/lit/ - Literature

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Leave the house you bum

>>9251312
He probably has otherwise he wouldn't know he had the problem.

>>9251308
>I'm so fucking boring
What does this mean?

Learning to chitchat does not make you interesting. You want to know the golden rule of chitchat? People love to talk about themselves. You just need to cultivate an upbeat and curious attitude when you talk to someone.

I'm not a very talkative person and I don't like to talk about myself but I can still carry a conversation for an hour or more just by asking the other person about her life and being a good listener.

>there are people who read how to interact with people and such
It makes me sad guys. Not even being an asshole. That's depressing.

Just start small
Find people you know that share your interests

>>9251407
what interests

>>9251308

Don't do it. It's useless and vapid.

>>9251308
Literally just be yourself. Boring people tend to censor themselves too much, either out of fear or in a misguided attempt at social harmony.

Express more of yourself -- your true, inner self. Let out hints of your fears, passions and anxieties.

Also, when you tell anecdotes, make people feel the emotions. Don't just say "it was pretty exciting", walk them through how it made you feel.

Read Alain de Botton. Sure, people make fun of him all the time and he isn't a real philosopher. But his self help social relations stuff is top notch.

>>9251421
>Read Alain de Botton
Why would anyone do that instead of, say, killing themselves?

>>9251421
When I say walk them through how something made you feel, I mean just put them in that position. People won't laugh at your anecdotes, or feel what you felt if you just tell them the facts straight.

If you almost fell off a cliff, don't just say "I almost fell off a cliff. I was scared." Say "I was dangling and my hands began to sweat, so they were weakening and I was beginning to shake, the humidity in the air wasn't helping. Off in the distance I could hear the other tourists, but I couldn't make out what they were saying. My heart started beating and I was sure I was going to die."

>>9251432
>Say "I was dangling and my hands began to sweat, so they were weakening and I was beginning to shake, the humidity in the air wasn't helping. Off in the distance I could hear the other tourists, but I couldn't make out what they were saying. My heart started beating and I was sure I was going to die."
my sides

Is there a book that will let you talk like a normal person and not like a stuttering, mumbling forgetful faggot?

>>9251412
talk about traps, lolis, anime, etc

that's how you get women

be yourself.

>>9251453
>traps, lolis, anime
i'm not interested in those things

are there books about the art of conversation?

>>9251460
watching people die on liveleak in amusement, clogging your arteries with junk food, jacking off to sexy women whispering, etc.

>>9251440
yes. All the self-help books seem to treat other people to be dominated and subjucated to get your own wants and desires.

I'd like to learn how to enjoy the company of others and take pleasure in banal chit-chat

>>9251471
i'm not interested in those things either

>>9251474
It's not a social thing. I can barely talk straight with my own mom.

>>9251308
How to Win Friends And Influence People

>>9251465
>>9251474
there has to be something like an art of small talk that people have written about

>>9251474
>yes. All the self-help books seem to treat other people to be dominated and subjucated to get your own wants and desires.

>>9251485
>How to Win Friends And Influence People

>>9251432
>the humidity in the air wasn't helping

>>9251308
Have you tried microdosing LSD?

>>9251478
drinking water, pepe the frog, curing cancer, etc.

>>9251528
i'm not interested in those things (i do drink water but i don't find it interesting)

>>9251506
does it make you anxious. I'm of quite an anxious disposition

>>9251535
>(i do drink water but i don't find it interesting)
OK, you can work with that. Just tell them you drink water.

>>9251548
who

>>9251362
>just by asking the other person about her life

Nice projection my man

>>9251553
human person who has been birthed

>>9251539
No, the opposite in fact. A microdose, which produces no hallucinations, will produce a confident and jovial mood, and will make you more creative in your use of language.

>>9251567
i don't see such any person person (except myself)

>>9251577
wrote person twice by mistake

>>9251577
practice in mirrored self speaking of the action of consuming water, then travel to a parent of self and do unto them as you have unto the mirrored self

>>9251506
>1/4 of blotter is microdosing

>>9251577
go outside

>>9251588
It depends on how much acid is in each blotter, of course.

>>9251585
i told my mirrored self that i drink water but it didn't have anything to say in response
>>9251591
done. i didn't see anyone there either

>>9251613
do you live in a post-apocalyptic wasteland?

>>9251624
no

>>9251613
Wow, you're so clever. I can see how people would not enjoy talking to you to be quite honest

>>9251633
>you're so clever
i don't think i am are you sure

>>9251602
you can't really know how much acid is on each part of a blotter, it's not spread evenly

>>9251640
Pretty sure that person was being sarcastic.

>>9251646
oh

this thread..

>>9251641
Huh. That's good to know. Thank you.

>>9251362
>i don't like to talk about myself
>just let them talk about themselfes

what exactly makes you think you are the only person that doesn't like being the center of attention 24/7? what makes you assume that a good conversation shouldn't be people exchanging informations mutualy?