/lit/ - Literature

[Anonymous No.13054391]

is reading in a coffee shop /lit/ approved?

[Anonymous No.13054399]

>>13054391
only if your goal is to meet girls. otherwise you're wasting your time, it's too distracting.

[Anonymous No.13054400]

>>13054399
meeting girls in a coffee shop is a myth

[Anonymous No.13054409]

>>13054400
i did it last weekend. also if they have an outdoor patio area and you bring your dog with you it's so easy.

[Anonymous No.13054416]

Caffeine is bad drug, OK. Nicotine bad

[Anonymous No.13054420]

>>13054391
It's pretty comfy but it's always been a bourgeoisie aesthetic.

I guess it's like asking "is it ok to wear tracksuits in public".

[Anonymous No.13054427]

>>13054409
how do you do it?

[Anonymous No.13054441]

>>13054400
the last wedding i went to they met in a starbucks

[Anonymous No.13054445]

>>13054391
Yes, but it has to be a local shop. It can't be a fascist, racist chain à la Starbucks or Panera. Again preferably locally owned, vegan, gluten-free and no boomers allowed whatsoever. Bonus points if it's located in area that white liberal millenials are trying to regentrify.

[Anonymous No.13054448]

>>13054427
literally just sit there with your dog and read. the women will come and ask you if they can pet it. the smaller and cuter the dog the better.

[Anonymous No.13054457]

>>13054448
i cant afford a dog

[Anonymous No.13054467]

>>13054457
then you certainly cant afford a woman, anon.

[Anonymous No.13054472]

>>13054457
Dogs are free at your local dog shelter. If you can't afford the upkeep/food, you can often 'check out' the dog like you would a book in a library just volunteering to go and walk/socialize the dog. Pick a cute one, and you are set.

[Anonymous No.13054475]

>>13054472
>>13054467
i work 50 hour weeks, i'd feel bad leaving a dog at home in my small apartment all day.

[Anonymous No.13054479]

>>13054472
>'check out' the dog like you would a book in a library
Is this real?

[Anonymous No.13054485]

>>13054391
Sure, what else are you going to do in a coffee shop by yourself?

[Anonymous No.13054500]

>>13054479
Depends on the animal shelter, but many do have programs like this. I know that several shelters in Hawaii and California do.

[Anonymous No.13054597]

>>13054485
Uh, drink coffee and eat pastries and light sandwiches.

[Anonymous No.13054619]

>>13054448
why do you have a 15 yo's perspective on how to meet women

[Anonymous No.13054643]

>>13054619
OP asked specifically about coffee shops.

In any case, enlighten me with your sage perspective on meeting women.

[Anonymous No.13054683]

>>13054619
It must be hard being a Nigra

[Anonymous No.13054827]

>>13054445
>liberal
dropped, I only go to socialist coffee shops

[Anonymous No.13054833]

>>13054619
lmao got em

[Anonymous No.13054838]

>>13054827
i only go to anarchist coffee shops

[Anonymous No.13054886]

>>13054838
So, liberal coffee shops but: confused

[Anonymous No.13054899]

>>13054827
>>13054838
I only go to Juche coffee shops.

[Anonymous No.13054907]

>>13054886
it's the dumpster behind the liberal coffee shop. the coffee is made with stolen or used grounds and you get a free molotov with every cup.

[Anonymous No.13054946]

>>13054907
nice

[Anonymous No.13054975]

I feel agitated thinking about it

[Anonymous No.13055115]

>>13054391
I'm self-conscious about reading in public. I'm not sure why.

>>13054399
How do I do this?

[Anonymous No.13055196]

I used to think coffee shops were pretentious and reading in them was turbopretentious. Then I had to move in with a loud stoner for a year for Uni, and I realised that they're basically the only place in a big city where you can go and read without too much noise (the Uni library I had access to was really sterile so it was hard to read fiction there, and the city library's reading area was so silent that turning a page filled the entire room with an echo, which is just its own form of noisiness).

Good coffee shops are open into the evening, have music quiet enough to just blur the other noises into a samey background, and people tend to talk with actual indoor voices. They also tend to have better views than where I'm living/a library.

I tried it once and never looked back. If I'm reading fiction I'll go out of my way to find a quiet coffee shop. It's not even to show off or look "smart" or meet girls - I stopped being conscious of being watched after the third or fourth time and now the idea that people care what I'm doing is gone. It's just nice to read about other people's lives whilst quietly surrounded by them.

[Anonymous No.13055207]

>>13055196
The music is what gets me though. Even if it's quiet. The last thing I want to hear is hipster pop music while reading.

[Anonymous No.13055212]

>>13055196
You're a sweet boy with autism. I can see your autism through your post and I like it. I'd give you a big hug. Keep being thoughtful.

[Anonymous No.13055237]

>>13055196
This. Cofee shop are super comfy, so are brasseries and similar restaurants. If you're caring about appearing pretentious you're already pretentious. Just read what you want where you want faggot.

[Anonymous No.13055246]

Vienna calling

[Anonymous No.13055259]

>>13055246
C O M F Y
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[Anonymous No.13055260]

No. Way too loud

>>13054400
this

>>13054409
>affording to owning a dog
>living in a city with attractive women your age
you don’t belong here

[Anonymous No.13055265]

>>13055212
To be honest I briefly wondered if I was autistic. I always thought it meant you couldn't really have normal emotions and couldn't empathise with people, but then someone on my FB (friend of a friend of a etc) posted about a kind where you're the opposite and you empathise with other people too much and it overloads you. I googled it and couldn't find any information about it, so forgot about it.

If empathy autism is a thing, though, I should probably go talk to a doctor.

[Anonymous No.13055284]

I hate the pseudy/instagramish atmosphere most coffee shops have

[Anonymous No.13055287]

>>13055265
I’m like you, man. I certainly don’t have autism but I also have such a logic-oriented brain that I don’t really have emotions. At least not like most people do.

For example, I tell my mom I love her because I know she loves me and because she has given two decades of her life to raising me and being kind, etc. I tell her I love her back not because I actually FEEL any kind of sensation in my heart for her, but because it’s probably the least I could do for someone who has done so much for me.

I’m talking with my therapist about it.

[Anonymous No.13055293]

>>13055265
>ever letting a jew normie and probably a woman tell you what is "normal" for your brain or not
>they literally fire neuron-incinerating pills into children's brains with a cannon without a second thought, if the child is slightly excitable

don't let them put the zap on your head anon

you're the normal one

[Anonymous No.13055299]

>>13055287
>Thereafter he walked very carefully, with his eyes on the road, and when he saw a tiny ant toiling by he would step over it, so as not to harm it. The Tin Woodman knew very well he had no heart, and therefore he took great care never to be cruel or unkind to anything.

>"You people with hearts," he said, "have something to guide you, and need never do wrong; but I have no heart, and so I must be very careful. When Oz gives me a heart of course I needn't mind so much."

[Anonymous No.13055309]

>>13055287
Probably true for most people. You care, after all. Sounds good

[Anonymous No.13055334]

>>13055287
It sounds like you have the other kind of maybe-not autism to me anon (my problem is I'm so feelings-oriented and get really upset when people are treated badly because I feel like I'm hurting with them), but you sound like a good one anon. I have a friend like you, who is on the spectrum and doesn't feel much, but recognises kindness and decency in other people and always tries to live up to it, and I love him for that. Keep being you anon, and don't let anyone take your thoughtfulness away from you.

[Anonymous No.13055382]

>>13055334
I’m not caught up on the neuroscience community’s opinion on “Left Brain v. Right Brain” theory, but it seems quite accurate at times.

I’m extraordinarily jealous of the people who are right brained oriented (or even in the middle), as they are so much more appreciative and emotionally vulnerable to art.

I can’t tell you how many times I have completely missed the “point” of books, films, etc. Themes, symbolism, and the like just go completely over my head. Art, as a significant piece of what gives life meaning, is something I miss out on almost entirely.

>>13055299
the second stanza of this is totally lost on me, care to explain?

[Anonymous No.13055428]

>>13054597
That goes without saying. You can do both.

[Anonymous No.13055447]

>>13055382
I'm sorry to hear that anon. I do kind think I fit your "vulnerable to art" description, and do love things like themes and symbolism in a story over almost anything else.

I hope you can still get something from some kinds of art anon, or find your own sources of meaning.

Also, the second stanza is saying that the Tin Woodman doesn't have a heart, but recognises that other people have a heart and it guides them in their daily lives, and so the Tin Woodman must be careful because he doesn't have a guide even though he recognises one in other people and desperately wants one of his own.

[Anonymous No.13055454]

>>13055447
>so the Tin Woodman must be careful because he doesn't have a guide even though he recognises one in other people and desperately wants one of his own.

Don't miss the irony here, which is that the heartless tin man - by being so careful to be good and not bad - actually has more 'heart' than the full-hearted people who don't care about the impacts they have on others.

[Anonymous No.13055535]

>>13055237
Yeah, this was a big realisation for me. I realised that going out of your way to avoid doing things you consider vain is just another kind of vanity, and then I stopped caring if people thought I was showing off or not as long as I was happy.

[Anonymous No.13055756]

>>13055447
I still have an intellectual curiousity, bordering on obsession, with artistic meanings. When I can, I try and get friends or acquaintances to interpret such things for me. Then it's stimulating for everyone involved; I think that's a happy-ish medium I can live with :)

I fantasize about having a romantic partner who is in touch with her emotions and can complete this empty half of my being.

>>13055447
>>13055454
Do you think it would be worth reading Oz, even as an adult? I've seen the movie but never even considered reading the novel.

[Anonymous No.13055907]

>>13054391
Reading is a very personal thing for me. Something I like to do in private and don't worry about anything in my vicinity. I think reading with lots of people around would diminish the experience of reading, at least for me. Maybe I'm autistic but that's just me.

[Anonymous No.13055916]

>>13055756
The other anon raises a good point, self-awareness takes you farther than people who deem inner workings of an individual “normal” or not. I am another anon that can actually sympathize not only with the mother issue, but it extends to me through relationships. My problems extend being unintentionally callous (“autism”) as I’m also emotionally damaged from past trauma, but I continue to focus and work on myself daily.

Not him, but I think children’s and certain YA books are great to read and revisit outside of the nostalgia factor. The best ones lay things down for a child to understand but still leave something for the adult to chew on. Keep in mind that’s also the author’s intention as before a kid is old enough to read, you have the parent reading to them.