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Will have my first kid in about 7 months.
What are some good fiction/non-fiction books that I can read for guidance to be a decent father?

>> No.12205931

>>12205817

The Very Hungry Caterpillar.

>> No.12205977

>>12205817
If I had a child, I'd read him some of Borges' short stories at first to spark his interest, also Jack London and Lovecraft are pretty serious and great authors that can be easily enjoyed by children too. Btw, remember to teach him other languages while he's still young, preferably Spanish, German or Russian.

>> No.12205983

>>12205817
industrial society and its future

>> No.12206002

>>12205817
Voyage to Alpha Centauri
(SF; not completely about raising children but I think is beneficial to read.)

>> No.12206065

>>12205977
I'm not asking for books to read to him, I want books that will personally make me a better father from reflection.

>> No.12206154

>>12205817
Unironically Huck Finn

>> No.12206434

>>12205983
this. you will need to read this. absolutely.

>> No.12206445

>>12206434
Dont you have a paper to get done before christmas break?

>> No.12206462

>>12205817
Id say just look at who your father was and how he was as a father and what you'd add and subtract from that. Happy to hear, btw OP, congratulations, hope you two have a nice father/son bond/friendship in 19 years

>> No.12206480

>>12206462
Thanks anon, but I'm crapping my pants.
I didn't have a father. In the sense that I have no living memory of him. He died not long after I was born.

>> No.12206520

>>12206480
Ok then i'll say let your kid be a kid and discover the world, but warn him about everything dangerous and dont give him too much autonomy

Don't let him think education and saving money isn't important when the time comes, in fact id save maybe 10% of his allowance at first so that he'll start saving already as a kid and just teach him the importance of all that

Those are my biggest gripes with my own father, he gave me too much autonomy and didn't let me in on what a huge life improving benefit saving money as early as you can is.

What he did right is

Read to me big illustrated childrens books at an early age and told me about the value of friendship and all that. Good luck anon, i am not a father but i'm warming up to preparing myself. If only i could find that gf or have my ex be miraculously interested in me again, she' was my dream future divorced mother of my children. Have a good life OP

>> No.12206613

>>12205817
>tfw now kids are literally born to parents from 4chan into the culture of twerking and fortnite
We really are fucked now, aren't we?

>> No.12207383

>>12205817
Why didn't you learn how to be a good father before reproducing? What makes you think that you'll be ready in 7 months? You're a fucking idiot.

>> No.12208192

>>12207383
How exactly does one "learn to be a good father" without having kids? You can't learn how to be a good father without actually being a father. Sure, you can learn some abstractions, but that isn't the same as having a working relationship.

>> No.12208438

I met a girl last week, pretty good person, and I like it that she has good daughter-father relation


But then I found out when it comes to driving, cooking, household working, she doesn’t have any experience with any of these, appearlly her dad have been taking care of all her living need for the past 20 years
So it’s cool that she doesn’t have daddy issue, but I can’t imagine marrying this girl and having to be her dad.

>> No.12208499

>>12208192
Just the fact that someone has doubts whether they'll be a good father is reason enough not to reproduce until they learn more. Why would someone take the responsibility of fatherhood unless they're confident they'll handle it?

>> No.12208518

>>12206480
If you don’t have a father figure when you growing up. Maybe check out the jacko podcast. Dude was a seal team commander, he could be a strong father figure to inspire you enough so you can act like a father figure for your children and tell story you learn from him.

15:30 mins that’s the letter he read. Powerful stuff, really makes you want to call your mom and said how much you love her.

The whole episode is also very emotional. I say after you finish the letter, go back to the beginning and watch the first 15 mins. It’s dark, but also delighting. https://youtu.be/fWVT0FPpOcE

>> No.12208533

>>12208499
t. someone that doesn't have kids.
You will always have doubts, if you don't have doubts, you're not going to be a good father, you're going to be a tyrant/psycho.

>> No.12208544

>>12208499
>>12208192
There is learning and there is practicing

Having everything planned out can speed up your learning curve when you finally face the challenge

Do mental work on how you will do it and stick to it, don’t let the chaotic baby scares you

>> No.12208724

>>12208544
You can't think of every conceivable situation and plan for it. Do you know how unpredictable adolescents are? Imagine spending 10 hours at work and coming home to find out your son did something bad, something you couldn't have predicted or were not aware of. You can have a prior idea of how you would react, but when you're under stress from multiple sources, that situation could be the breaking point where reason is abandoned.