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11206633 No.11206633 [Reply] [Original]

Is there a philosophical solution for when a girl doesn't like you that doesn't involve the material nihilism of EvoPsych pseuds?

>> No.11206648

>>11206633
Kierkegaard

>> No.11206653

>>11206633
The stoics divide the world into that which you can control and that which you cannot control. As her feelings would be beyond your control, you should not waste energy worrying about them, but focus on what you can do.

>> No.11206682

>>11206633
Or you can be normal and be bummed out by it, then go out with friends and try to get over it?

>> No.11206695

>>11206682
>Philosophical solution
>Normal
Not really what anon was asking for.

>> No.11206705

>>11206633
Suicide

>> No.11206707

>>11206633
Just girlfriend one of your many qt admirers.

>> No.11206744

>>11206633
It's called waifuism and its greatest proponent is Dante.

>> No.11206752
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>>11206633
>>11206744
It's called enforced monogamy aka mandatory gibs me a gf and its greatest proponent is Dr. Jordan B. Peterson.

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>>11206633
Asceticist acolyte of any particular order advocating such.
Or embrace the 2D.

>> No.11206787

>>11206707
This would have made me angry if it didn't make me incredibly sad and dehumanized

>> No.11206831

>>11206707
I think she likes me but she's also clearly still attached to her exboyfriend (who is my friend and got her while I was still wussing out). So I guess more of my problem is not so much tfwnogf, so much as tfw no timeline where they were never together and she worshipped me.

>> No.11206836

>>11206752
I don't want a girlfriend, I want her ._.

Do you think she'll fall in love with me if I clean my room?

>>11206757
Thanks for the advice, anon.

>> No.11207196

>>11206633
Bump

>> No.11207201

>>11206787
>not an argument

>> No.11207211

>>11206836
Yes. Clean your room, sort yourself out bucko, and slay the Dragon. Do all that and then she'll be yours!

>> No.11207229

>>11206648
No, that's for when a girl does like you but you're too afraid of commitment.

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>>11206707

>> No.11207243

>>11207229
Also afraid of this because I'm worried she'll see how ugly I am on the inside and judge me harshly and I won't have any other reference point of someone who is caring and compassionate.

>> No.11207279

>>11207243
when did lit turn into pathetic blog posting disguised as asking for philosophical solutions?

>> No.11207289

>>11207243
Not him, but I unironically have no empathy and I still make the magic

>Why can't you?

>> No.11207302

>>11206633
Depends. Is she someone you know very very intimately, or is she mostly imaginary projection?

>> No.11207309

>>11207279
New waves of younger posters regularly wash up on the shore of /lit/ every year as you continue to get older. Then one day you realise that you're surrounded by children asking childish things that come across as absurd to you. It's not their fault and they're not stupid for doing so. It's just their time to use this board now. You've had your time. Don't be outraged. Simply move on.

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>>11207309
>>11207279

Someone picked the wrong thread

>> No.11207332

>>11206633
Kierkegaard

true love is unrealized love

>> No.11207351

>>11206633
rape

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>>11207279
>implying that philosophy isn't just a collection of self-masturbatory blog posts disguised as legitimate solutions

>> No.11207381

>>11207279
Since I decided I liked you faggots better than /r9k/.

>>11207289
I have absolutely no idea what this is supposed to mean.

>>11207302
She's 3DPD and we have a fairly well established friendship, though I've only known her for about two years.

>>11207332
I feel like I read something by Milton that was like this, but I might be remembering it wrong. He was in love with his patron's wife, as I recall?

>>11207351
No Anon that's not nice.

>> No.11207405

>>11206633
>tfw qt autist girl didn't like me in undergrad
>used rejection as motivation to improve
> absorbed all her interests into my own life, the ones she was so protective about
>sadly, she is a NEET now, mooching off her parents and degenerating
If I can't have her body, I will have her soul. I will live the life she wanted for myself. If she wants to come back then I'll give it to her, but otherwise it's mine.

>> No.11207419

>>11207332
Ahh unrequited love. Dost thou love me romeo?

>> No.11207425

>>11207405
>I will have her soul
So when are you starting HRT, hon?

>> No.11207433

>>11207425
fortunately I don't have to, since she was a lesbian male brain autist, kek. Probably why she rejected me in the first place 2 be honest

>> No.11207462

>>11207381
>I have absolutely no idea what this is supposed to mean.

As a person incapable of emotion, why am I better at emotional connections than you?

>> No.11207500

>>11207462
not OP, but you're probably good at faking it

>> No.11207535

>>11207405
Idk man in terms of whose acting as sword and sheath in this scenario you look to be firmly planted in the latter category.

>>11207462
You probably aren't good at evaluating it. Most normies aren't.

>> No.11207550

>>11207535
absorbed was a bad word, I occupied them and added them to my own. Partly b/c I'm a fag with oneitis, partly b/c they were interesting in their own right. No regrets

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It saddens me greatly that there are people who, if not beasts, willingly don the mask thereof
and remain obstinate in their despairing of the world while simultaneously desiring to consume it.

>> No.11207556

>>11207462
You're better at pretense, not emotional connections, otherwise you would, you know, have emotion. You would necessarily be worse at actually making emotional connections.

>> No.11207620

>>11207500
Pretty good.
>>11207535
I evaluate my relationships by the level of control I have over them. Imagine someone controlling someone without them knowing they're being controlled.
>>11207556
I can't love but I can fool someone into thinking I love them

>> No.11207630

>>11207620
that's just sad though. There's no point in a relationship if you aren't experiencing love. I'd image it'd just be a hastle with minor physical benefits and major costs to time + money.

>> No.11207645

>>11207551
You don't eat your enemies' brains to gain their knowledge?

>> No.11207657

>>11206633
There's a philosophical solution for everything - that's kind of the point of philosophy.

Regardless, I can't help you. I have no idea what you're experience. I've only ever had one break-up, and that was as a child. The second girl I dated I decided I would married, and we've got almost 11 years under our belts.
I would imagine the best thing to do is to either openly express your feelings - a confession, I suppose - or to simply do everything you can to forget her.

If it were me, I would embrace some Eastern shit like vacuity. Spend a year making a sand mandala, and then destroy it immediately. Embrace the ephemeral, temporary nature of things. I don't think the West really ever wrapped it's head around this very well, and the East's solution is to free yourself from the burden of desire.

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11207682

Any philosophy that drives home the transience of things, the meaninglessness of desire, the reality of the void and the inevitability of death. Overcome your broken heart so fucking hard you overcome the human condition. I-it's what I did.

I recommend: Michelstaedter, Shestov, Kierkegaard, Schopenhauer, Weil, Kazantzakis, and Lacan/Zizek

>> No.11207708

>>11207682
>inevitability of death
I have a feeling of absolute certainty that once I die I'm just going to pop back in somewhere else as someone new. The ride truly does not end, ever.

>> No.11207716

>>11207630
Relationships are only worth something to me when I get something else in return. In this example, I have a girlfriend who provides social security. However it wouldn't mean anything to me if something happened to her

>fun times

>> No.11207722

>>11207201
>wasn't responding to an argument

>> No.11207748

>>11207716
what does life even mean to you in that case? Is it just fear of death, or do you experience other emotions, just not for people?

>> No.11207898

>>11207748
Life is kind of like a game, I try and use everything I can to better myself. I don't fear death, but I don't want to die. I would describe my emotions as very muted, and reserved for very specific people. Those people, my parents, I believe saved me from a life of violence and self-destruction through their genuine care. I respect them greatly and don't want anything to happen to them, but I wouldn't necessarily be depressed/sad if they were to die

>> No.11207911

>>11207898
>Autism in its natural habitat

>> No.11207920

>>11207351
Interesting philosophy.

>> No.11207922

>>11207911
Autists have trouble in school lol, I tried to kill my brother

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11207939

Life is kind of like a game, I try and use everything I can to better myself. I don't fear death, but I don't want to die. I would describe my emotions as very muted, and reserved for very specific people. Those people, my parents, I believe saved me from a life of violence and self-destruction through their genuine care. I respect them greatly and don't want anything to happen to them, but I wouldn't necessarily be depressed/sad if they were to die

>> No.11207964

>>11207939
>I pushed my 3 yr. old brother down a marble staircase and broke his arm, then tried to strangle him
>Slit the family golden retriever's throat
>Beat the shit out an annoying neighborhood kid with a baseball bat and shattered most of his teeth

I can go on

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11207984

>I pushed my 3 yr. old brother down a marble staircase and broke his arm, then tried to strangle him
>Slit the family golden retriever's throat
>Beat the shit out an annoying neighborhood kid with a baseball bat and shattered most of his teeth

I can go on

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>>11207939
>>11207984
yung memer

>> No.11208033

>>11207984
lurk moar

>> No.11208056

>>11206831

I just had this problem anon. You’re likely going to fail. But your Only hope is to bite the cuck bullet Andy hold her hand until she warms up to you enough to fuck you. And she must surrender this you cannot force the issue.

You’re in a precarious place anon it’s called bad timing and your best bet it to next her. Friend zone Is a risk here and I tell you to leave it because the more time you spend around here the more it will hurt if she does.

>> No.11208073

>>11208056
>>11206831

Either swoop or gtfo. Keep contact but don't be her friend

>> No.11208106

>>11206633
Rape.

>> No.11208118

>>11207984
>There was a pause before he added, “kek,” memespeak for “lol.”

>> No.11208394

>>11208056
>>11208073
But I just want to read books about solving my problems, Chad.

>> No.11210122

>>11206682
I don't have friends.

>> No.11210181

>>11207922
Can you say a little bit more about this?

>> No.11210709

>>11206633
mom's wisdom
"plenty of fish in the sea"

>> No.11210730

>>11206653
>You shouldn't care about the feelings of a girl
Were stoics misogynists?

>> No.11211512

Bump

>> No.11212941

>>11211512
why though?

>> No.11212979

>>11212941
idk about anon, but I'm bumping this just in case that sociopathic anon wasn't joking about slitting his golden retrievers throat. If you're still here, I hope you realize that killing yourself is the most moral option here. That or some sort of severe electroshock or psychadelic therapy. Man would I love to have you locked up so I could see if enough lsd could cure you. Would be fascinating.

>> No.11212989

>>11212979
contd. there's no way taking 10,000 mics or so wouldn't change somebody permanently in some way. I have to see if it's ever been tried on sociopaths.

>> No.11213032

>>11212941
(because it's my thread......)