/lit/ - Literature

>>20990356
What I liked about the book (I listened to the audiobook) is that it had some simple truths that I didn't think about. Until then I always thought porn has only downside and just one upside, it gives me pleasure. But he pointed out that is a trap. The fact that I need a high from it is because porn put me in that position in the first place. It changed my mind, I'm way worse at handling boredom or stress than an non-addict. Take a heroin junkie for example, his day is ruined and he can't handle anything if he can't get the next high. But the heroin made him like this in the first place, normal people don't even think about heroin and just handle fine whatever life throughs at them, while he can't even handle merely existing. It's pretty obvious, but it still opened my eyes.

So porn has zero upsides and only downsides, it's 100% destructive. The positive sides are just an illusion. Therefore it is not a challenge to stop it. The counting of days or the magical number of 90 day are counterproductive. You tell yourself that it is something hard that needs willpower. But you should not rely on willpower, because you will fail. You simply stop and that's it. Simple, but it was the only thing that helped me.

But yeah, it is long. If you need a shorter version with basically the same message, check out
https://flying-eagle-method.org/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Wdh9TMrN5E (audiobook)