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I am at a crossroads in life and I am paralyzed by indecision. I'm delaying the future day by day and wasting time because no matter what I do something is hurt, whether my dream, my career, or my family. If anyone has had an epiphany about which direction to steer their life in after reading a book, please recommend that book.

>> No.14125620

>>14125608
Like my father told me the night I lost my virginity, “pick one, they all cost the same.”

>> No.14125641

>>14125620
A rotten tree produces rotten fruit.

>> No.14125719

There's no single book but I just recommend you read. You are trying to become your self. Part of that self becoming, that self knowledge is reading and developing taste, more thoughts, higher thoughts. Go find some classic books that interest you,open them up, and refuse to give up

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>>14125608
give this a go anon

>> No.14126027

>>14125719
Ironically I read about 50 books this year, most being classics. I had an excellent time but it didn't exactly give me practical advice for my own life situation.
>>14125726
If it offers general life advice, maybe, but if it's about finding your ideal career I've already done that.

>> No.14126984

>>14125608
OP, how old are you? Because I'm 22 and in the exact same situation. I have no idea what direction to go regarding my future, and every option I can think of requires me to sacrifice or severely compromise something I don't want to.

>> No.14127884

>>14126984
I'm 28. Went to college, grad school, got the job I wanted but I hate where I live and I haven't had friends in years. The only thing I'm really excited about is the fact that I could easily transfer to an office in Asia - Japan, Korea, etc. and keep working for the organization I'm with now. But my parents have made it clear they would see it as abandoning them in their old age. As a result I've lost enthusiasm for the plan and just feel unable to act. In addition I increasingly feel disgust at the average person and especially people where I live but the downside of that is loneliness as I avoid associating with anyone outside of work.

>> No.14127896

“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor, and another fig was Ee Gee, the amazing editor, and another fig was Europe and Africa and South America, and another fig was Constantin and Socrates and Attila and a pack of other lovers with queer names and offbeat professions, and another fig was an Olympic lady crew champion, and beyond and above these figs were many more figs I couldn't quite make out. I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn't make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet.”

>> No.14127918
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>>14125608

"make love the foundation for everything you do"

>> No.14128594

>>14125608

>He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal.

>> No.14128603

>>14128594
How does one hate life?

>> No.14128784

>>14128603
read my diary desu

>> No.14128811

>>14128603

Dispassionately.

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>>14125608

>> No.14128932

>>14128811
but what do you do

>> No.14128943

>>14125608
Read Discourse on Method, the section about traveling straight through a forest so that you reach a destination rather than wondering and never going much of anywhere.

Also follow your literal dreams. Listen to them and do what they say or you will never be happy. If you need help understanding them read Joseph Campbell and Jung. If you aren't true to your unconsious self you will never be happy.

>> No.14129150

>>14125608
In the moment of the decision you will make the decision automatically and emotionally. For now you can either worry about it or take a deep breath and be grateful for the present moment.

Watch yourself make the decision when the moment comes. You will find out what is truly important to you and you will get a glimpse at who you truly are.

Maybe read Either/Or.

>> No.14129992

>>14127884
What makes you think you would be less lonely living in Asia?

Suffering is a result of desire. What do you really desire?

>> No.14130185

>>14125726
Not OP but I found my passion and it ruined my life. It literally did. I wish I had never found this calling. There's a fire inside me that I cannot quench and it's just burning me alive.