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>>22050976

Years ago when this case broke out I had no idea how a man can kill his wife and his children along with them but as I get older, and am at the age where I'm seeing marriages and relationships break down, I can understand it.

I still don't agree with what this guy did....but I understand it. I've seen how badly women can push a guy to a point where he basically shuts down from and I think that's exactly what happened to this guy.

You can even tell by just looking at her that she would have been the type where despite getting or giving anything she wanted that there would be relentless nagging. Relentless pushing and prodding that will drive literally anyone insane with such constant abuse. I see this behaviour in a lot of women, even in my own family where I had to pick my uncle up on the street because he was chased out with a knife, yet it was all laughed off and ignored.

What's the solution and why are some women like this? If he was with a better woman, none of this would have happened. It's not the other woman who he had an affair with that made him do it. It was his wife who literally turned him insane that made him do it

>>21473364
Posted about it in the past but I think my brother married a dumbass who has mental health issues.

He's staying with me again and it's kind of sad seeing how frustrated he is saying he is nearly 40 and nothing to show for it and how he is sick of everything and just wants the good life. He doesn't seem to even care about what happens to his kids, he just wants to be free. How do I even try to be supportive? I always knew he seemed kind of frustrated and she has these insane spending habits that he must've been dealing with for the past decade or so.

Apparently he's just sick and tired of her and she doesn't seem to do anything to lighten the load. They were supposed to go on an overseas trip in a few weeks but for some reason the money is gone. She keeps haemoraging money on who knows what and now they're supposed to have some happy family trip but it's gone. She has no budgeting skills and it must be something he has been dealing with throughout their whole marriage. He gets a bonus or promotion and it's almost always gone on trivialities . I think he has fully given up. I think in the start he mostly controlled the money but then always needed to "top up".

Fuck, I know it's not my problem but i just feel so sad for the kids. They're 8, 6 and 3. Even his wife said she's willing to leave the family home and live their her dad but my brother said they need their mother.

The kids already falling behind as their mother doesn't even teach them important things like how to read etc despite being a stay at home mother/wife and my brother is just working all day.

>>21262779
How do I talk to my brother about wtf is going on in his household. He was wanting to come to stay with me again, but didn't end up coming. Its something he did for a few months at the start of the year so I think whatever he is dealing with must be getting really bad as I have suspected it for at least maybe 5 or so years, I think having kids really exposed it as I view her as a subpar mother or at least not prioritising things right.

Im pretty certain his wife has mental health issues (found Seroquel and lamotrigine in his house) and just know there is this insane spending habits out of the blue which is so bizarre. Especially after i helped him with $4k for an operation for his wife. Over the years I've probably helped with nearly $50k over the years and it's frustrating that it doesn't amount to much and he seems to be getting worse. It's like he is getting no support at all from his wife yet she keeps pressuring him and becoming more and more demanding. Yet no matter what big purchase they make or what renovation, it's never enough and she gets bored just as quickly as it's done.

The scarey part is that I'm seeing similar traits in his daughter. Just the frivolous wants then getting bored in a split second. Eg. When at our mothers place she will ask for some cake then one my mother cuts her a slice she is already distracted by something else and wanting a chocolate bar that I might have just pulled out the pantry. Or she will see a stuff at my parents place and be asking my brother rif she can have a stuffed dog then I hear my bro saying she already has one. Not sure if it's a mental illness manifesting in my niece or if it's just learned bahavior from her mother. Its insanity