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Hello /lit/. How do I go about making non-autist /lit/ frens and women to drink with and have fun with and whatever shit friends do? I am in my last year of college and never made friends so I feel like I missed my chance and will be alone forever. I follow /lit/ accounts on twitter and whenever I hear about the /lit/ frens they have and hang out with and their bf/gfs I feel awful. I live in NY but like the suburb part in LI not the city so I just can't go out and all of a sudden meet people because there is nothing to do here and I don't drive. I resent my mother sometimes for choosing to live in the suburbs and not the city.

>> No.17055525

>suburbs
>can't drive
>finishing college during covid
sorry bro but you are fucked.

>> No.17055526

first stop posting this fucking frog.

>> No.17055576

>>17055494
Just go with the flow? Isn't that how friendship works? Ya know, crazy shit and the like? You dont really need anything to have fun, if bashing your head in the isnt for you and just want to be dragged around then thats more like an introvert problem. Just go with what ya want. People talking behind ya back? Who gives a shit! Theyre empty little vessels who can't really talk with each other using normal topics for conversation and need to find someone else to talk about ya know? In other words, uninteresting little shits. If thats what you also do, then just, find a nice hobby, get inside a community, and there ya go. You dont need to talk behind peoples backs if you talk about your favorite hobby no?

>> No.17055687

>>17055576
I am a pretty quiet person. I am not shy just haven't been around people that were into things I was interested in. What do I do now that I am isolated? I hate the suburbs and living with my mom is deteriorating my mental health. I feel I have missed out on a lot of things.

>> No.17055692

>>17055494
After covid ends, find pubs and cafes that do poetry readings or story slams. Interact with the people there. Write your own stuff.

>> No.17055711

>>17055692
How do I interact with rando people?

>> No.17055948

Bump

>> No.17055963

>>17055494
Anon, I just moved out of NY. I’m in PA now but I would’ve hung out and talked lit with you.

>> No.17055970

>>17055494
Just spout random nonsense when talking with different groups of people. At least one of those is bound to find you funny/interesting and accept you as part of them.

>> No.17055980

>>17055494
Do you mean that you have friends and you just want lit friends or do you mean you don’t have friends and want friends and you also want them to be lit?

>> No.17056007

>>17055980
I have no friends. I want friends that I can have fun with so probably more /lit/ oriented people but like I don't want to talk about lit all the time.

>> No.17056012

>>17056007
Lit people irl are insufferable

>> No.17056016

We're kind of close. Let's link.

>> No.17056019

>>17055711
>How do I interact with rando people?
Unironically, pick a PUA book. It might even eventually get you laid as well.
Since you're there mostly for friendship it is a win-win bet.

>> No.17056026

>>17056012
that's why I said non-autist in the OP.

>> No.17056034

>>17056019
>PUA
Aren't these memes written to make a quick buck?

>> No.17056044

>>17056016
Which part of NY are you in?

>> No.17056072

>>17056026
Unless you only want to discuss YA novels exclusively you wont find any lit person who is not an autist to some degree

>> No.17056101

>>17056034
>Aren't these memes written to make a quick buck?
They're not quite "lit/" but I know by my own experience that they do work. Think about them as amusing social experiments. Since, they'll help you shatter your bubble if you are an introvert like me. In short, they give you some useful guidelines.
Use them as an escuse to talk to random people. These books make it seem completely acceptable doing this kind of stuff. Got it?
Also, maybe pick one about "body expression". It made me see the world with another eyes (some serious life-changing shit, man). It turned my walks between crowded centers much more entertaining since then.

>> No.17056104

>>17056072
Ok that's fair I am a bit of an autist too. Just want to have fun with people that don't have a stick up their ass.

>> No.17056140

>>17056101
How specifically have they worked for you?

>> No.17056155

>>17055494
blackpeoplemeet.com

>> No.17056217

>>17056007
Do you have any ideas at all how you can make some?

>> No.17056237

>>17056217
No clue. That's why I made this thread. Wish I lived in the city so badly.

>> No.17056347
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17056347

>last friend just graduated and moved out
>I've still got another semester left
>field of study primarily takes place in wilderness or far from cities
>have no idea how to tell if a girl is interested (not a virgin)
Surely if I learn Latin and study poetry I'll get a gf.

>> No.17056370

>>17056347
what do you study

>> No.17056430

>>17056370
Wildlife Science

>> No.17056463

>>17056237
Surely, you have to have a clue. Most people make friends either through work, through school, through some other mutual commitment, or through a mutual interest. Think about how you can make friends along those lines. What about something like a lit club from your school? A part time job at a library? Meetup.com? You must have an idea.

>> No.17056477

>>17056044
Current at my parents crib on LI. Tryna get out to the city ASAP tho

>> No.17056515

>>17056430
>Wildlife Science
So, marry a monkey.

>> No.17056559

>>17056019
Follow this advice if you want to potentially inherit the demeanour of a sex deprived loser. To the credit of PUA books, they can teach you how not to treat women you’re romantically interested in. But I don’t think they can teach you how to deal with relationships beyond not fucking up the fucking part. Especially for austists, the advice can make them appear a bit... snakey.
>>17055494
OP, I’m assuming you’re completely socially inept, but also a thoughtful, and well meaning individual. As such Id read “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. Yes it’s a meme, and the tldr is smile and listen to people when they talk.
I don’t know how to find people either, I guess that’s the hard part. Good luck.

>> No.17056590

>>17056559
You call people snakey for recommending PUA literature and then you go on and rec a used car salesman's book.
Like, c'mon man???

>> No.17056620

>>17056559
I have to agree with the PUA sentiment. I had a handful of friends who fell into the PUA thing and I admit myself at one point paid attention to those characters and their advice. I lurked The Red Pill subreddit and read posts on RSD Nation. I find this a bit regrettable today. If you’re a turbo autist then yes they can help you get laid but at the expense of otherwise normal social experiences. If you take it to heart too much, it can transform you essentially into a weirdo if you’re not already, albeit a weirdo who can get laid. Personally, I believe an authentic and otherwise normal social experience is better. So I wouldn’t recommend PUA stuff.

>> No.17056632

>>17056559
>>17056590
He doesn’t need any books. He just needs to learn and experiment with people socially. Be authentic. Connect with people. That’s literally all it takes. People developed relationships for a long time before there was any PUA and Carnegie books and I’m confident that OP can continue that streak.

>> No.17056640

>>17055494
Man, I just realized how lucky I am to have a lit brother. I read a lot of fiction and he reads philosophy mainly so we always have a lot to talk about. It's also pretty candid and unpretentious. But we are both retarded. It's still better than nothing. He is so autistic though.

>> No.17056658

>>17056477
Which part of LI? I am at like the tip of Nassau the side closer to the city

>> No.17056680

>>17056640
the meme autism or actual autism? what books do you guys read?

>> No.17056689

>>17056658
I’m in suffolk rn rip. But I was going to school in Nassau probably closer to where ur at. If u drop some kind of socials or something I’ll hit u up

>> No.17056705

>>17056590
Hahaha I guess that is pretty ironic. Has pickup really helped you?
I will expand my point. I read The Rational Male, and then The Game in my late teens, and it was very eye opening about the nature of women and all that yada yada. But it also cast a fog over my eyes, and “gameified” my interactions with attractive women. That’s okay, but not optimal in the long run. Honestly I think it can drive people into a certain mania, or obsessive personality after trying to act high status/judge interactions for so long.
I know two other people who read PUA books, one of which also watches too much youtube pickup garbage. He went from quiet nerd to half baked socialite. It kind of made him insufferable to talk to.
That’s my experience at least. Oh yes, and How to win friends is a good step for quiet beginners who are already more likely to be listeners. Like OP. He should read a synopsis of the book.

>> No.17056706

>>17056515
But I'm more of a bird guy

>> No.17056715

>>17056689
What school do you go to?
There is an NY discord group that was made like February you want in? It's dead right now because there is not much to do because of covid. I will also add you on discord through that.

>> No.17056718

>>17056715
also it's really small like 8 people are in it

>> No.17056737

>>17056715

Drop the discord and I’ll join in that.

>> No.17056741

>>17056620
This guy gets it. Well put anon

>> No.17056750

>>17056737
here
https://discord.gg/KVMMw3Ck

>> No.17056773

>>17056706
>But I'm more of a bird guy
It's alright. Just don't be a cucko. Kek

>> No.17056788

>>17056715
>>17056737
>>17056750
Lord, sometimes I wish I lived near you guys. :/

>> No.17056803

>>17056788
where are you at?

>> No.17056845

>>17056803
In another Continent. So no chance of meeting some lit/ friends. I'm doomed to isolation. I might as well quit literature since it will only make me more insulated.

>> No.17056933

>>17056845
which country bro?

>> No.17057725

>>17055711
Just go and talk i remember going the first time beei g nervous as fuck beeing the biggest autist ever and still feeling like im part of the people. Just try anon

>> No.17057746

>>17055692
Don't pseuds usually go to these

>> No.17058156

bump

>> No.17058207

>>17055692
>After covid ends
heh

>> No.17058209

>>17056788
>>17056845
Z U R I C H