/lit/ - Literature

>>22615925
There is a truth to this, emotionally healthy people don't have to "improve" as some people say, to get friends or a grildfriend, more often than not it's emotionally scared people that think there's something wrong with them and that they fail in life because of that, then they try to get better by doing whatever their self-help guru or book of choice tells them but when they get the gym body, the friends, the jod, the girl they will slowly realize that they still hate themselves

(It is a pretty nasty place to be in, getting what you wanted and then realizing everything's the same, the void is still there and it worst now because it's almost as it is laughing in your face for thinking you could fill it with something)

In reality, chances are that wathever's in your life that makes you feel "less-worthy" (or makes you hate yourself) ain't your fault, if you were short, ugly and with acne in highschool and the girl you liked wated to be with someone else that sucks but is not a good enough reason to hate yourself for it the only reason you would if is you somehow think that all those thigs that make you unatracttive are your fault, then you take a ride on the self-hate carousel and end up either obsesing over self-improvement trying to fill a void that can't be filled or on an incel forum swiming on a pool of self-hate

I guess what I'm trying to say with this is that yes life is unfair but no that ain't your fault, and if you are in any way blaming yourself for your "problems" (you didn't kill anybody bro you just short) you will never get into a healthy relantionship with anybody, you can't love someone that hates himself, I'm not saying wake up every day and say "I love you" to the mirror I'm saying find out way you hate yourself so much and forgive yourself for it because chances are it really ain't your fault