/lit/ - Literature

You've never had sex.

Oh shit no way. I'm a recovering sex addict. Have been more or less stable for a year. Not as dire as you though, only had about 600ish partners. Weird that you got married so many times. Did they more or less end in the same way?

Anyways. Idk about books but I do know that you have to stop jerking off. Delete all dating apps and stop going to bars. Even then you'll have some slips ups. But at least stick to those three things and see how you go.

>>19907230
Adding to this. I started reading as a coping mechanism. So my suggestion is any book. Long ones.

Just go to the doctor and get your balls removed. Calm down man.

>>19907208
Try happiness beyond thought by Gary Weber

>>19907208
Write a book on how you did this and send it to me.

>>19907208
>having had over a thousand sex partners but it just leads to suffering
Write a book, anon.

>>19907276
Its not difficult. You just go to a bunch of degenerate places and fetish sites. You lose your ability to feel shame and that lets you level up your charisma until your success rate with approaches skyrockets. Ironically most of your lays come from going to saa meetings.

>>19907432
That’s depressing. I guess you could also meet people at NA meetings and coax them into having sex with you for drugs.

>>19907442
Yeah, that too. I haven't done that, but I guess it could work. Anyways. It really sucks.

>>19907432
>bunch of degenerate places and fetish sites
Extrapolate in detail please. Simply being there isn't enough, what forms of social interactions did you endeavor upon to lead to multiple lays.

>You lose your ability to feel shame
How old were you when you achieved this? What intrinsic barriers did you have to overcome?

>>19907208
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p3JLaF_4Tz8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pxJzWcwcRd0
https://www.selfauthoring.com/
30-90 days of abstinence, a determined reconsideration of fundamental values, and a genuine effort in a mindfulness practice would probably get you going. I am most likely going to convert to Eastern Orthodox Christianity during the next few months. https://youtu.be/-drIcL5bkpk this is one of the lectures that has had the deepest impact on the way I understand the world.

>>19907490
>Extrapolate in detail please. Simply being there isn't enough, what forms of social interactions did you endeavor upon to lead to multiple lays.

Idk. I made friends with rich kids and they had parents that were constantly out, so it often turned into drug fueled orgies. I got through the novel aspect of mdma, coke etcetera before my twenties, so I was able to hold my shit together while everyone was tripping or even just emulate the effects. After that it was a lot of weird clubs. They always have these near the beach. I'm rambling. What do you want to know? How to ruin your life in the same manner?


>You lose your ability to feel shame

Completely? Around 24. Before then it was just a logical flowchart that i'd memorised. Basically its killing the part of your brain thats telling you that you're anxious and that you're fucking up. It's about redirecting that into "lets see how anxious I can get!"

>>19907588
>How to ruin your life in the same manner?
I'm able to containerize hedonism and only allow this hind-brain thinking control when the circumstances are appropriate. I'm not a 'coombrain' but am curious on how coombrain lifestyle emerges. I too did a lot of drugs in my 20's but it was mostly with middle class nerd dudes and we just played video games / D&D instead of having sex with women. I was the only one in our circle to get girlfriends+laid, but this has greatly stagnated in the past 2-3 years. This long, dry season has indeed taken it's toll, along with the wu flu, that's why your life is interesting - because so easily you've gotten what you want and I'm curious if I still "have it". That, and I think it would be cool to bang younger chicks as I become the big 3-0.

For containerizing addictions - I personally just scheduled out my day/week every day and stuck with it as best I could. Willpower can be built up and carnal desires overcome. Find some incel soiboys to chill with if you're really suffering from too much sex.

>>19907208
Base After Effects user probably made this cat picture

>>19907701
Oh i'm not the OP. I've been sober for a yearish. Fell in love for the first time in my life six months ago Paranoid about whether or not I deserve this. But I'm doing fine. Medium even.

If you're really looking to hook-up just a few times a week then I think dating apps would suffice

>>19907208
Have you tried therapy? You may need some kind of help from the outside, a mere literature might not be enough if that's the extent of your problems.

>>19907208
sex addiction, that's like being addicted to winning the lottery.

>>19907208
You need one book and that is The Holy Bible. If you really want to change, why not give it a try? When you start to view that our sick society wants you to be addicted (to food, sex, money, consuming of all kinds) you should hate it and realise you’ve been walking an empty street giving into vice and temptation to get you through it.
One way out, and I’d argue the best way, is to repent before God and learn how to live in a way that pleases him. It may sound ridiculous, you may think me a brainlet for even implying God is the answer, you but you need something else not of this world to answer to to become better.
God bless you, and I hope you find peace.

>>19907822
How many guys have she had?

>>19907208
Any advice for a opposite. My sex drives disappearing, I can't even masturbate sometimes. I've been I love, I have people look at me but I don't do anything anymore. I'm 22 and I don't want anything, I can't be bothered to love another, I only complain about lack of affection, I never try and fill it.

>>19907208
Unironically St Augustine's Confessions
Sorry I don't have any non-Christian recs but you might be able to relate to the emotional journey he went through
The wacko Buddhist solution to your problem is "corpse meditation" (eg, locking you in a room with decomposing human bodies for a few days so that the horror makes sex unappealing) but if you're a necrofag or gurofag that might not work

>>19909152
same for me except i will be 27 this year and I've never been in love. no interest in sex at all, or even being in a relationship with someone. i assume there is something 'wrong' with me but I can't quite figure it out.

>>19908998
Before me? One. Its makin me real paranoid desu

>>19908978
No. Its actually comparable to alcoholism. Every addiction is diminishing returns. Its like drowing while dying of thirst.

>>19907208
Asked God to take away my addiction to porn one night. Gone from that second. YMMV.

>>19907208
Damn, save some pussy for the rest of us anon.