/lit/ - Literature

>>11754541
You're headed in the right direction, but you've gone too far and wandered right off Blackpill Cliff into Nihilism Lake, smacking yourself into numerous tree branches of pessimism on the way down. An overwhelming majority of people, including women, derive more enjoyment from others liking them than actually liking others. Most people prefer to be around people that find them funny rather than those they find funny, for example.

Demonstrating that you enjoy having someone in your life drives them to want to stay there. While it is true that you should never indicate you are dependent on their presence, your post implies you shouldn't do anything to show you're even happy that they're there. Being romantic means you're a good enough fit for her that you know what she'll like AND that you like her enough to do it; it's when beta guys fuck it up by emulating fiction like you said that shows you may like her enough, but you're not a good fit for her and she is turned off.

>tl;dr Romance is perfectly fine in a healthy relationship