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/lit/ I need some help.

Basically a girl who is out of my league asked me on a date, the only problem is I've been more terrified than happy. For the past couple months I've been extremely depressed and I've lost most of my self worth. I also have social anxiety.

Do you guys have any book recs to make me stop being a pussy before the date? Even though an attractive girl is showing interest in me I still hate myself. How do I go from full on doomer who's afraid of getting close to people to a bloomer who has a sense of self worth and isn't a coward?

>> No.13137274

>>13137273
nigga this aint fucking /adv/ go back to your incel forum retard

>> No.13137276

>>13137273
Take the leap, my friend. You dont need a book.

>> No.13137280

>>13137273
You are blessed by destiny, OP.
Just be yourself and let your dreams come true.

>> No.13137281

>>13137273
"The instant of decision is madness" -Kiekegaard.

Just go and do it. Worse case, you mess up. Learn from it, move from it, and then do it again to someone else in a year.

Also, certainly not Sorrows of Young Werther, Goethe

>> No.13137297

>>13137273
I was similar situations and let me tell you, you are fucked. You'll lose yourself completely in this girl and you'll do it voluntary, since you have no other choice (expect killing yourself right now).
God speed.

Pro tip: don't even try to let her see your "real" self, you little depressed shithead

>> No.13137322

>>13137273
You're gonna fail, but that is okay.

>> No.13137326

>>13137297
The ironic thing is that I've been so desensitized of human attachment that I don't even know how I feel about this girl. She's objectively beautiful and yet I feel empty inside. However I've noticed a slight change in myself since she asked me. I almost feel like I have something to live for, something meaningful that makes me want to live. So although I'm scared I think this is my ticket out of nihilism and despair. I know you're speaking words of discouragement, but it's nothing that I haven't already said to myself. I think it's time to prove myself wrong.

>> No.13137332

do they still expect you to pay for it even if they are the ones asking you

>> No.13137335

>>13137273
this board sucks

>> No.13137336

>>13137326
I'm kind of in the exact situation as you op and I'm alternating between feelings of apathy and stress/anxiety. I haven't felt good about it at all yet and it’s tomorrow

>> No.13137340

>>13137335
When did it become r9k?

>> No.13137366

>>13137326
I'm not speaking words of discouragement, it's the opposite. Go for it. I'm just stating that you don't know anythng about nihilism and despair yet, you pussy. Once she has left you (and she will leave you because you don't own the right mindset to have a healthy relationship yet) you may have learned enough to become a "bloomer", as you called it. Go all the way.

>> No.13137373

>>13137335
Sorry I guess I should have framed my questing more around the book recommendation. I've been reading doomer-core books for the past couple of months and ever since I was asked out I've completely lost interest in them. I usually turn to literature to understand how I'm feeling but in the face of this newfound meaning I don't know where to turn.

>> No.13137377

>>13137373
checked

Steppenwolf by Hesse.
Although it's shit, it's a good example for a transition from doomer to bloomer
(and maybe your girl read it, too)

>> No.13137381

>>13137281
Thanks, I like that quote. I've turned down offers for dates before but I guess I'm just tired of living in fear.

>> No.13137391

>>13137373
sage unrelated to literature. this post would get 100+ replies on r9k go post over there sage

>> No.13137400

>>13137366
Thanks, I know deep down your words have some truth. I've always been scared of commitment out of fear of how things will end. However I'm not scared of what will happen to me, I'm scared of inadvertently hurting another person out of ignorance or weakness of character. I guess I'll take the dive and learn from it.

>> No.13137405

>>13137400
fuck you cunt i wish mods would prune this shit

>> No.13137419

>>13137400
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1_T6XMDg53g

>> No.13137543

>>13137400
Something that I often find can serve to help me out in situations of stress when I feel really emotionally stretched out is reflecting on my cosmic insignificance and just how small I am compared with planets millions of times larger than myself with a sun that’s even larger than that inside an incomprehensibly gigantic solar system which is nothin more than a speck in the universe. So when you've got a problem, remember in the scheme of things your punt, little, tiny, weeny, meager, futile, worthless, boring, foolish, pointless, minimal, wretched, gloomy, bleak, and pitiful life just does not count and it will probably be 7,500,000,000 years before the sun consumes the earth.

>> No.13137561

>>13137326
>some random chick asks you out
>now life has meaning
woah so this is the power of the philosophically minded modern man

>> No.13137572

>>13137561
you're just mad that beautiful girls aren't interested in you

>> No.13138987

>>13137366
this anons gets it.

>> No.13139540
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>>13137572
how do I get a gf

>> No.13139698

>>13137326
>this is my ticket out of nihilism and despair.
Counteract those thoughts, ur bound to be dosappointed thinking like that.