/lit/ - Literature

In the past, the vast majority of Incels were people who were unable to find a partner due to illness or extreme unattractiveness. Today Incels have been joined by two other groups of men. The first are those who are blamed for their own fault. They are usually the result of poor parenting and mental disorders. They are trapped in a negative bias about their chances, fatalists who see little point. They could get a partner, they have options, but they consider them unbalanced if compared to previous generations. They would have to put in more effort to end up with worse results than a few decades ago. Since it is quantitatively as well as morally not easy to make statements about the "quality" of possible partners, the quality of people, these men are often seen as arrogant, entitled or even anti-social. Since these men aren't always ugly or of low status, they are misunderstood and often face benevolent motivation from people who see the general potential in them to get a partner. What they don't understand is that these men want to ensure their own self-preservation in a way, to find a partner of equal (genetic) status. Not only because they think they deserve it, but because further deterioration in their own offspring, would decrease the chances of a connection in the dating world even further. And there we have already arrived at the second new group of today's incels. This is the group of men that today are no longer able to find a partner, although it usually was possible in past generations. In addition to narrowing standards, ethnic imbalances cause this problem as well. An average man from the Phillipines has a height of 5'4" and would be anything but average in Western societies. At the same time, as the pressure increases even in the dating world of the native population of Western countries, these foreign men thus have an even harder time finding a partner. Furthermore, there are discussions about the average facial attractiveness between ethnic groups, which is often a taboo due to its proximity to racist theories. Different cultural, religious, or political systems may have produced different rates of beautiful people in the respective ethnicities.
The worlds dating landscape is changing, but there are of course always a lot of outliers that do not fit into this narrow picture. Those are often used rhetorically in unobjective debates as evidence to dismiss the incel worldview as flawed. The somewhat oversimplified measuring of people as if none of them were conscious individuals also provides surface for rhetorical attacks. Moreover, the Incels social darwinism is also oversimplified; children do not always directly mirror the potential of their parents. Appearance and intelligence can vary heavily from them sometimes, both positively and negatively. But while this variance exists, the general trends are there. Outliers aren't a solution for everyone. These cases do not break out of a framework of what is generally possible.