My SO and I have become very interested in polyamory lately, what are the best books about this? Is this any good? We're looking for open-minded, non-bigoted material only.

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Anonymous Sat Nov 3 14:54:45 2018 No.12027386 [Reply] [Original]

My SO and I have become very interested in polyamory lately, what are the best books about this?
Is this any good?

We're looking for open-minded, non-bigoted material only.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 14:56:22 2018 No.12027391 Cuck

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 14:56:26 2018 No.12027392 >>12027386 You are on a board filled to the brim with ressentiment-fueled incels (you're probably one of them). You're not here to get recs, you baiting falseflagging faggot

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 14:56:52 2018 No.12027393 Cuck

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 14:57:08 2018 No.12027395 Jesus. You make me sick. I cannot wait until your relationship falls apart.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 15:06:52 2018 No.12027437 >>12027386 I hear sex in captivity is pretty darn good, only briefly covers polyamory though

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 15:17:37 2018 No.12027463 >>12027395 >>12027391 >>12027392 >>12027393 >>12027395 If you've got nithing constructive to contribute towards the topic, fuck off. Don't post for the dopamine reward of reacting.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 15:24:32 2018 No.12027485 Check out The Good Soldier Related question: would you marry or otherwise settle down with a woman who was cheating on her long term partner to be with you in the first place? Asking for a fren.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 15:26:31 2018 No.12027490 >>12027386 The Myth of Monogamy. It isn't pro-polyamory but just about how everyone cheats if they have the ability and opportunity.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 15:28:24 2018 No.12027496 File: 14 KB, 647x740, 1515205126423.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >My SO and I have become very interested in polyamory lately, what are the best books about this?

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 15:30:21 2018 No.12027505 File: 225 KB, 1080x1080, 6tag-3480710093-1495867072985676791_3480710093.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>12027485 >marrying a girl who isn't a virgin

Anonymous Sat Nov 3 15:32:05 2018 No.12027515
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>>12027386
Polyamory did happen in hunter-gatherer bands but they lived in actual tight knit communities that lived and died for eachother.

This has nothing to do with contemporary hedonists fucking strangers.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 15:35:10 2018 No.12027526 >>12027505 >Living in a '''Western democracy''' in the 21st century

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 15:38:41 2018 No.12027539 >>12027526 >being too much of a tool to find a virgin waifu

Anonymous Sat Nov 3 17:41:46 2018 No.12028059
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>>12027485
The concept of "Cheating" is kinda problematic in the context of a society that institutionalizes monogamy and deprives women of a healthy vocabulary to talk about alternative feelings.
So yes I would.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 17:47:35 2018 No.12028085 >>12028059 cringe to the extreme

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 17:49:16 2018 No.12028092 >>12028059 >the context of a society that institutionalizes monogamy and deprives women of a healthy vocabulary to talk about alternative feelings. imagine being like this top lel

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 17:49:29 2018 No.12028094 >>12027515 lmao those are the authors? genetic trash the woman has masculine dimorphism (increased promiscuity) while the man looks like he has klinefelters

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 18:03:09 2018 No.12028170 >>12027386 I guess eroticism by bataille covers sexuality and it's weird transgressiony aspects, which may be insteresting, though not sure if there's anything about polyamory there, so check it out maybe? It's a great book either way

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 18:13:26 2018 No.12028221 File: 177 KB, 645x427, c.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>12028094 Come to bed, anon.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 18:20:09 2018 No.12028253 Cuck blood on the tires, on the rooftops, in the gutters, in the grass, in the garden, behind the boulder, between the toes, cuck blood filling basements, cuck blood pumped from pools, cuck blood soaked in the library, cuck blood blood of fools

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 18:54:50 2018 No.12028422 >>12027485 She will probably cheat on you too but you never know

Anonymous Sat Nov 3 18:57:26 2018 No.12028436

>>12027485
>would you marry a cheater
bro that's like rule #1 when you fuck a girl who's in a relationship you just pump and dump, maybe leave a note for her man if you're feeling generous or a pic or something, just to say "hey your gf is actually a cheating ho be advised" but there's no way in hell you attach yourself to a woman who proves herself to be disloyal and to lack self-control

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 18:58:18 2018 No.12028440 >>12028436 what if all women are like that

Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:01:23 2018 No.12028451

>>12027386
>Hey anon...I met this guy Tyrone, he seems really cool. I was wondering if we could invite him over to maybe--i don't know--spice things up a bit?
>A-are you s-sure, baby? It would be a little stra-
>Awesome, he's already on his way.
>Yeah, anything for you, baby.

Seriously end the relationship now.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:01:58 2018 No.12028456 >>12027386 Currntly readin “wie wir lieben” by friedmann karig, it’s gernan and i don’t reall know if it’s translated to english yet

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:03:26 2018 No.12028464 >>12028456 Germans are cucks

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:03:48 2018 No.12028467 >>12027386 I dated a girl who talked a lot about this book (and Dan Savage) while I was at uni. She ended up seriously bringing up the subject then cheating on me when I said no

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:04:24 2018 No.12028474 >>12027386 I too like strange cum. Perhaps your SO and yourself have the same enthusiasm for polyamory, but she's going to be the only one getting anything.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:06:03 2018 No.12028482 >>12028440 That is why God gave us the power to use violence and intimidation

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:07:17 2018 No.12028485 Reading this kind of shit unironically makes me want to convert to Islam and purge kaffirs.

Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:08:07 2018 No.12028489

>>12027386
if this isn't a ruse cruise pretty much all open relationships end badly. Almost all of them that is nondescript enough that someone could think not us! Im just bullshitting a number but when I say mid 90s percentile or higher I'm not fucking around. All the faggots on reddit end all the people who talk about open relationships have been doing it for about a year or two it blows up soon after

I'm not trying to be mean or acting out of bitterness but this won't end well for you.

Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:08:12 2018 No.12028492

>>12028059
>China: patriarchal and monogamous
>India: patriarchal and monogamous
>Greater Middle East: patriarchal and polygamous/monogamous
>Africa: patriarchal and polygamous/monogamous
>South America: patriarchal and monogamous
>Europe/European transplants: patriarchal and monogamous

Are there any societies that don't require monogamy? Other than Polynesian tribes that were all but wiped out after European contact, that is.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:12:42 2018 No.12028513 >>12028492 Pretty much no. Even most hunter-gatherers are monogamous or polygynous. It isn't natural at all and it's really just an invention of dissatisfied (usually ugly) females rationalizing away their unrequited desire for Chad semen.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 19:55:16 2018 No.12028661 >>12027386 >tfw two cuties are into you and you into them >tfw can't decide who should i pick i wish could take both desu probably will neither due my indecision

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 21:00:20 2018 No.12028891 >>12028436 >>12028422 You're probably right >>12028467 Fuck, this chick likes Dan savage too

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 21:10:23 2018 No.12028926 >>12027386 Brett Weinstein said this guy is full of bullshit on Joe Rogan. Granted Bret's wife was there, so that may have influenced his statement. She also seemed to agree that it's bullshit.

Anonymous Sat Nov 3 21:15:49 2018 No.12028954

>>12028891
Dan Savage is a cunt, at least from what I heard him say on This American Life.

He says at one point that he doesn't demand an open relationship with his partner, but "if I screw up, I don't want you to just walk away, I want you to stay and work through it with me [paraphrasing, but see the This American Life episode with Dan]).

So, in summary, he wants a relationship where both partners pretend to intend on monogamy, then the dishonest shiteater partner does whatever he fucking wants while the honest, loyal partner gets cucked (or whatever the faggot equivalent is).

So, stated succinctly, Dan just likes to cheat. He doesn't want an open relationship. He wants a faithful partner to cheat on.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 21:16:20 2018 No.12028959 >>12028891 It's related - Savage shilled (and presumably still shills) the book pretty hard, that's almost definitely where she got it from.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 21:38:54 2018 No.12029054 >>12028492 The second oldest known civilization, the Elamites, were apparently a matriarchal society. They got wiped out by the oldest known civilization, the Sumerians

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 21:41:40 2018 No.12029060 >>12027391 Fpbp

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 21:51:02 2018 No.12029100 >>12028926 Just looked this up, fascinating to see a cuckold attacking a shiteating cuckold. Wonder how many tiers of cuckoldry there are?

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 22:00:21 2018 No.12029144 >>12027386 Can I ask why you are interested, and if you and your SO were both on board at the beginning or if either one of you had to warm up to the idea.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 22:04:09 2018 No.12029156 >>12028059 >that pic It literally reads like something out of Brave New World. America is fucked.

Anonymous Sat Nov 3 22:09:56 2018 No.12029180

>>12028059
>deprives women of a healthy vocabulary to talk about alternative feelings
Sorry, I think you meant "deprives people." Women like to think they're oppressed by monogamy so that it's not their fault that they cheat. This is some top-tier bullshit. Monogamy has atavistic roots in child-rearing and clan culture that don't apply as strongly today. But the desire to fuck outside a relationship is shared between sexes. I don't know why I'm declaiming, we don't really disagree. But don't think that women are these helpless and demure little creatures who have sex forced upon them and can't help cheating. It's total horseshit, and people who think this way desire an infantilized woman. You're a literal cuckold if you would "settle" for a cheater. That's tarnished goods. Throw it the fuck overboard.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 22:12:05 2018 No.12029190 >>12028954 He sounds like a faggot. You should call him a faggot on twitter.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 22:35:40 2018 No.12029279 i always go out of my way to cheat on every relationship i get involved in at least once. after i do that i never worry or fret if i get cheated on bc i already did it too. the key is to be the first to do it.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 22:49:42 2018 No.12029328 >>12028492 >>12029054 We don't have any reliable records whatsoever about these people but they lived in a free love paradise trust us!!!

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 22:54:42 2018 No.12029348 >>12027386 If you're going to read this then also read Sex at Dusk, which attempts to debunk much of this book

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 22:55:47 2018 No.12029349 >>12029348 better to read neither desu

Jeff Mangum Died For Your Sins !rAl8Mz2mp2 Sat Nov 3 22:59:37 2018 No.12029358

Polyamory only works on paper when children aren't involved. Once paternal certainty and the distribution of resources to pregnant women and children become issues, then you're basically asking men to financially support the spreading of someone else's genes both directly and through welfare. And it's perfectly reasonable for men to not be okay with that.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 23:05:12 2018 No.12029380 It's a mistake. You've been warned.

>>	Anonymous Sat Nov 3 23:10:23 2018 No.12029398 >>12028059 >that pic Every time I read something like that it depletes my will to live just a little more.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 00:05:59 2018 No.12029573 >>12027386 The Blood Oranges by Hawkes

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 01:08:37 2018 No.12029871 Cuck

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 01:16:49 2018 No.12029717 File: 604 KB, 2000x718, 1539752052930-02.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>12027386 Watch out for box pox, OP. t. box pox survivor

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 01:21:49 2018 No.12029729 File: 4 KB, 212x218, 1415110660115.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>12027386 >reading material on polyamory https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/You_can%27t_have_your_cake_and_eat_it

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 01:27:46 2018 No.12029744 >>12029729 It's great for women. They can have the financial security of a guy they know probably won't be fucking other women, all while enjoying new dick on a weekly basis.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 01:30:27 2018 No.12029752 >>12027386 The Ethical Slut. But it's a mistake, you're a cuck and you will regret any polyamory you're involved in because polyamory is how whores shop around.

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>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 01:35:57 2018 No.12029766 >>12029744 >It's great for women >the more emotional sex >having multiple romantic relationships is good for them yeah nah

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 01:43:06 2018 No.12029793 >>12029766 You have a naive view of women. What's good for them is different from what they want.

Anonymous Sun Nov 4 02:45:44 2018 No.12030056

I’m in this situation now. Her relationship was clearly over and miserable long before we met but i’ll still never trust her.

I love her and its all a terrible tease but it can’t last. I was a nihilist when we met and going through this has made me cut all that shit and straighten up.

Anonymous Sun Nov 4 03:48:49 2018 No.12030141

>>12027386
Polyamory only works if you don't invest emotionally in these people. Starting with a gf is already a problem. It works best by just acquiring a bunch of fwbs. You can not have close romance like in monogamy.

Only do this if you're okay with literally looking at your gf as nothing more than a hole you enjoy the company of. Otherwise you'll be fucked.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 03:50:07 2018 No.12030144 >My SO and I have become very interested in polyamory lately Did I teleport to Reddit?

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 04:04:31 2018 No.12030165 >>12027515 Yeh but they probably had a very different view on who gets to fuck who, if they even did do polyamory relationships

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 04:08:53 2018 No.12030174 >>12027386 why can't people just cheat? at least it was more honest and less degenerate

Anonymous Sun Nov 4 04:41:59 2018 No.12030225

>>12030174
People want to derive sexual pleasure from transgressing societal norms, but at the same time they want to normalise their transgression with these pop anthropology texts, or through basic moral sophistry. But they can't have their cake and eat it too.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 04:45:16 2018 No.12030230 >>12028954 You should watch his Q and A appearance with Peter Hitchens

Anonymous Sun Nov 4 04:48:40 2018 No.12030237

>>12029328
>These post holes in a circle clearly indicate a TEMPLE TO THE UNIVERSAL MOTHER GODDESS

Once you start reading academic works you realize how full of shit Archeologists really are.
I swear all the "conveniently pre-historic matriarchal utopia" and "great mother goddess cult" fags are secretly femdom fags and probably footfags as well.

>>12028492
>Polynesian tribes
That was almost certainly bullshit made up by Missionaries to convince the church to send them more missionaries and one autistic woman who got fooled by her teenage "informants". Ethnology is such a joke, pretending objectivity while considering culture as an insect under a microscope instead of an alternate reality.

>>12030141
>Polyamory only works if you don't invest emotionally
>>12027490
>everyone cheats if they have the ability and opportunity

Getting REAL SICK of your shit, bugmen.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 10:00:49 2018 No.12031046 >>12029717 Kek Is pic related actually his own writing? Not bad desu

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 10:25:44 2018 No.12031124 >>12027386 This is clearly bait and if it is not I have only disgust and derision to give both of you

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 10:39:51 2018 No.12031174 >>12028059 >problematic in the context of a society that institutionalizes YIKES

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 10:40:32 2018 No.12031177 >>12027386 polygamy is death. Decay and die degenrate

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 10:41:34 2018 No.12031181 >>12027386 cuck

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 10:56:16 2018 No.12031233 >>12028059 Go back to the factory and get a system reset anon, you're malfunctioning. You've strung together nonsense concepts to say nothing that is grounded in the reality. You live in an imaginary world built on a foundation of tautology.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 11:06:52 2018 No.12031276 >>12028891 don't become a cuck

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 11:07:53 2018 No.12031284 >>12028059 christ

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 11:08:35 2018 No.12031288 >>12027386 All things die in entropy

Anonymous Sun Nov 4 12:35:05 2018 No.12031684
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>>12030237
Good archaeology happens. However, like psychiatry it undeniably has political implications and is sometimes used to political ends.

>secretly

I don't think they even bother keeping it a secret anymore. If I'd written the book in the OP while looking like pic related I would've paid to have every picture of me scrubbed from the public record.

>Margaret Mead
I don't think she was fooled; that was just an excuse once she was exposed. She 100% went down there to "document" how if only we tore down our repressive patriarchy girls could finally be happy.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 4 12:44:12 2018 No.12031732 >>12030165 True, I read an article about contemporary hunting and gathering Hadza tribe. They still have incels I believe, if you suck at killing baboons you'll get the laughing girls dot png treatment.

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