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[Anonymous No.13815735]

How do I rid myself of all sexual desires? I have now started realizing that sexual intercourse and the desire to have it is a distraction. The problem is, we are all still humans, and we have these urges which are left over from our more primitive times on the planet.
I want to be rid of these urges, in other words, I want to be chaste. What are the steps some great thinkers have undertaken to perform this? Thanks in advance.

[Anonymous No.13815746]

Buy a mirror

[Anonymous No.13815751]

>>13815735

[Anonymous No.13815763]

Castrate yourself, or better, get a doctor to castrate you in a safe and clean manner.

[Anonymous No.13815768]

>>13815735
I have clinical depression so I'm on anti-depressants and one of the lucky side effects is that it decreases my sex drive or libido or whatever to the point where I rarely think about it. Sort of like the main character in Houellbecq's Serotonin. Before it, when I was in a room or place with women, I was such a cumbrain so all I thought was about fucking the attractive ones, now I don't really care about them and I can concentrate in my purpose in life. Feels good, man.

[Anonymous No.13815777]

>>13815735
Unironically masturbate. You don't feel thirsty after a fap.

[Anonymous No.13815785]

>>13815777
But Nofap bruh

[Anonymous No.13815788]

>>13815735
read Father Sergius by Tolstoy

[Anonymous No.13815791]

>>13815768
this, i was on prozac for a bit, and it made my dick permanently numb. I tried jerking off out of curiosity, not desire, and it didnt work.

[Anonymous No.13815808]

>>13815785
If you constantly have sex in your mind to the point where it is deeply intruding in your life it is better to jack than to do something you might regret.

[Anonymous No.13815810]

>>13815735
Eat lesser amounts of food, it helps alot, at least for me, sure thing

[Anonymous No.13815813]

>>13815763
Nah, just pay a brain surgeon to remove the third interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus.

[Anonymous No.13815844]

90 day nofap

[Anonymous No.13815846]

>>13815777
>get all the negatives of sex without any of the positives

[Anonymous No.13815871]

>>13815846
Negatives of sex? Please explain.

[Anonymous No.13815877]

>>13815871
addiction, guilt, etc.

[Anonymous No.13815889]

>>13815768
>>13815791
Damn. How old are you guys? No bully
https://youtu.be/stDhBFwRbI0
He was only at 3-4 times a week, but it still seems strange. What are the other effects on life if you can't even enjoy sex?

[Anonymous No.13815896]

>>13815877
That not true, when you have a girlfriend shit like Addiction an Guilt, like, x10

[Anonymous No.13815901]

>>13815889
And more importantly, can you get it up for a real woman (I mean if you tried to be interested, she was really hot etc.)? Would be an interesting study to see how many people lose sex drive completely and others just regarding masturbation.

[Anonymous No.13815913]

>>13815889
I'm 23. I can enjoy sex, but I just don't actively pursue it like I used to before the drug, which is fine, because I'm disappointed in women, and I guess it flows both ways.

[Anonymous No.13815931]

you know i like boobs but I thought about like what if i woke up one day and was asexual.
Then I'd see boobs as a two lumps of fat on womans chest and would probably feel dumb that I was so obsessed with them before.

[Anonymous No.13815990]

>>13815813
Castration would be easier, and could probably be done by any competent veterinary

[Anonymous No.13816010]

Same OP, I genuinely hate women but can help wanting to fuck them due to the fact of my brain think about sex

[Anonymous No.13816063]

you all need to be committed.

[Anonymous No.13816071]

>>13815871
The penis is located too close to one's wallet. This certainly is a design flaw.

[Anonymous No.13816073]

>>13815901
I can have sex but I don't pursue it (I'm >>13815768 and >>13815913 btw)

[Anonymous No.13816433]

>>13815751
Interesting. Anybody here read it?

[Anonymous No.13816917]

wish someone informed would respond, i feel like there as extremely interesting literature about this perspective.

[Anonymous No.13816921]

>>13816433
bump

[Anonymous No.13816966]

Bump. Sexual desires are a true hindrance at this point in my life. Buddhism supposedly promotes chastity, but I haven't read what it suggests to pull it off yet (and, Culadasa makes me doubt the veracity of their claims.)

[Anonymous No.13817183]

>>13815791
I recently got prescribed prozac... can you further explain the effects it had on your mind and body? what made you stop taking it?

im seeing a psychologist weekly but I feel so opposed to taking medication because its 'soma'

[Anonymous No.13817189]

>>13815735
After you engage in a sexual act (some form of intercourse or even just masturbation), hurt yourself badly. Not just a scratch, but at a minimum a broken bone. After 3 or 4 injuries, you'll stop having a strong desire for sex.

It's important the injury is severe enough though, otherwise it won't stick.

[Anonymous No.13817350]

>>13815777
You actually do. It's like drinking salt water and after the brief refractory period ends, it comes back with a vengeance. Soon enough it becomes a daily or thrice daily habit. The more you feed it, the stronger it grows and the more hold it has over you, brainet retard.

[Anonymous No.13817374]

>>13816966
read about asubha, body contemplations and mindfulness of death practices.
Culadasa doesn’t talk about those in his books and I’m pretty sure he didn’t practice them himself

[Anonymous No.13817422]

>>13817374
thank you friend, fuck yeah. Do you have any particular references you'd recommend to begin with? I'll Google my way to it otherwise, I'm glad to have this much direction

[Anonymous No.13817526]

>>13817350
take this advice. just look at most people. Dude sex. Dude tinder. dude porn! they're masturbating or fucking daily. it doesn't stop anything. just more fuel to the fire. the ancient saints compared fornication to being on fire because it spreads and is hard to put out.

[Anonymous No.13817535]

>>13815735
Just get a doll

[Anonymous No.13817558]

>>13817535
Both are pathetic and inferior to a state of chastity and continence.

[Anonymous No.13817608]

>>13817422
bhikkhu analayo has some guided body contemplations and mindfulness of death I think as a part of his guided satipatthana meditation.
Check out this website: https://32parts.com/
This is also helpful:
https://youtu.be/8Xy01jkEsnQ
I’d like to remind you that in addition to these practices, meditations conducive to direct insight (such as traditional satipatthana-vipassana or shikantaza) tend to be enormously helpful in curbing sexual cravings the more you develop wisdom/prajna. It just won’t obsess your mind the same way it does for a puthujjuna. Emptiness practices in addition to traditional vipassana are highly important as well (though probably better after a fair degree of insight has been realized through traditional vipassana first). Rob Burbea is unironically good for that kind of thing.
Visiting charnel grounds to watch bodies decay is another common practice among monastics, especially in the more reclusive traditions like the Thai Forest Tradition. If you can’t do that, there are facebook groups dedicated to asubha where they essentially post gore, old people, people with skin-eating diseases...etc. I imagine it wouldn’t be hard to find websites dedicated to that sort of thing.
Lastly, make sure to balance with mettā and samadhi practice if you start to feel like you’re going mad from the asubha stuff.

[Anonymous No.13817648]

>>13817350
good post

[Anonymous No.13817788]

>>13815735
Read the confessions of st. Augustine

[Anonymous No.13817922]

>>13815735

if you wank enough eventually you will need to think of some really specific shit to get off, and you will also break your physiology and usher in dick failure. along with this, a drop in libido (and arguably, demotivation). source: my life

[Anonymous No.13817939]

>>13817535
>Masturbates into his own hand like a gay

[Anonymous No.13817957]

>>13815735
>these urges which are left over from our more primitive times on the planet
Don't kid yourself. There's nothing primitive about procreation. It's the basis for life itself.

[Anonymous No.13818047]

My sex drive died after a soul-destroying relationship with a particularly unscrupulous succuba ended. It's really quite a blessing. When I see a shapely girl now I still get desire, but it is followed by thoughts of that previous relation which ends the urges pretty quickly.

I don't practice nofap. I treat masturbation as a bodily function that I need to take care of every few days. I don't spend 30 minutes finding the perfect video and an hour edging. I just pound one out dry in like 5 minutes; usually to the same video of mike ardiano getting his dick sucked and asshole rimmed at the same time. (For me the more gonzo type stuff helps dissociate what I'm watching with my reality)

[Anonymous No.13818120]

>>13817350
>It's like drinking salt water
I liked this example

[Anonymous No.13818287]

>>13817608
Thank you friend, you have helped me more than I can say.

[Anonymous No.13818467]

>>13817957
It's primitive in the sense that sexual intercourse is no longer needed to create offspring.

[Anonymous No.13818705]

>>13818467
And yet it is still the quickest and easiest way.

[Anonymous No.13818710]

>>13815735
do like 7-8 tabs of acid

[Anonymous No.13818717]

>>13815735
>"Distraction"
>Naturalist paradigm
Enjoy your slavery to sin, anon. You will never be able to once and for all overcome such urges except with the help of God.

[Anonymous No.13818756]

>>13815735
Get married. Nothing kills desire like 20 years of marriage!

[Anonymous No.13818804]

>>13817922

[Anonymous No.13818814]

>>13815735

[Anonymous No.13818857]

You can end sensuality by practicing Dhamma. Here are some meditation instructions on how to do so:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQPtqBlZQGM

[Anonymous No.13818865]

>>13818857
> Dhamma
It's Dharma you retard. The chinks didn't know how to say it properly.

[Anonymous No.13820259]

>>13815735
We just maybe cursed in entire life