/lit/ - Literature

I've always found the adage 'be yourself' troublesome. And I get the hatred that incels have towards that phrase. It never really made sense to me largely because I don't really know who I 'am'. I don't feel like I have any fixed sense of identity, at least not one I can clearly trace out the outline of. But as I grow older I start to get it a little more. 'Be yourself' doesn't apply to the big things, because the big things are things you should change. But in the small ways I am growing more comfortable with 'myself'. As in, my attitude to life and conversation, the way I see things and phrase things. If someone has an insurmountable problem with my approach, it's probably true that I shouldn't change myself to please them. I'm a big believer in self improvement and if there are things about yourself that you want to change, then you should. But those parts of you that feel 'right' should remain.

Anyway. The self is ephemeral. Trans people don't exist. We're all gay and language is a big puzzle that you fail to solve each and every day.