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>>20216210

This is the most important piece of advice: treat your anxiety and depression right away. Your unique problem synergizes directly with shame and self-pity, and nipping them in the bud will go a long way. try meds that dont have weight gain as a side effect.

start working out or dieting to tone down / even out the "pear shape", idk the specifics and I'm not an expert on that. When it comes to health, do as much as you can sustain to start.

As far as nofap goes, you have to understand that cutting back is a victory, you don't have to stop with anything less being a failure, especially when a psychological dependence is built up from a very young age. Four months is a really big deal for something as incredibly easy to access as porn. That's something to be proud of when usually most committed people can't even last a month. Don't think in terms of relapses wiping away progress, think of it as a massive improvement in times-weekly or -daily. Don't beat yourself up over breaking the streaks either. FFS getting rid of this idea will by itself get rid of one of your "failure states" for self improvement:
>which leads to a porn relapse or severe depression.

Don't go anywhere near a therapist for the spoilered stuff. Assuming you want to control that, and from what you've described, they are most likely to literally try to groom you.
An older man might be able to help with the more common self-image concerns, the ED definitely, and work with you on the anxiety. That will help.
get your testosterone levels checked.

Of the above, maybe try doing two at a time. Meds are passive, they don't count as a chore, get them and start on them. They're not a silver bullet or one-size-fits-all tho and you'll have to have followups for that. If you can afford it try getting therapy weekly for "psychogenic erectile dysfunction". Start counting calories (I found this to be really easy even when I was undiagnosed for ADHD, it's almost gamified on phone apps. Use MyFitnessPro and literally do the best you can, even with rough estimates and inconsistent logging, it is *very helpful and informative*, I cannot overstate that). If you can fit in nofap, do it. When you can't hold back, find some relatively vanilla thing you like and use that. I traded out for a foot fetish personally. Drink more water.

I know exactly how the cope spiral works, but it works the other way around, too. Breaking even one element will weaken the whole chain. building up a few positive elements will actively counter it. Of course it's fucking hard. It's frightening and intimidating but just take it a week at a time or a day at a time, if you gotta.
I guess you don't have to believe me, but please at least take my word that I've normalized my sexuality a lot compared to where it was. I'm not normal, but I'm better. That said, don't expect your dick and brain to magically reorient in a day, after years of fetish

>>20142174
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coonskin_(film)
>Rabbit first goes up against Managan (Frank de Kova), a virulently racist and homophobic police officer and bagman for the Mafia, who demonstrates his contempt for African-Americans in various ways, including a refusal to bathe before an anticipated encounter with them (he believes that they are not worth it). When Managan finds out that Rabbit has been taking his payoffs, he and his cohorts, Ruby (Frank de Kova) and Bobby, are led to a nightclub called "The Cottontail". A black stripper distracts him while an LSD sugar cube is dropped into his drink. Managan, while under the influence of his spiked drink, is then maneuvered into a sexual liaison with a stereotypically effeminate gay man, and then shoved into women's clothing representative of the mammy archetype, adorned in blackface, and shoved out to the back of the club, where he discovers that Ruby and Bobby are dead. While recovering from being drugged, he fires his gun randomly in a fit of madness, and is brutally shot to death by the arriving police (who were either called in or alerted by the gunshots going off) after shooting one of the officers dead in his stupor.

>>19822435

Fukuyama defenders will claim that he wasn't talking about real liberalism at all, just its self-proclaimed manifestation, then turn around the next moment and cite Fukuyama's definitions of liberalism, and arguments in favor of liberalism, which are clearly constructed in the form of a true believer's attempt to systematize and promote their viewpoint.
No, the fact that he was pessimistic about some aspects of liberalism at the end of history doesn't make him a jaded detached structuralist genius. This rhetorical tactic is the equivalent of a radlib socialist claiming that Marx would approve of their intersectional solarpunk gay space fantasy as genuine communism.

methinks it's actually just about appropriating Fukuyama's thesis to claim the apparent dominance of liberalism for oneself, then inflate one's ego by beating down people who can easily be strawmanned and discredited as losers for countering the currently dominant system.
In other words, these threads are an exercise in intellectual masturbation for a few blackpilled egotists by dunking on the average 4channer, as if that isn't the sole province of failed burnouts in itself