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>>23471122
>Go with fiance to his aunties birthday
>They're all singing karaoke.
>He gets thrown to sing Taylor Swift songs because it's a running joke he likes her music but denies it
>Certain songs like cruel summer (during the bridge part about coming home drunk, and sneaking into backyards) comes on and he and a family friend of his keeps low-key looking at each other and low key smiling during that part and throughout the song but I notice
>Same thing happens with fortnight where although he was jokingly singing it to me for the audience it felt like he was genuinely reminiscing about the lyrics or singing it to indirectly to her.
>Although he didn't sing greese summer nights and we were all just joining in the ad-libs, I felt I caught them looking at each other smiling through out

They had a summer fling at some point of their life didn't they or am I just imagining things? I always sensed there was tension between them.

Should I confront him about it or even try to fish something out of his sister? I don't even know what I'm supposed to get out of doing so or why it's bothering me

>>21328139
I've been married to my wife for 10 years and have been with her since just after highschool. She's really hot, I love her, she loves me, she's a great mother and wife but I'm starting to feel like it might be an abusive relationship at the same time. Since I've known her she has isolated me from anyone I got close to outside of her and it still somewhat happens today. We have kids so I guess it's normal to not have any one else outside of her or our siblings and their spouses. But I don't know, maybe I'm looking too deeply into things?

To put it into context she bullied me relentlessly or took part in it throughout school. I came out of it no friends or self esteem then out of the blue, once hs was over she latched onto me. She was really nice then eventually fell in love. Even back then for a good amount of time I was always on edge thinking it was some prank with her friends but I went along with it because I didn't have anyone else. It was the best feeling in the world to just have someone as a friend and to talk too. She's the only friend and relationship I've had in my life. Makes me wonder why she ever chose me or did this to me. Or why she was ever even nice to me all of a sudden. I know she's aware she was extremely cruel to me too back then because she does this dumb thing every now and then she used to do just for a laugh.


Tbh I love her so much but at the same time I feel so guilty venting and thinking about her this way.

>>20962237
I think my brothers wife is a bipolar or a bpd and I don't know how tf to help him.

I think it's something he has tried to keep secret or hide for so long but now they have 3 kids aged 8, 6 and 2.5 it's like she, their household, their relationship is being exposed and it's becoming obvious it's very disordered.

I've helped him out with money over the years since he is the only earner since they got married. Probably over $40k over the years. And that doesn't include the stuff I get their kids on my own accord Yet he has never paid it back (I don't expect it back) despite doing various house upgrades, bought a new SUV, constantly buying new toys. I also recently helped him with $4k for his wife's operation yet isntesd of paying it back, they are again at their spending habit where they got the 8 year old a switch which doesn't ply since he prefers the iPad and he can barely read (Pokemon). On top of more new toys and branded sneakers etc for the kids despite struggling with money. Which is now becoming frustrating.

Then now I'm hearing they are getting a dog despite them seemingly putting in bare effort with raising their kids. They seem very very behind to my sisters kids who are similar age. It's frustrating too because they're getting a staffie which I'm guessing can get violent if bare minimum effort is put into raising/training it .

I can see him getting depressed. Literally playing videogames now, something I never seen him do since hs. Yet he keeps giving in to this impulsive spending despite even my parents helping him out with money giving $100ish a week to help out.

I'm starting to see this guy I looked up to to be very dishonorable and it's disappointing. At the same time I can't just turn my back on him. He doesn't have anyone else (him and my sis don't talk.....over his wife, well more so that she felt some sort of way about changing religions for her and things came out the wrong way because my sister was always frustrated that my parents always accepted my brother's mistakes yet made comments about my sister wanting to get married young despite living the "golden child)

>>20943395
I dress basic like Ben Affleck in gone girl if it counts

Black or grey tee
Or
Blue or white button down
black or faded blue jeans I've had for years
Dr Marten low top or Nike cortez