/lit/ - Literature

Bad news for you OP, and maybe you'll find it out some day for yourself: love is real.

Is it perfect? Does it prevent conflict, separation, and suffering? Nope. But even when these things occur, love can still exist before, during, and after they happen.

I think marriage nowadays is highly mistreated, and love itself is greatly misunderstood (as "if you love someone you don't fight and everything works out once you commit to each other"), but let's also notice that 50% of marriages don't end in divorce. And a portion of those could even be called happy marriages.

Books about love not being real? Read them if you want - maybe you'll learn something I haven't. If you become curious about what love that's worked for and worked through looks like, I'd suggest, perhaps out of left-field, relationship psychology. Possibly Harville Hendrix or Esther Perel. I'm presuming you wouldn't be open right now to the poetry or letters of Rilke.

Also, transcendent love more akin to agape or metta most certainly exists and it's a lucky moment when you get to experience it. Although, like romantic love, it doesn't transform you or anyone else into someone that never gets angry, jealous, or upset.

There are many unhealthy views and expectations about love which are certainly over-idealistic. But there is a very obvious reason it has appeared throughout the world's literary history.

I've doubted love exists. But you can't unsee it once it reveals itself.

the cure

>he hasn't read the Duino Elegies

why is this allowed?