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>>22476718
>Those dates are part of the selection process though. Are you expecting women to choose without actually meeting anyone in person?

You're kinda using the "I didn't know he was a toxic piece of shit excuse" that girls always use after a bad breakup, but that usually falls apart under any degree of scrutiny. Women are masters of sniffing out bad eggs when the guy is 'suspicious,' gives them the 'ick,' or is 'creepy,' etc. All of which are just womanese for "I don't find him attractive." However, women's magical intuition for male bullshit oddly ceases to function when the guy is hot and turns them on. Suddenly, a lot of those otherwise toxic red flags just contribute to the guy's charm.

His anger issues become "Oh, he's so passionate."
His duplicity become "Oh, he's mysterious and interesting."
His history of violence becomes "Oh, I bet he can protect me from (less attractive) violent men."
His possessiveness and lack of boundaries become "Oh, he's such a passionate lover."

And in order for it to finally click that these really are vices and not virtues, a woman has to go out of her way subject herself to this in bad relationship after bad relationship until the halo effect finally wears off (though, sometimes it never does). To say this is part of the mate-selection process for women is nonsense, because if you blindfolded a woman and described these red flaggers in detail but threw in a random tidbit about them being very short, fat, or ugly, 100% of women would say no to a date with them, because he sounds like a loser with serious issues. Swap those traits with tall, ripped, and hot, most would still say no because women are never honest about these types of things, but a hefty chunk would be hitting up his DMs afterwards.