/lit/ - Literature

[Anonymous No.14358564]

Is it socially acceptable to write a love letter in this day and age? I have a girl that I really like, and I feel much like people of olden times would describe (an intense desire to be with, not out of lust but something in the heartstrings, heart all a flutter, etc)

[Anonymous No.14358572]

>>14358564
Girls enjoy that anon. But even though she will think it's sweet, you should prepare yourself to lose her to a black man.

[Anonymous No.14358574]

>>14358564
I dunno. But if somebody wrote one to me I'd be very flattered.

[Anonymous No.14358580]

>>14358564
I did it and weve been together for almost 2 years now but heres the catch
1. im hot
2. she was a virgin

[Anonymous No.14358581]

>>14358564
She'll prefer it if you ask her out to drinks, make a relationship, fuck on the second date, and in a year show her the love letter that you were "originally going to give to her" in a nice frame as a birthday gift.

[Anonymous No.14358591]

>>14358564
Yeah no, females don't want you to be sweet, sweet is weak and disgusting.

[Anonymous No.14358595]

>>14358574
I would too, but I am a male, which isn't the same. I'd probably appreciate if someone wrote a love letter to me out of nowhere, but I'm pretty sure the girl I like would just find it either weird or creepy. I know her, and we are friends, and I believe it's possible she might like me back. I'm just so tired of "playing the game". Flirting and all that nonsense, it's never worked before and it feels so tiresome and soulless.

But I understand that's just how it is in this day and age. I really don't want to mess things up here, she's been on my mind all over the last year

[Anonymous No.14358597]

>>14358564
I don't know how socially acceptable it is, but I write love letters and sometimes even love poems. And if the recipients of my letters are flattered rather than repulsed it's because I fall for the kind of women who appreciate such demonstrations of love. There are certainly some women who would find a love letter ridiculous and funny. So just use your best judgment to determine what kind of girl this is and act accordingly.

[Anonymous No.14358617]

>>14358595
I wrote a love letter to a friend who I had a crush on. But I never gave it to him

[Anonymous No.14358710]

>>14358597
She's not really into literature or writing, as far as I can tell. She's not a thot, she's a little dork who likes Undertale and cute little plushies and stuff, and likes to draw. She's still in HS while I'm now in college (she was a grade below me, but we had classes still and were friends in HS), and I've only reconnected to her via my cousin after not interacting for months. I can't really gage these things because I still have yet to see her in person, but I was just thinking that, even if everything else I tried failed, that a letter expressing everything I feel about her could be a decent way to get at least somewhere with her.

But I don't know, I can tell it's a bad idea even now

[Anonymous No.14358761]

>>14358564
girls in my town

[Anonymous No.14358764]

It's socially acceptable to be a faggot

[Anonymous No.14358766]

>>14358761
girls in russia

[Anonymous No.14358775]

>>14358710
I say send her a letter. She's too important to you to let a fear of embarrassment stop you. Later in life people always regret their failure to take action more than their mistakes. And if it doesn't elicit the desired response at least you will be able to say you tried, which will help you move on. But, who knows, it may work.

[Anonymous No.14358785]

>>14358775
this. regret hurts worse than cringe

[Anonymous No.14358786]

>>14358710
Anon I know for a fact it is a bad idea. Save letters and poems for when you're already with the girl.

[Anonymous No.14358804]

>>14358785
Yup, hurts worse and lasts longer.

[Anonymous No.14358808]

Women like attention (as does anyone really). When you look somewhat presentable then a Loveletter is appropriate.

[Anonymous No.14358829]

>>14358775
What, hypothetically, should I put in it? Should I talk about physical attributes I like about her? Like seeing her smile, laugh, her hair or etc?

[Anonymous No.14358996]

>>14358564
Why care whether or not it's acceptable by society?
When you say love letter, what exactly are you going to put in it?
Is it even necessary?
If you want to be with her, why not just be with her? Why write a letter?
>>14358710
So this is someone you've yet to see in person.
>>14358829
And you don't even know what you're going to write.
I don't know mate. Sounds to me like you need to have sex.

[Anonymous No.14359041]

>>14358996
I've seen and talked her in person, just not recently. We knew eachother in High School, and I graduated earlier this year while she's still in it. I asked what to write because I was actually writing it and trying to gauge what should go in it. I've since actually written and finished it, though I have no intentions of showing or sending it anytime soon.

Rest assured, I want to try and 'normally' get with her before I try anything with this

[Anonymous No.14359104]

>>14359041
Post the letter.

[Anonymous No.14359177]

>>14358564
If you're dating yeah. If not, no

[Anonymous No.14359228]

>>14358564
i'd personally find it very flattering. it feels personalized and tangible reading a physical letter written by the person it's from. i suggest you go for it, she will find it very romantic.

my first ever boyfriend asked me to be his gf in the form of a love letter. it was the day after my birthday, and he bought me a book and it had a cute little note tucked in it. he knew that i liked to read, and it was also how we started to become friends in the first place. we'd always write letters to eachother, and slip them into eachothers books and i still have every single letter he wrote to me, as a thing to remember him by. i will probably cherish them forever desu

[Anonymous No.14359231]

>>14359228
post feet

[Anonymous No.14359232]

>>14359228
sorry abt all the grammar mistakes i'm tired

[Anonymous No.14359235]

>>14358564
Only if you're good looking.

[Anonymous No.14359290]

>>14359041
>Rest assured, I want to try and 'normally' get with her before I try anything with this
The letter should compliment existing advances. It should always be part of a bigger approach, not the sole approach. So this sounds like you're going about it reasonable.

[Anonymous No.14360307]

>>14359104
>Dear [Girl]

>I like you. I really, really like you. I don't know if this comes as a shock to you, or if it's something you've suspected or felt, but I'm writing you this letter in order to express this to you.

>I have liked you since we were together in High School. I first noticed it when we sat together in Mr [Teacher]'s room learning trigonometry and all that other stuff I can't remember. I remembered not thinking much of you at first, just another classmate. But over time, I began to notice just how cute you were, and just how much I liked seeing you laugh and smile with those sweet braces of yours and that nose. I think you're absolutely adorable, everything from the way you dress to the way you draw and how you act and smile and just everything. You just stood out from everyone else

>Needless to say, I was dismayed when I discovered that you had a boyfriend, and even moreso that you were still together the next year when we were, once again, sharing a math class together with Ms [Teacher]. I do not know if you are still together with him, or someone else at this point, but it was really the only reason why I never tried to ask you out, or try to be anything other than a friend to you. I attempted to move on, going on a few dates with other girls, but I always found myself thinking about you when they never ended up working out. You stuck with me, even moreso when I learned that we were connected through my cousin [Cousin]. I always regretted that I never tried to reach out to you until very recently through her.

>I understand if you do not feel the same way for me that I do about you, I just wrote this all down so that, maybe, you would understand why I've been so interested in trying to connect to you lately. I would like to be in a relationship with you. I want to take you on dates, and watch movies with you and spoil you with gifts of cute things and see you light up whenever you receive them. I want to do these things because I really do like you and like talking to and being with you. You're like no other girl I've ever met, and I'm incredibly infatuated.

>I know letters like this aren't really in style these days, but I felt this was the only way to express how I felt about you, and to see if you were at all interested in pursuing something. I don't want to guilt you, or pressure into something you don't want. That'd be awful. And if you don't wish to respond to this, acknowledge it, or even speak to me again afterwards, I would understand. In any case, I'm glad to know you, and to be your friend. I'd like to be more, but only if you want to as well

>-Sincerely Yours
>[Anon]

Is it shit? Be honest

[Anonymous No.14360323]

>>14358564
Honestly? A love letter is acceptable AFTER you have begun a relationship with someone. If done beforehand, then it's often seen as a rather cowardly way of confessing your feelings to someone. And more often that not, it's between a guy who barely knows a girl and that girl who just knows that that guy exists.

[Anonymous No.14360329]

>>14358564
>in this day and age?
It was never acceptable, faggot. Either read more, or stay in >>>/r9k/ >>>/adv/

[Anonymous No.14360341]

>>14358595
In high school a girl wrote me a note saying that I look cool and she wants to be my friend. and I made fun of it to my friends desu and I regret it desu

[Anonymous No.14360358]

Thinking of doing something similar but she has a boyfriend and is five years older than me, someone please convince me not to do this. We work together and it will go horribly wrong in numerous ways but it physically pains me to keep seeing her and have to pretend I just see her as a normal colleague.
Every day it becomes more and more difficult

[Anonymous No.14360366]

>>14360358
Give her a loveless album

[Anonymous No.14360407]

>>14360307
If I were to receive this, the first thing
I'd pick up on is the lack of detail vs specific examples of her behavior or memories. The writing also feels a little rushed and juvenile/simplistic. Don't just sit down and crank it out. Savor the memories dude, and paint a picture that the reader can't help but fall in love with, the same way you feel when you visualize those times.

[Anonymous No.14360424]

>>14360341
My friend of a friend's mom ran into me at my after school job and suggested I ask her son to prom if I didn't already have a date (he'd liked me for a couple years, I guess). Sometime around graduation, I got stoned with the mutual friends and let that slip. They roasted him for ages. It was awful.

[Anonymous No.14360479]

>>14360407
To be honest, I don't really have any "specific" memories of her. Not really any stand-out moments that I could draw to and romanticize,!at least that I can remember. It was just a general sort of feeling that I wanted to be with her that continued to build, even moreso when I stopped seeing her too often.

I also omitted some details that I thought would be inappropriate to include (like how I initially thought of her as ugly, and an awareness of how she is not conventionally attractive, but that this is what draws me to her) as well a further delve into things I like about her would like to do with her (that would probably delve more into creepy territory).

[Anonymous No.14360514]

>>14360479
Yeah, kind of seems like you're casting her in a manic pixie dream girl role there, sport. Maybe reconnect before getting in too deep.

[Anonymous No.14360623]

>>14358564
people wrote love letters in an era when male/female interactions were moderated by the woman's family members, whereas epistolary correspondence typically wasn't. It's the 21st century and these hoes are off the chain, just go talk to her.

[Anonymous No.14360689]

Sending PM to a woman when she didn't swipe right on you is harassment. If its a physical letter its outright death threat and stalking, as it implies you know her home address and you're willing to extend your actions to IRL.

Back in the day this was deemed accepted form of communication even if unsolicited due to patriarchy, but no longer.

[Anonymous No.14360798]

>>14358564
If you are dating the person they love it. If you aren't and barely talk to them, it will likely come across to the girl as you are a stalker.

[Anonymous No.14360801]

>>14358761
I'd smash the girl that was on 32 mins ago. Tig ole biddies and not quite too fat

[Anonymous No.14360803]

>>14358766
They all look like bots

[Anonymous No.14361310]

>>14358617
are you male or female?

[Anonymous No.14361317]

>>14358564
It depends entirely on the context and the person. We don't have enough info on this person to know what they would think of it.

[Anonymous No.14361328]

>>14358761
I'm pretty sure 26 min ago is a tranny.

[Smol dude No.14361583]

>>14360307
I actually really like it, id be flattered if someone sent that to me, it feels very comfy.

2 edits tho, remove the "im incredibly infatuated" line as it kinda breaks the flow of the text, and maybe consider removing or really reworking "And if you don't wish to respond to this, acknowledge it, or even speak to me again afterwards, I would understand." As it sounds kinda pathetic or self deprecating, maybe something like "And if you just want to ignore this letter, I would understand" or something more quick and simple that doesnt change the flow.

[Anonymous No.14361727]

>>14360307
>Is it shit? Be honest
Yes it's shit.
Just the idea that your thoughts and feelings towards another person can be expressed directly through words, is very wrong. Not only is it wrong, it is unromantic. And it doesn't matter if it's in writing or you say it face to face. It is cringe.
You want to go on dates, watch movies, give gifts. Ok go do those things. Why say all these unnecessary things? You say you aren't pressuring her, but you are. You don't need to be more than a friend to do the things you say you want to do.
Right now you seem infatuated viewing her from afar with your love tinted binoculars. So every thing about her is cute and adorable and no other girl can measure up. If I was her I wouldn't be able to take you seriously.
My advice is to get close and get to know the real person. Don't put a word on your feelings. Don't say you like her or love her or infatuated by her. Just get to know the person. Do all those things you want to do with her. Then you can decide if she is actually right for you later.

[Anonymous No.14362070]

>>14358564
write me a love letter OP

[Anonymous No.14362549]

>>14358564
LOL, You'll pass as a creep. Only do this kind of shit when you are already in a relationship, and the girl already has feeling.
Perhaps is the letter is funny or well written and doesn't emphazing on your feelings for her.

[Anonymous No.14362716]

>>14358710
Make sure to spell-check your letter before giving it to her, so it doesn't include words like "gage".

[Anonymous No.14362724]

>>14360407
>>14361583
>>14361727
Thank you for your feedback. Like I've said, and like others have suggested, I most likely won't end up giving this to her and instead trying to get with her normally. I am already texting with her every few days or so, and she's said that she apparently just LOVES the store I've recently started working at, and that the only thing stopping her from visiting is that it's the holidays and her parents don't want her possibly seeing what she's getting. Apparently they're also really strict about boys, so that's also another obstacle stopping us from hanging out. Assuming she isn't just lying, of course

I dunno. Thanks for everyone's help though

[Anonymous No.14362842]

>>14358572
Based&Cuckpilled

[Anonymous No.14362937]

>>14361310
Take a guess.

[Anonymous No.14362971]

only if you plan on doing this with her

[Anonymous No.14362977]

>>14358564
i make MASSIVE schizo murals in ms paint and send them to girls on valentines day because its funny. a love letter would probably be way more effective

[Anonymous No.14363076]

A letter isn’t going to make a woman fall in love you nor is it going to repulse her from you. The reason people think writing love letters is a bad idea is because no matter what you do, there’s a chance she doesn’t like you. If she doesn’t like you, it doesn’t matter if you write a letter, call, text, whatever. They just blame the letter for some reason.

It’s a fine idea if you know each other pretty and think there’s a chance she would like you back, but then again, why do you feel like you need to write a letter? I’d be willing to bet it’s this image you got in your head of how romantic it would be, but do you care about the image or do you care about whether she likes you? You see my point. I’m not saying don’t write the letter, but I’m just saying the letter really isn’t the make or break here and also maybe think about why you want to write this letter.

[Anonymous No.14363149]

>>14358564
The romantic in me wants to say yes. That the girl will find it cute and endearing.

The man who has used steroids and whored around in me knows that what I wrote above is nothing but naive fantasy. The second you show yourself to be REALLY into her and start thinking about something more than casual is the second you kill attraction.

You need to play aloof and make her be the one to chase you, not the other way around. Won't work otherwise lad. You still need to initiate and flirt and all that shit, but nothing kills attraction faster than telling a girl you love her.

[Anonymous No.14363227]

>>14360307
way too verbiose and the prose is boring and not very interesting (or consequently memorable). it has some good qualities though. the first line is very to-the-point but i think *really, really* is a bit needless. you're putting all your cards and balls on the table which is reasonably scary to nearly any girl even if they might have the capacity to like you back. then the
>I have liked you since we were together [...]
paragraph is boring as fuck

then the
>needless to say [...]
paragraph is completely pointless biography

then the
>i understand if you [...]
is a good sentiment (i wanna be straightforward, this is how i feel, no hard feelings, etc) but again too verbiose and also then you just descend back to boring fucking restating what youve already said

then the
>i know letters like this [...]
paragraph starts alright i guess, but then you just restate the idea you tried getting across in the last paragraph aka boring

i personally wouldn't use sincerely yours either but thats a personal nitpick. id probably use regards, or even just "yours". i think its better to be a bit more neutral or elliptical in the ending. its a lot for a girl to read a love letter i wouldnt want to make her more nervous than she needs to be. my prose should speak for itself

[Anonymous No.14363238]

>>14360307
Holy shit, does this girls name start with an M? If so I think im the ex bf and holy shit let me tell you she's a freak, don't buy the " I don't swallow " line, she def does, you just have to tell her to get on her knees and she'll listen.

[Anonymous No.14363249]

>>14360307
also i want to add that even if you cant think of anything interesting to say you don't need to be original. literally just look up "civil war love letters" or just copy/reword some pretty love prose you recently read from a book or something. there's nothing wrong with this.of course don't jack the whole thing. use it like you would in an english essay, to reinforce the overarching point you are trying to make and integrate it nicely.

[Anonymous No.14363254]

>>14363238
not that guy but yes it does. i know this because i dated her even before you did and i colloquially "left the nuts hanging out" many times. came inside her raw, even. i hope you enjoyed my sloppy seconds

[Anonymous No.14363268]

Yes!! You should write her a letter! Girls love reviving love letters and most guys don’t do it so it will be extra special if you do. Even if she doesn’t like you make she will probably still keep the letter and be very flattered. Good luck!!!

[Anonymous No.14363270]

>>14363268
Why is it so easy to spot a women by her writing.

>>14363254
That's a lie because I broke her hymen, I witnessed the blood on my cock and the torn bits of skin.

[Anonymous No.14363276]

I wrote a love letter to a girl in my sophomore year of college. She was a friend of mine and was really flattered, but told me she couldn't accept it because she was an alcoholic and would be abusive in a relationship with me.

[Anonymous No.14363297]

>>14363270
>That's a lie because I broke her hymen
hmm doubtful because i did

>I witnessed the blood on my cock
sounds like she was on her period

>and the torn bits of skin.
the fuck ??? that not only doesnt happen but that sounds just like the STD i gave her. enjoy anon

[Anonymous No.14363320]

>>14363297
>the fuck ??? that not only doesnt happen but that sounds just like the STD i gave her. enjoy anon
She didn't have an STD because I took her to a screening before we had sex, the doctor both confirmed she had a hymen and was clean.

I then proceeded to bang the shit out of her, im talking ass to mouth, mouth to ass, ass to pussy, pussy to ass, mouth to pussy, pussy to mouth. WILD.

[Anonymous No.14363348]

>>14363320
>She didn't have an STD because I took her to a screening before we had sex, the doctor both confirmed she had a hymen and was clean.
i actually remember this because im the doctor. there's nothing more exhilarating than giving a vaginal examination in such circumstances. yeah she was "clean" alright. i'm glad you had fun though, guess you didn't notice all the semen given her period

[Smol dude No.14363352]

>>14362724
No problem man, happy to help.

[Anonymous No.14363373]

>>14363348
You can't be the doctor because the doctor was a woman. You've been caught in an open lie, you're a fraud incel who's mad at all the sweet oven lovin ive been getting

[Anonymous No.14363392]

>>14363270
It’s not that easy!!!! You might be wrong :0

[Anonymous No.14363564]

>>14360307
>I think you're absolutely adorable, everything from the way you dress to the way you draw and how you act and smile and just everything.
you didn't even think of anything specific? you can't remember one thing she said a long time again or did that was qt? let me give you an example: there's this girl i went to middle school with who i sometimes see at her work, whom i never actually talk to nor do i really want to, but if i had some kind of crush on her i would bring u the time in 5th grade when she had this water bottle that said "pete" on the bottom for some kind of recycling label so she thought the bottle was named pete and kept it as a pet. also i would get my mom to buy me bakugon toys and i would sell them to other kids and shit, like proto drug dealer stuff, just moving shitty toys and gum for kids lunch money lol, and i remember one time i sold her this little bakugon ball for 8 dollars but she told me i had to wait one day so she could get the money from her mom. so yeah she came in the next day with 8 dollars and bought it from me, but like idk girls weren't into this shit and she told me she used to have a crush on me the following year, so i think it was qt and funny. one time in 5th grade this other girl burnt me a CD of flight of the conchords music out of the blue cause she showed me a song by them and i thought it was funny. it doesn't even have to be stuff like that though, like for some reason in high school i remember this one girl said she wanted to move to alabama when she was older, so if i had a crush on her i would bring that up, you know what i mean?
>You just stood out from everyone else
i mean did she really or do you just want to coom in her more than the other girls, because you couldn't even come up with a single instant in time where you thought she did anything special to you.
>Needless to say, I was dismayed when I discovered that you had a boyfriend,
this shit is cringe as fuck
>I just wrote this all down so that, maybe, you would understand why I've been so interested in trying to connect to you lately.
you know what's not going through her mind when you contact her? "jeez look at this guy contacting me out of the blue, whatever could he want?"
you know what is going through her mind? "oh look this fucking loser is trying to get into my pants."
>I would like to be in a relationship with you. I want to take you on dates, and watch movies with you and spoil you with gifts of cute things and see you light up whenever you receive them.
i can already audibly hear the pussy drying up
>I want to do these things because I really do like you and like talking to and being with you. You're like no other girl I've ever met, and I'm incredibly infatuated.
you can say this but you haven't even given an example, like i said before, so she 100% is just going to think you're a beta male trying to use tactics to get into her pants. your words are meaningless.

when was the last time you masturbated?

[Anonymous No.14363587]

>>14363348
>>14363320
>>14363297
>>14363270
>>14363254
>>14363238
kino

[Anonymous No.14363701]

If you can write well, go for it. Don’t do it if your writing will make her cringe.

[Anonymous No.14363731]

>>14363373
Can confirm this, I am the doctor, fucked her on the medical bed after I got the report that she was free of STD's, suck it faggota

[Anonymous No.14363998]

>>14358564
I write love letters to this girl I'm in a romantic relationship with (not really my gf at this point), and she loves them. It might be weird or creepy if she hasn't shown signs of interest before, though.