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The ultimate secret is that you can be absolutely shit at the actual act of having sex and if the girl loves you and adores you she won't care.

Sexual technique doesn't make for great sex. Passion and romance make for great sex.

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

You want /biz/

>>18012758
Cope harder

>I am looking for books on how to please women
Leave

>>18012758
Even if this is the case (which it probably isn't) I may as well educate myself on the best technique, no?

lmao why the fuck do you care? Just dick around for awhile and leave

>>18012760
thanks ill give it a look

>>18012758
fpbp
passion is the most important thing

>>18012750
In my experience nothing gets a woman off more than treating her like a stupid whore.

>>18013437
So OP should read Pimp: The Story of My Life?

>>18012758
Great sex produces passion and romance, not the other way around.

>>18012750
just keep having sex and you will figure it out. i mean sexual experience and confidence is usually paramount when it comes to pleasing women
every woman is different anyway. though there are things you can do, like communicate with the person you're having sex with to find out what works for them. if those don't work for you, you can always just jackhammer the girl who gives a fuck

>>18013456
You've never been in love, have you?

>>18012769
based

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>>18013480
I love lots of people, sexual partners (past and present) and others.

>>18013519
>nothing of substance
Never change, /lit/.

>>18013526
>I love lots of people, sexual partners (past and present) and others.

Oh holy fuck that's not nearly the same thing, fucking hell I was right you've NEVER been in love.

>>18013456
Ok Hemingway

>>18013531
>some semantic flim flam
Cope.

>>18012758
delusional

>>18012750
>What are the most /lit/ books about having sex?
>I am looking for books on how to please women.

>>18012758
Cardio, muscle, and a cock over 7" makes for great sex

>>18012750
Sex is only 20% of sexually pleasing a woman

>>18013437
Only American girls want you to spit on them and call them whores

>>18012758
This is true and it's why I always fap to Lexi Belle, that smile, that damn smile :)

>>18012750
Read the sex god method.
You need immersion, variation, dominance and emotion.

https://selfconquering.com/how-to-be-a-sex-god-the-sex-god-method-summary/

>>18012750
Not necessarily sex related, but most books about relationship and communication by John Gottman, How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnage, and Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel.

These are books that will help you if you are socially inept and mostly help you understand emotions and how they work in a relationship. It especially helps with how to ultimately endure in a relationship. It is to be noted though that the books will do nothing on their own and relies on you to act them out in real life. Obviously the rules, advice, or knowledge in these books are general, so you have to translate them into your situation accordingly.

>>18012750
I dunno senpai as a girl let me give you advice:

Touch our clit or don't be offended if she rubs it while you're fucking her. If it's extremely wet, rub it from any angle, if it is dry, use your spit and/or rub only on the clitoral hood and try to "move the ball around" of the clit, you'll know what I mean when you feel it.

During sex, heavy breathing in the ear, gentle scratches, ear nibbling, a very soft hand on the throat or shoulder holding us down, running your hands through our hair then grabbing it and holding it down slightly roughly while you fuck is yummy. Thigh squeezing too.

Be careful with groping, men seem to think that breasts are super sensitive erotic places but I actually don't find that to be very true, maybe slightly rubbing the nipples or softly squeezing them is fine, but boob "grabs" and squeezes outside of the nipple do not feel like anything to us, unless it's a very gentle caressing during foreplay. The nicest feel on the nipple is a light lick or suckle, especially on the tip only not the rest of the areola.

Inner labia are slightly sensitive, outer labia feel like regular skin, the best sensitive parts we have are the clit (which is sensitive to touch, so when in doubt, only rub using the clitoral hood and above, don't touch our magic button unless it's extremely well lubricated or it will hurt) and the "g-spot" although movement from fingers wiggling side to side is much nicer than "in and out". The butthole is generally not a sensitive area for us, and anal tends to hurt and not be very pleasant for the vast majority of women. Maybe a finger in the butt after really trusting each other and knowing each other with lots of lubrication, but don't play with it until well into an established relationship.

>>18014570
The neck, ears, upper thighs and feet are also surprisingly erotic zones that men often forget or leave out. A lick on the neck and gentle kisses/heavy breathing is really nice and sensual, especially pressing yourself against our bodies. Ears are great for nibbling the top and/or whispering, sucking on the bottom part where a girl normally has an earring though or sticking your tongue in is NOT sexy. Upper thighs are great to squeeze but be careful you aren't squeezing us into positions we're not as flexible at. If your girl isn't flexible, don't try putting her into super pornstar poses with 1 leg up, both legs super stretched out and flat and shit, it will just hurt us.

Cowgirl is nice but for chunky+unfit girls and even us skinny girls it can get exhausting, especially if you want a lot more "in and out" rather than grinding. We like it for grinding because we can feel you inside and also get a nice rub of the clit. While you may say, alright, whatever, I'll rub her clit, the sensation especially if it feels really good can leave us a bit tired, so if you want your girl to orgasm and you aren't a fan of the "grinding" then flip her missionary or "pronebone" or whatever it is called so she can spasm out and tense her muscles without having to do some crazy ass workout. If you do like the cowgirl grinding however and feel you are close to cumming WITH her, rub her clit with one hand/thumb and grab her ass with the other while continuing your thrusting. This will give you guaranteed results. If you want to cum but she already came or isn't going to right now during cowgirl, then lean her down, grab her by the hair/neck/back with one hand and the ass in the other and just go to town. This way she can moan in your ear and make sexy noises and you can feel her body and shit.

Missionary and "pronebone" are unironically our favorite positions because we can get fucked, rub ourselves easily, grab our tit easily, and can relax/tense as much as we want as we are using almost no muscles except if arching extremely or moving ourselves. These are your best bet positions to get her to cum, but if you're doing pronebone, you should nibble on her ear and try reaching around to rub the clit as well, as the lack of eye contact and intimacy can make it slightly harder to cum in this one with our face pressed into a pillow. Make sure she can always breathe well in any compromising position like this, a pillow under the pelvis is better in pronebone than under the face to minimise accidental suffocation, which is not sexy.

>>18012750
>how to please women
utterly pathetic you normalfag. who gives a shit about women? they are all vile soulless whores

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>>18014617
If she says she is about to cum, continue doing what you are doing first of all. A lot of guys will try stopping and get too excited or change what they're doing and that's absolutely the worst behavior you can do. If you have a free hand, move it to the clit if possible and it won't fuck up your rhythm. Verbal reassurance is excellent in this moment, BUT never tell her to cum for you EVER unless she asks. Why? Many women can be close but then suddenly need the buildup again, an orgasm for a lot of us can be harder to achieve especially if we are overthinking it or nervous or cold or feel chunky or a billion other women reasons, so saying "yes cum for me now" can almost seem like a command or even a warning sign you are going to cum, which can turn her in one second from enjoying herself and almost cumming to tense, nervous, and completely not close at all again. This is partially behavior which leads a girl to faking, and you NEVER want a girl to fake with you. Be OK with a girl not being able to orgasm quickly at first, especially with a new partner, as it can be nerve wracking.

Never encourage her to fake by saying things like cum for me cum for me, or by being upset at her rubbing herself. Most women rub themselves during sex but a lot of guys feel like they're being used as masturbation tools which is just the entire opposite of the truth, the fact is most women rarely cum from PIV alone and need that extra clitoral stimulation.

If she's cumming, DO NOT suddenly stop and pull out. I have seen this shit happen in way too many cases especially porn which is embarrassing as they're supposedly sex professionals. NO. If she is cumming keep going until she physically pushes you away, she WILL spasm and move around and probably tremble a lot but until she is literally pushing you away, just keep going, trust me, it is the best feeling ever to have an extended orgasm when he doesn't stop.

Never go from ass to vag, ever, with fingers or your penis, you could give your girl a UTI or other issues that will not be pleasant at all. No stealthing, this is rape. No CNC with anyone you don't know just in case. Be careful before introducing bondage/fetishes into your sex life, you definitely want to wait before mentioning things until you are in a relationship and you have had vanilla sex before. I don't recommend basing a relationship off/around a fetish at all, ever. No "dom/sub" scenarios, no bloodplay or CNC or whatever unless you are a very serious couple and you both trust each other a lot, this is how rape happens and also fake rape accusations come about and it's just not good to engage in fetishes with someone you barely know unless they are innocuous (ej. feet, latex, etc.) Don't choke someone unless they seem into it, and I guarantee you asking a girl "do you like this?" is a sexy and safe way to obtain consent before you do something potentially unwanted like choking or nipple squeezing.

>>18014570
>The butthole is generally not a sensitive area for us, and anal tends to hurt and not be very pleasant for the vast majority of women
That's why I never ever intuitively liked anal porn. All my coomer friends enjoy that but deep down I knew that this doesn't feel like anything so I couldn't get off

>>18014664
Lastly remember that foreplay is really the best way to get a girl hot and heavy. If she is horny by this time she might cum really quickly when you actually start fucking. This is okay, if you haven't came yourself, I recommend giving her kisses and continuing to rub and caress her while she recovers for a minute or two. Most women can orgasm multiple times but will need at least 10-15 seconds before continuing, minimum. We can also get extremely tired after cumming though, so don't expect her to go from an orgasm to instantly cowgirl activity. Transition to something low-maintenance for her like missionary/pronebone/doggy and then she will likely get enthusiastic again with other positions.

If you fuck in the shower be careful, the water can be turned off/too hot, our vagina will tighten and get difficult to penetrate if the water is hot/on top of us, it can get in our eyes, we can have difficulties maintaining balance, I don't recommend it for beginners.

Morning sex tends to not be as sexy, especially for girls that brush their teeth first thing in the morning before breakfast or who are sensitive to smells. Only try it if a girl is enthusiastic, a morning person, and/or has "freshened up" or took a shower previously that evening. If you do end up doing morning sex anyways, licking probably isn't what you want, so stick to PIV and touching rather than blowjobs and cunnilingus.

Check what type of lube you are using if you use toys or want to do anal or something, but I don't recommend either of these for first time sexual experiences as they tend to require some experience before attempting, and toys can also be a bit of a nuisance.

Always ask her if she likes what you are doing or get reassurance, and if she doesn't seem to like it, let her guide your hand the way she does. Just tell her to show you how she likes it with your hand and do back-forth movements while she teaches you, and bam, you suddenly know what ticks her boxes. Some women like to be rubbed in different ways than others, so don't repeat the same techniques that maybe worked for another girl with a new girl if she doesn't seem into them after you try.

Good luck getting laid OP and if you have any questions I will check back later.

>>18012750
>Have a fat dick
>Warm her up properly
>Put fat dick into vagina
Girth > everything else.

>>18014657
what is this supposed to even mean
>>18014672
Yeah it's clear that a LOT of porn is geared to men, but I honestly don't understand why, it just leads to total confusion on what women actually like and leads girls to feeling the need to fake orgasms to be "normal" and not disappoint.

The fact of the matter is: our butthole feels good in the way that pressure and muscle tension feels good, just in that first little area it is a nice thing to pop a finger in that is wet. Do I do it while masturbating? no. do some women? Sure. Do most? Probably not, no. And if they do, it is always one finger in the butthole, barely inserted and the rest of it is masturbating with a vaginal/clitoral toy or rubbing the clit. There is some nice sensation at the first bits in the ass like the exterior and about knuckle deep, further than that is uncomfortable though except for seasoned experts or extremely drunk women. A nice rub is nice, and lightly touching my butthole does cause some soft tingles/sensation in the vagina, but we don't have a prostate like men do, and it's just inferior sensations compared to our vaginal bits. A more experienced person can stimulate our a spot but again this generally takes a lot of trial and error and isn't worth it.

So as a girl I hate anal porn, most of the girls seem like they're in pain and even if they're not, it's like, why not just use the vagina like normal. Or seeing them move between the two is an instant revolting turn off, like she's going to enjoy a UTI guaranteed. Another thing that is almost exclusively a guy thing is being into squirting. Even if her skene's glands express some fluid (which it's not like we can feel anyways), ALL squirting involves urine. It's just...gross. Like she's just randomly peeing all over some bed. And for me at least an orgasm tenses everything up, it takes me a few minutes to pee afterwards. Most women in squirting porn look like they're faking it imo but I could just be uncultured swine too.

Tl;dr normal sex should be fine OP follow my advice and just make it sensual and passionate and don't jackhammer her like a pornstar and you should be good

>>18014570
>as a girl let me give you advice
stopped reading right there

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>>18014752
YWNBAW

>>18014889
basado

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>>18014691
Solid advice but I will never have sex.

>>18012758
I mean, yeah, but you should still work on your technique, you fatass.

>>18013847
Women can't be incels. They can have sex literally by posting their phone number, talking for five minutes, then waiting for a thirsty male to show up.

>>18013456
This is true

>>18012760
>The Thinking Man

120 days of sodom

>>18012758
Delusional incel bluepill
>>18013456
Realistic sex-haver blackpill

Get good at sex or you're getting cucked sooner rather than later. Simple as.

>>18015251
lmao sex without love is just cumbersome masturbation. Everything that makes it special is psychological

>>18015264
Woman isn't capable to pair-bond unless you dominate her in bed and make her cum. Absolute basics. You don't need to tie her up and fuck her for 30 minutes, that's just porn.

>>18015284
lol who gives a shit what she feels

>>18015290
You don't have to of course, but then you'll get cucked in no time. Which was my original point.

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>>18014752
this is actually decent advice

>>18015251
Imagine bringing a girl like that home to meet your family.

>>18015463
That's every girl, most just don't wear such shirts.

>>18013847
>THE FUCKING TRANNYFLY IS IN THE IMAGE
lmao, he's the epitomy of bookcel and sexual deviation
KEK, GET REKT TRANNYFLY, FUCK YOU

>>18014752
BASED WOMAN COMMMENTARY HAS BLESSED THIS POST
THX

Lolita

>>18014691
what do you mean by foreplay?

>>18015789
How did it take so long for this to come up?

>>18012758
I've been a robot in the sack and had women fall in love with me. I've been passionate and letting my body do its own thing and embarrassed myself and my lady. Just schlong it, nigga. Hit it or quit it.

>>18012750
Read Kamasutra by Vatsyayan.
And I mean read, not look at the pictures and jerk off.

>>18014752
This vivid butthole post is true.
There's basically a key fingering technique that will let you know how a particular woman is wired. It's like picking a lock. Once you pick the lock just pick it the same way every time with slight variation and you'll never be let down or complain about things getting stale.

>>18012750
E E Cummings poems
Speak it and she she cumming

ITT: the thread Femanons saved 4chan

>>18012750