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Hello /lit/. How do I go about making non-autist /lit/ frens and women to drink with and have fun with and whatever shit friends do? I am in my last year of college and never made friends so I feel like I missed my chance and will be alone forever. I follow /lit/ accounts on twitter and whenever I hear about the /lit/ frens they have and hang out with and their bf/gfs I feel awful. I live in NY but like the suburb part in LI not the city so I just can't go out and all of a sudden meet people because there is nothing to do here and I don't drive. I resent my mother sometimes for choosing to live in the suburbs and not the city.

>> No.17060196

Is this groundhog day? I'm experiencing the exact same morning as i have 2 times before this winter.

> wake up
>have breakfast and coffee
> go back to bed and browse lit
> see a kissxsis thread
>start cooming
>feel a little bad about it
>go back to lit
>see this thread

I swear it's happened before

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17060239

>>17060177

>> No.17060519

>>17060177
Fuck off

>> No.17060527

>>17060177
>and whatever shit friends do
Lol you'll never make a non-autist friend

>> No.17060553

>>17060177
you did this exact thread yesterday fuck off retard

>> No.17060572

>>17060527
>>17060519
Sorry. I am in isolation and especially during this time of year my anxiety/depression wells up about these things. I'm lonely and making threads like this and talking with anons makes me feel a little bit better if only for a moment.

>> No.17060580

>>17060177
The friend serves for momentary bouts of socialization. Friends undergo common social situations to build common understanding and shared experience. They prefer doing things that differ from the characteristic work of their respective employments because they seek novelty.

Therefore I suggest that you interact with an acquaintance you may have and give them the following offer:
“Hello, you and I have been very busy with our employment for the past period. Do you wish to do something novel? I wish to do something novel, and our mutual opportunities expand if we consider activities that must, for all intents and purposes, require two people. Therefore, I suggest we consider doing something together”
You ought afterwords to add a statement as to your value, to convince your interlocutor to do this. You may say
“I am relatively intelligent, so my company ought be valuable”
I have found this makes many people happy when you say such things, they smile and go “Oh ok then”.

>> No.17060581

Can you make friends with fellow students? Surely, there are people who attend your school who also want friends and are interested in literature.

>> No.17060588

>>17060572
It's alright bro. Learn to drive and move out of your mom's house for a start.

>> No.17060592

>>17060177
>>/r9k/

>> No.17060611

>>17060581
Well because of covid everything is online now. I tried albeit not very hard with clubs and stuff but I shied away and only went like 2-3 times. I also go to a commuter school and had to take the train so it's harder to find anything lasting. But with covid yeah finding friends at school is pretty much off the table now. I will be graduating in the spring and next semester is online as well.

>> No.17060681

>>17060588
I failed my test 2 years ago and kind of have up after. Now my permit.expired and I'm going to go through the whole process of getting a new one. Wish I lived in the city so I wouldn't have to drive.

>> No.17060701

>>17060681
Do you go to SUNY Stony Brook?

>> No.17060720

>>17060611
I think you should try harder with the clubs, at least while you’re still a student. Yeah, they can be kind of cringe and you don’t make friends right away but the thing is it takes repeated exposure to people to 1) develop a relationship with them and 2) start to develop or identify common affinities. So I’d recommend you do that. I’d also recommend you look at like Meetup.com or something and honestly, just hang out at local libraries, book stores, cafes, etc when you can if you want.

I personally think getting a part-time job will help with getting friends also. The thing is dude, you have to do something. You have to find ways to be out of the house and interacting with other people, or at least interacting with people over the phone/computer frequently enough to get to know them personally. It’s not possible to make friends just talking to anons on /lit/ all the time.

>> No.17060730

>>17060681
Well then get your mom to hire some movers and move to the city. I'm sure she'd be glad to have you out of the house

>> No.17060734

>>17060701
I go to CUNY Queens. Used to commute there from the suburbs before covid.

>> No.17060739

>>17060720
Not OP. I know that this is how you make friends, I’ve made friends before, but after lit I’ve just found this so incredibly boring. Why would I want to meet up with someone? They’ll speak with me, but so will anyone I wish to speak to. It’s not like I’ll learn anything from the interaction, and I don’t care for the details of whatever particular person I’m speaking to.
I just find meeting people so incredibly boring.

>> No.17060747

>>17060177
it's way too late anon, if you didn't have this shit figured out by elementary school you're fucked. The best you can hope for is a sub-par imitation of true friendship and happiness.

>> No.17060750

>>17060730
Can't. We literally just moved from a suburb to another suburb (closer to the city). I told her to just get an apartment in the city because the suburbs suck and you have everything in the city but she was insistent on getting a house and didn't want to rent because it's the burger dream to get a house. Fuck houses.

>> No.17060762

>>17060750
Also before we lived in some apartment in the suburbs before. We are poor and she really believed in the burger dream of getting a house.

>> No.17060829

>>17060177
>reposts thread from yesterday
Go seek attention on Twitter or Facebook or Tiktok

>> No.17060891

>>17060747
>it's way too late anon
yeah I think that may be the case. if my condition is the same by like 25 I think I might an hero. I can't stand feeling like this any longer. I couldn't get any sleep last night.

>> No.17060974

>>17060720
I mean I can't really try with clubs now because everything is online now. Can't really try anything with school.
Thanks for the suggestions. I will probably have to get a wagecucking job anyway. Think I'm going to have to learn to drive despite not wanting to that is the biggest road block ahead of me in retrospect to going anywhere and getting in contact with others.

>> No.17061132

>>17060891
you'll get used to it.

>> No.17061150

>>17061132
I don't believe that I have been feeling like this for the past three years and winters are when it especially gets bad.

>> No.17061216

>>17061150
Your posts in this thread make you seem pathetic. Get ahold of your self, I want to slap you. Stop being such a little fag and go get your licence and get a fucking job. You deserve to feel like shit, and you know it.

>> No.17061260

>>17061150
Based on the way you're behaving in this thread you seem like an obnoxious person, I'm not surprised you don't have any friends