/lit/ - Literature

Getting to the age where my friends are shacked up with long term partners. Rather than feeling loneliness, per se, I mostly feel bored. The boredom is bad, but I'm trying to cultivate the boredom to the point where I get off my ass and find a girlfriend. I'm over the apps, I've been on dates but I either don't like the girl or she doesn't like me. In each case the interactions are always defined by a general mood of apathy, which I think is endemic to the apps. There is no spark, it is too mediated. I don't believe you need to find your partner in the wild, completely randomly, but even to be set up by a friend cultivates some curiosity that is conducive to romance. "I wonder what it is about this person that my friend thought would make us a good match?" generates more enthusiasm than 6 photos and 3 calculatedly written prompts.

I did have a relationship from tinder once, of all places. Though it ended pretty disastrously, I can't really blame that on the app. Perhaps it is my age. Everyone I meet is so defeated already by the mundane drudgery of their lives, and those who arent are psychotic and unstable. I count myself in that former group, for what it's worth. I have become a very boring person, as of late.