/lit/ - Literature

>>21451355
You'd probably like Norah Vincent's Self-Made Man, incredible book by, dare I say it, an honorary male.

I've had to explain to several otherwise intelligent women that men don't have the same dating prospects they have. What I mean is, they literally did not understand that scarcity is a factor for average men. I remember one having a near existential crisis when I told her, when the guy calls you a second or third time even though you didn't have a very good date, remember, he's not just thinking "do I want her y/n?," he's thinking, this is the only remotely viable girl I've gotten to the third date stage in six months or maybe even more, and it could be another three months before I get anything, remember that recent dry spell, god I'm so horny, etc.

She didn't understand this. When it dawned on her that men can't just "go get another date" instantly unless they're the kind of men she swipes right on (attractive or unique), when I told her simply to extend the fact that she swipes left on 99.8% of guys to other women and try to imagine what all those 99.8% of guys are thinking when they finally DO match with a girl they actually find attractive for once, imagine how much pressure is on them to make it work, even if they wouldn't really want it to work if they had other options.

My last gf told me to stop telling my female friends this stuff because she said it destroys women's minds and robs them of their innocence, so I began telling as many women as possible.

>>21419963
You know that long DFW quote about how most people don't commit suicide willingly, they do it in the same way that someone finally jumps out of a burning building because the fear of burning alive finally just barely edges out the fear of death by falling? It's the same with 99% of what men do toward women in a romantic/lust capacity. We don't really want to do any of it, but the fire of not having a vent for our desire is slightly more terrifying, especially when it flares up