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>>22172071
My brother you are quite literally me, I'm also a 25 KHHV, went through the "girl clearly likes you but then says she has a BF" thing and I also went for years feeling like I had no idea where to meet women.

Do not fall for the cliche advice of meeting women at clubs or getting hobbies, women who go out clubbing are slabs and attractive women don't have hobbies.

What's working for me is this: just go outside. Hang out at places where cute girls go as part of their daily lives. Go to the local coffee shop every weekend, go and spend a couple hours reading in the park, take public transport. Basically just put yourself out there in places where there's dozens of girls around you that you could approach if you so wanted to. This solves the first problem of being blackpilled by the feeling of having no opportunities to meet women.

The next issue which you will probably face is realizing that you are a fucking social retard and that your problem was never lack of opportunity but rather crippling autism. You're too nervous to approach women to talk to them because you're terrible at talking to people in general, you feel awkward and out of place talking to women in public because you never talk to people in public at all.

To solve this I'm currently just working on my small talk skills, pic related is an excellent book. I'm just trying to talk to anyone in public when the opportunity arises now, and being more relaxed and socially in tune in public in general. I figure that if I can casually make conversation with random men in public then making conversation with girls is a pretty small step after.

Also you will find you become way more fucking happier in life in general after gaining these skills. I used to think I was a socially anxious introvert but now I'm realizing the only thing I found scary and draining about socializing was the fact that I was so fucking terrible at it and just felt tense all the time. Once you get to the point where you let go and are happy and relaxed in public and can have positive interactions with random people, including girls, you feel so fulfilled it's unreal.