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What literature to read if I want to at minimum get an idea of what having a good character entails?

Lately I have come to dislike people who get very emotional and let their emotions override their judgement, physiologically I know what is happening, the amygdala is sending a signal to the rest of the brain that the person is in danger, so the brain pumps out adrenaline and cortisol, HR accelerates, you begin sweating, and your emotions take hold. Unless your frontal lobes are powerful enough to catch this and recognize the reaction for what it is, then you have control over your emotions. This is why people who practice meditation always feel more grounded, because their frontal lobes get more robust.

My problem is not that I´m annoyed that people are overly emotional, it´s like being annoyed at people who are born deaf, or blind. I´m not annoyed at them, I´m annoyed because I see myself in them and fear becoming like it.

So I spend some time going back and forth in my own mind about actions I took, to figure out if what I did was correct or if I had a lapse in judgement. BUT. I have no role models, I don´t know if a good character and morals are set in stone, I suspect they are, but if they are where can I read about them? I´m going on a buying spree, I have some Seneca books and Aurelius, but that is about it. What do you recommend?

>> No.16643215

This OP is maximum cringe. Brothers Karamazov btw

>> No.16643227
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>>16643203

The School Of Life: An Emotional Education By Alain De Botton
King, Warrior, Magician, Lover By Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette
The Screwtape Letters By C.S. Lewis.
The Great Divorce By C.S. Lewis.
Beyond Bullying: Breaking the Cycle of Shame, Bullying And Violence By Jonathan Fast (SJW stuff inside, but overall IMO it shows that an inability to manage shame is a key emotional motivator for passive-aggression and aggression. Our subconscious will drag us towards being dicks to people, if we don't learn how to manage feelings of shame in a healthy way - a very good companion to King, Warrior, Magician and Lover IMO.

>> No.16643235

>>16643203
lol canadian on bennies.

>> No.16643257

why feel annoyed when you can feel no reaction and move on with your life?

>> No.16643345

>>16643257

You can't control how you feel in the moment, you can only suppress how you feel in the moment.

Changing your internal emotional reaction habits requires the understanding, time and effort to change the subconscious.

>> No.16643356

>>16643227
>Alain De Botton
Stop it.

>> No.16643387

>>16643215
I'm also a little autistic so it's to be expected I guess. Thank you for the suggestion.
>>16643227
thanks
>>16643235
?
>>16643257
>>16643345

>> No.16645002

>>16643203
Count of Monte Christo. Abbe Faria is what you are looking for

>> No.16645232

>>16643203
The Bible