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Epicurus

>>14278167
general introduction to psychoanalysis. if you aren't already familiar with freud's ideas, you might find yourself recognizing your own family members in the cases he discusses

>>14278211
I read one of his cases once, the one about the little boy, and it seemed to me very clear that was was just projecting his own predilections and problems onto his patient

>>14278190
Never looked into him, isn't he similar to the Stoics?

"Sexual repression" is a consequence of over exposure to erotic stimuli and an inability to act on it. We need less sex, less masturbation, less porn, if you want to cure sexual repression, not more of it.

>>14278516
I've never had sex and I'm not a chronic masturbator. I just want to have a healthy sex life

>>14278190
Giving OP books by a hedonist isn't the kind of help he needs.

>>14278512
Epicurus was a hedonist, definitely not a good book choice for one who wants sexual well-being; Epicurus doesn't really even talk about sex.

>>14278560
Healthy sex life first starts with a healthy love life.

>>14278560
>Virgin, no chronic masturbation
>I just want a healthy sex life
Sounds like your parents didn't fuck you up as badly as you may think. There are people who are ashamed to the core for the sexual encounters they've had and their chronic masturbation.

I'd frankly kill (metaphorically) to be living a life totally without that shame. People think it's mentally healthy to be at least a little promiscuous, but you should wait for marriage material before you have sex. You don't have to be sure you will marry, but if you want sex no strings attached, you will have to lower your standards on both intimacy and attractiveness to the point that it's just not worth it, and you'll 100% regret it.

>>14278911
>you should wait for marriage material before you have sex
Why would I do this? Even the 'good girls' I know have had sex with 2-3 guys. If I've never had sex before I'm just going to suck at it and they're going to know it. I don't want to be some kind of Tinder fuckboy but I want experience in this because it's a part of my life that's sorely lacking and I'm missing out. And I don't just mean sex but dealing with girls in general. Last year I met a a girl who was 100% serious relationship material but I fucked it up by like the 3rd date because I have no idea how to deal with women romantically.

>>14279130
>I have no idea how to deal with women romantically.
If you want to make women like you romantically just make them laugh and be a dick to them. The rest will follow naturally, just never explicitly admit you like them and they'll eventually press you for a relationship. First subtly, then explicitly. Women thrive on conflict and fun. Your idea of romance is facile idealism, woman are simple creatures.

>>14279339
I think I do that for the most part, I don't really simp anymore. But the problem is that the few girls I meet always end up moving away or ghosting or some shit before we can even meet up once and I don't meet enough girls to counter this flakiness through shear quantity.

>>14278167
I'm gonna go with "The Sensuous Man" or anything recommended by Reader's Digest.

There were a lot of books like that in the '70s, to help horny Catholics keep it fresh in the bedroom so they wouldn't cheat on each other.

Porn and erotica are too unrealistic. Nothing wrong with that, but if you are sexually repressed you need some bedrock concept of sexuality from which to start.

>>14278560
You´re looking for Wilhelm Reich. And perhaps Alexander Lowen

>>14279557
Try approaching women at campus or whatever. Dont ask for their number, tell them that you're gonna get their number. Talk as little as possible over text in the beginning. Call them and set a date. Time and place. No texts before first date.
Talk about the girl. Make her talk and be interested. Make sure to go for a kiss or you fucked up, then go next.

This is difficult but your confidencr will be through the roof when successful

>>14279130
I had sex once before dating my current gf, she didn't care that i was inexperienced. She wasnt super experienced either, 2-3 guys i would guess. Id guess no serious relationship since she couldn't suck dick to save her life and she couldn't ride properly. Pretend you're not insecure even if you are.

>>14278560
I would advise you to look into the esoteric roots of the duality of male and female. In many ancient cultures there were gods that and embodied both man and woman in one body. Most of us are more complex than "just a man" or "just a woman." We play the role of a single gender in love and life but there are shades and gradations to it, which allow for a more nuanced view of sexual identity.

>>14278879
>do emotional labor or no cummies
hhhhh

>>14281116
This is a traditional board. We don't tolerate trannies here.

>>14281141
>We
gonna throw you outside the wall and make you live with the furries
the spaceship's probably some omon ra shit too, I doubt your competence

>>14278872
>Epicurus was a hedonist

>>14281116
Can someone please tell me why people find gender roles to be this hugely limiting thing? I feel way more concerned about climate change, financial debt bondage of millennials/zoomers, dysfunctional political systems, media business models that generate social conflict to make money, and other - IDK - real problems that impact lots of people. Why the fuck should I care if your emotionally stunted dad told you not to cry because you were a boy or something? It is not a significant social issue that gender roles can change and loosen when material conditions make survival trivial enough.

>>14278167
Anything by the filmmaker John Waters. To wit (sorta): I'm glad I was raised Catholic, because sex will always be dirty, so sex will always be good."

>>14281162
Because those emotionally stunted people who cannot be healthy with their emotions are making public policy or heading large organizations where their decisions impact millions of people.

>>14281209
>Because those emotionally stunted people who cannot be healthy with their emotions are making public policy or heading large organizations where their decisions impact millions of people.
Oh ok. Thanks for not answering my actual question.

>>14281244
They limit creation of more harmonious communities by limiting individuals, the unit on which communities of any size are built

>>14278211
Awful idea. There is a reason Freud didn’t allow himself to be psychoanalyzed.

>>14281162
because the equilibrium is not stable
it's not "gender roles", it's "being male sucks ass" plus "i, a lady, want more power"