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[Anonymous No.13659930]

how do i stop being so anxious about life and just start living it?

[Anonymous No.13659940]

>>13659930
idk bro just read a book or something

[Anonymous No.13660020]

>>13659930
You are seeking wisdom, which comes from experience, which comes from foolishness. Time, experience, making mistakes, suffering. Basically living your life is the usual route. I am in my mid fifties and I am still at it, wiser than I was at twenty, not as wise as I will be at seventy.

[Anonymous No.13660024]

Go do something uncomfortable. Go practice boxing and get punched in the face. Go and hike alone in nature for a couple of days. Walk up to a group of people and say something, no matter how stupid. If it doesn't scare you, you're not doing it right. If it doesn't faze you, you're doing nothing at all.

[Anonymous No.13661375]

>>13660024
But I don't want people to find out I'm mentally unstable and socially inept, so I just stay silent unless I absolutely have to speak. Speaking reveals myself to people, and I hate that. It makes me feel like they're inspecting my soul with a magnifying glass.

[Anonymous No.13661491]

>>13661375
Even if you don't speak, you're giving it away with your body language.

Much better to let it out. You'll feel relieved when you realize it's alright to be yourself

[Anonymous No.13661506]

>>13661375
you must recognize that most people, if they have a shred of goodness in them, are not as harsh as you believe. They dont "want" your input, but they do not mind it either. Smile, act in good faith, and attach yourself to those that do the same. Surprisingly, you will find that many share your anxieties; you need only step out and view it for yourself.

[Anonymous No.13661514]

>>13661375
>But I don't want people to find out I'm mentally unstable and socially inept
you can't consider yourself a man until you stop giving a fuck what people think

[Anonymous No.13661536]

>>13660024
I tried this once. I went up to a small group of people hanging out at my community college's cafeteria and told them that Abe Lincoln wanted to send the slaves back to Africa. I had to go to a meeting with the diversity counselor and student affairs a few days later.

[Anonymous No.13661652]

>>13661536
Based. Now keep on doing this and you’ll end up with like-minded friends who will be far more precious to you than most of the laymen around you. I started doing this at 14, unintentionally ended up in a school for the psychologically ill, and a close friend who is reactionary right, flamboyantly-french friend and only wears clown attire. Later on in sixth form I met my voluntarily hobo stoic math hermit gf who mentored me into cambridge and survived on a diet of shitty gruel Id help cook up for her every morning. I even managed to get a miniature army of orthodox christian concubines (non-sexual) who would gift me loads of veils and flower bouqets every sunday by dressing as a medieval executioner and orating a mix of continental philosopher’s ideals, acting like I invented them, and falsely presenting them as if they were the truth. Nevertheless, I got beat the shit out of by them by the end of it once they found my diary desu that unsheathed all of my secrets, but it’s okay because everything is a learning experience. I also talk to William Pitt The Younger at his grave and sometimes recite poetry to him- when is a good listener, kek.

[Anonymous No.13661660]

>>13661652
and ended up with a close friend*
when he is a*

[Anonymous No.13662243]

>>13659930
Stop caring what other people think, do things that make you uncomfortable over and over again until you feel comfortable doing them, and don't fight or resist any anxiety, just let it be there and get on with your day.

[Anonymous No.13663104]

>>13660024
>>13661652
Thank you anon, I really appreciate your answers. Ever since I became 13, I’ve been feeling a shell of my former self. I guess you could say I was thoroughly socially castrated into good behavior.
No longer shall I live chained. I will break free!

[Anonymous No.13664409]

>>13663104
BASED
I wholeheartedly believe in you, friend!

[Anonymous No.13664427]

Get out of your comfort zone. Just doing it once will get you going. Then just keep putting yourself out into the world.

[Anonymous No.13664553]

This thread just made my day

[Anonymous No.13664604]

>>13663104
I am with you all the way Anon. I can distinctly remember the last time I felt my absolute self and was engulfed in pure joy. It was around 13 and I remember being old enough to play outside after dark, the summer heat as my brother and I watched cartoons. Hell, I can even remember the smell of the hair gel I got at the barber's for my new haircut for my first day of school. Some days I'll smell something or eat something or even just see the color of the sky during sunset and it takes me back there.

Some days I feel so far removed from that joy that it's tough to carry on but I do and you will too. We're gonna make it anon.

[Anonymous No.13664702]

>>13661652
Kek
Very imaginative, i would read your book.

[Anonymous No.13664710]

>>13659930
Get HIV and dedicate your life to spreading it.

[Anonymous No.13664817]

>>13659930
booze

[Anonymous No.13664839]

>>13664817
Unironically this. Get an ever so tiny buzz going. Placebo yourself into thinking you have one. Analyse what it is that makes you feel more confident when drunk.

[Anonymous No.13664842]

>drink dont think

[Anonymous No.13664885]

>>13661375
noone can "inspect" you the same way that you do yourself, which is undoubedly unforgiving and (maybe) even too harsh. so no rando can even get that close to you just by observing or listening to your shit because, surprise, theyre not you and don't care nor have the capacity to the same extent.

[Anonymous No.13665224]

>>13659930
Solve your reoccurring problems.
Random bad events can happen to anyone and there is nothing to be done except try to roll with it afterwards, but I bet not all of you anxiety is irrational. You're likely identifying real pain points in your life and these won't go away unless you make them go away through deliberate action.

Fixing your reoccurring problems could require more drastic action than you've considered in the past, but you need to do whatever it takes.

[Anonymous No.13665298]

>>13659930
After leaving home I made every major life decision on a whim, I don't know exactly where I'm going but it'll either be a throne or a gutter

[Anonymous No.13665322]

>>13661375
I feel the same way. My current default is to hide from the world, but I cannot live my life from the safety of my man cave.
Good advice in the thread so far. Peace.

[Anonymous No.13665894]

>>13659930
Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.
https://discord.gg/P4ENU37

[Anonymous No.13665991]

>>13664710
based and bugpilled

[Anonymous No.13666397]

my mom doesnt let me do stuff to be honest with you guys
im pretty much stuck in front of my computer until school begins

[Anonymous No.13666478]

>>13659930
Some responses I like are
>>13660020
>>13660024
>>13662243
>>13664427
>>13665224
The reoccurring problems in your life or why you get anxious is a result of fearing failure. I get it man. The best thing for you is to learn what it is like to fail so you can work from there. Everything at the beginning is the worst. When you start lifting you get no gains and your body will receive the most extreme soreness from exercise. Start now before it gets worse. Every minute you waste, you will never get back. Start now but don't be obsessive either. Life is about balance.

[Anonymous No.13666698]

>>13659930
Go out and embarrass yourself in public enough times to where it no longer phases you. The first couple times you do it, you’ll be lying in bed feeling remorseful. Rationalize that feeling. Ask yourself why you should feel remorseful? Try to get yourself to understand that you have a better chance at achieving your dreams by being known, even in an embarrassing light, then being a weak anxious loser who is afraid of his own shadow.

[Anonymous No.13667864]

/fast/ and get uncomfortable

[Anonymous No.13667869]

>>13659930

[Anonymous No.13668203]

>>13665322
Same here. I go through periods where I feel more social and outgoing, followed by months when I shut myself in and barely talk even with my friends. Then suddenly the fog lifts and I’m back to being more pro-social. It’s like I’m very easily discouraged on some level, a small event can easily reverse my attitude from outward looking to its opposite. Part of me thinks that that’s just how I am and I should learn to live with these waves, but I just wish they were a bit less extreme and more balanced. I also feel the need to challenge myself more and put myself in ‘uncomfortable’ situation to increase my tolerance levels. Good to see there are people dealing with similar things.

[Anonymous No.13668236]

>>13659930
You lack perspective. Through brain chemistry or social isolation, you have lost the capability to project your image into the wider social context. You believe everyone is looking at you, that everyone is judging you, and that everyone has their own affairs in perfect order.

You don't understand that literally every single person on the planet experiences what you do, and that they have a wherewithal to place that discomfort into its appropriate context. They accept it as a necessary and unavoidable component of living and occupy their time with whatever they find meaningful.

[Anonymous No.13668769]

This is my favorite thread on this website.

[Anonymous No.13668782]

>>13659930
write a journal

[Anonymous No.13668836]

>>13661375

It doesn't matter, the remedy is to make an ass of yourself until you get the hang of things. You need to accept that you're not perfect, and that's ok. I think you might be slightly narcissistic, and are simply afraid of people seeing you for less than you imagine yourself being.

[Anonymous No.13668899]

xanax

[Anonymous No.13668905]

>>13659930
>how do i stop being so anxious about life and just start living it?


By living it despite your feelings of anxiety, id est: facing your fears.

[Anonymous No.13669141]

>>13659930
I find what helps me a lot is just to remember that I'm just an ape on a giant rock floating through the vastness of space. I don't have to give a fuck about things and can just do what I want.

Also fast for a week, it'll put you mentally back on track.

[Anonymous No.13670027]

>>13668899
The worst solution to anxiety problems, hands down.