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Is there a system or catalogue of objective correlatives between, say, musical beats or dances and internal psychological states. Allegro for stress. Tango for seduction etc.?

Also why is it so hard to explain myself and my reasoning to other people. Why the fuck do people insight on questioning my idiosyncrasies, "why don't you...?" and I have to calmly explain because I tried it and it doesn't work. Why is it when ever I try and explain a problem people invariably focus on the wrong thing.
>"I have trouble with self expression, like when I was talking to my girlfriend..."
>"sounds like your girlfriend doesn't listen to you champ"..
No, that's just one example, it happened with my ex, with my boss, with my friend etc. etc. etc.... Why is it so hard to coherently and concisely explain myself?
Unfortunately the extemporaneous nature of communication means that you can't sit in a room and write a distilled abstract of your 3000 word, well referenced and sourced, thought process.
So I never feel 'understood'.