degeneration and death. You are at home here, fren.

>> No.17081479

>>17081468
but you guys can't give me pussy

>> No.17081519

>>17068507
there are books on it OP, but it's mostly practice. I would definitely recommend joining a discord server or something and just talking to people. speaking of, I was looking for a thread to shill on for a while, so if you wanna join our server and practice making some frens then you're free to join
G4hr9W4S

>> No.17081575

>>17081519
what type of people are in this server

>> No.17081823

bump

>> No.17081837

>>17079660
Very American. Feels like I am talking to someone from sales.

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>>17077628
>Deep male friendship
gay

>> No.17081856

>>17081479
You want friends or you want pussy?

>> No.17082020

>>17081856
both

>> No.17082317

>>17081849
Must suck to have never had good friends

>> No.17082350

>>17082317
so tell us, what is a good representation of friendship in media? give us something to aspire to, or is it too deep and nuanced to represent?

>> No.17082456

>>17082350
I don't really know about others and how good their friendships are. But for me it is, when you build an own world with a person, that people outside don't get. Just like your own world. It needs a lot of trust, which comes from really"clicking" with another person. It's an extension to your own world, the two worlds collide and give things to each other. It's like you are reading a book, that you feel really understood and spoken to by and that teaches you something new. But you are both books, that read and write in each other. But you have to be careful of "bad friends". People that will mess up your book, or will care only about their own book. Also you should never ditch your own book for another person and fake your persona, so just that others like you. You may hide it of course, to deal with people and not cause a fuss all the time, but you won't find a real friendship that way.

>> No.17083253

Bump

>> No.17083737

Bump

>> No.17083782

>>17068512
>recommending books you haven’t read
/lit/

>> No.17084650

>>17069213
the post that SAVED /lit/