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>>11884529
Take it from a guy not that far removed from his "retirement". I was nobody's chad, just a guy who never had a problem finding a girlfriend, and wasn't afraid to dump them, either.

The rules that go into making a good Christian girl like you are the exact same that would make a ratchet thot from the hood be DTF. It's 70% nonverbal cues, this isn't sentimental bullshit either, this is established science. You can go to the library and study them like you could study how to become a great chess player. But for God's sake, avoid PUA's like the plague, they're just dudes jerking each other off who can never actually produce results when made to put up or shut up. Dating is a right-hemisphere-of-the-brain exercise, there will never be an algorithm for success, you just have to feel it out in the moment. Salesmanship is its close cousin, you gotta be willing to sell yourself.

The worst thing you can do is waste energy on a bitch who isn't compatible with you: you might be able to fake it for a while but eventually, the facade will crumble, and you'll be way more miserable than you were alone. Shared interests, values, and interpersonal chemistry are the foundations to long-term success.

Be upfront with a woman about your interest in them, but don't feel bad if she says not interested, shrug it off as her loss and move on to the next one. Don't waste energy on women who call attention to themselves, that's a sign of insecurity. Don't waste energy chasing a girl who is only half interested, cut your line and recast. Master the art of falling out of love, and you can put the fear of loss in a woman's heart, and that there is relationship staying power. Match the rate at which she invests in you emotionally, and you'll never be bitterly disappointed when the life you had planned together doesn't pan out the way you wanted it too. Get her to think that it was her idea. And it all starts with learning how to read and respond to cues.

To this day, my wife swears that the moment she knew she liked me was when I put my hand on the small of her back while I was walking her to the restaurant.