/lit/ - Literature

>sex and love won't make you happy brah, you just godda love yourself
Trust me from experience anons, this is just another lie the system perpetuates for you to keep on eating shit. It won't solve all your problems but only a retard would ever assume it would.

>>15880511
>thought life would get better after I got a gf
>it did

>>15714661
Romantic/sexual intimacy, like familial love and friendships, are a baseline from which confidence and self esteem can grow. Think of a child that has grown up unloved by their parents or guardians. We all know of one or two (you might be one yourself). What happens to them? They're walking messes; beaten dogs who react to the world with either hostility or fear. This is because they had no baseline when they were growing up. Nothing to validate themselves as beings with worth and importance. That's what love does. It confirms your place in the world.

As we grow up, we seek affection and companionship from other places, places where affection is given because of who we are rather than what we are (i.e. someone's son). We seek friends and as we get older we seek partners, who validate us in the most intimate and personal of ways. You can never be that bad of a person if someone lets you stick your most vulnerable part of your body in their vulnerable part of their body; if someone allows you to be naked with them; if someone confides with you emotionally; if someone is close to you and totally at peace. You can't be all bad if this happens. You must have SOME worth.

This is what incels and FA's and robots lack, this most profound and intimate validation. And Normies never understand this lack because you only notice it when it isn't there. They say "I validated myself!" And they're wrong. We are validated by others, by the people we love who love us back. Everything else is shallow narcissism.