/lit/ - Literature

This guy has a very interesting idea which I think is relevant to Christian philosophy. He says that you don't take other people's negative opinion of you to heart if you know it has nothing to do with you, and that it never does have anything to do with you. That when someone has a negative opinion of you and you're feeling offended, it's showing you that some part of you is buying into it as true. And that when you feel offended by someone's opinion of you you should say "thank you for showing me that I wasn't loving all of myself". This all sounds great, but what disappoints me is that he doesn't explain why other people's negative opinion of you is never true.
https://youtu.be/tLVA07_ISUk?t=36
thoughts?

There's a paradox in Christianity.

A good person is not fazed when someone has a very negative opinion of them. For example when someone thinks you're weak or ugly.

What if the negative opinion they have about you is about your moral character? Something seems to change. That's when there is a paradox. Because if you're truly a good person, wouldn't you be able to have the whole world think you're rotten and not be fazed by it? I'm not necessarily talking about "false accusations", I'm talking about when all apparent evidence points to them being right in their opinion about you, and you still aren't fazed by it. Note I didn't say you think you're good even though they think you're bad, a common misunderstanding. I said not fazed, as in having no emotional reaction to it. I'm thinking maybe that's the meaning of the metaphor "Jesus was a Jew".