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>It’s like, if you haven’t encountered that then there’s something terribly wrong… you know… because a lot of the tension in households is domestic tension. The tensions between husbands and wives they are husbands wives and children it’s like just WHO THE HELL’S going to do the domestic duties and how and when and the answer can’t be well we’re not going to do them because then you know you eat Cheetos and popcorn and you know for the rest of your life and that’s not good. It’s gotten to the point in England because the domestic situations have deteriorated the rituals have deteriorated to such a point that about 1/3 of families no longer have a dining room table and you can buy PRE-COOKED hard-boiled eggs, yeah, yeah, right, so it’s not a good thing, and you might ask yourself why the hell everyone is fat or has an eating disorder and you know part of the reason is that the entire domestic routine around regulating food intake has disappeared that’s a terrible thing for people because we’re social eaters. So you might say, well, if you sit down with a bunch of other people… at a table… how much should you eat? And the answer is: you should eat on average what everyone else eats. And that’s exactly what you do, even if you don’t notice it. You know people are so wired into we did experiments like this if you bring undergraduates who don’t know each other… into a lab… and you give them a snack while they’re doing something like watching a movie, they will eat the same number of chips. So you know if one of them eats the whole half the thing, the other will eat half. If one only has one, the other will only have one. The correlation between the food intake, between the dyads was about 0.8 it was staggering. Seemed to be a little higher for extroverts than for introverts, but it was remarkably concordant. You can understand why right? Because human beings share food it’s like you are not going to be a popular tribesperson… if you eat you know 30% of the food when food is in short supply. You better be bloody awake and make sure you don’t take more than your share. And you know it’s a fundamental of human nature to do that. And you know, we also regulate our sense of satiety by cues that are external to us. So regulating our food intake, also because we’re omnivores turns out to be a tremendously difficult thing and anyways, back to this kid. So, we bring all the kids to the table and they’re sitting around and they’re having lunch and the rule is, as I said, eat what is in front of you and be PLEASED AND HAPPY ABOUT IT. So you might say well why would that also be a rule? It’s like okay, put yourself in this position now because you’ll be in this position. You’re going to cook your damn kid some lunch.